Most people lump m*sturbation and p*rn into one bucket, then stack on rules until the bowstring snaps—and the binge follows. In this episode, Richard Young takes a grace-first look at desire, self-control, and what God actually calls sin. Spoiler: the real issue is objectifying people for selfish ends—not a moment of physical release.

Drawing from a conversation with caring parents, Richard unpacks how shame around sexuality can prime the cycle of escape and numbing—and how lowering the stakes helps many step out of compulsion. You’ll learn:

• How to separate p*rn-driven fantasy from simple physiology
• Why “more rules” often intensify rebounds (and what to do instead)
• A practical, shame-free way to coach yourself—or your kids—toward healthy sexuality
• How stress and anxiety fuel the escape loop, plus a prayerful path to peace

If you’re tired of white-knuckling and ready for clear-conscience living, this conversation will help you trade shame for wisdom and walk in real freedom.

P.S. Keep Justin and Emily in your prayers as they welcome baby #2!

If your freedom hinged on a perfect test score, most of us would be doomed. Good news—it doesn’t. In this episode, Richard and co-host Justin dismantle a viral “SAT success” parable to expose something far bigger: belief shapes behavior. If a lie (a wrong score) can transform a life, how much more can the truth of the gospel rewrite your habits, desires, and outcomes? We walk through Romans 6, laugh at the shame-y scripts that pretend porn still owns you, and trade the “try harder” treadmill for identity-based transformation. You’ll hear the two sneaky lies that quietly prolong a porn habit, the one liberating truth that ends it, and a grace-filled way to process urges without white-knuckling. Listen in, breathe out, and step into what’s already true of you in Christ.

• Why identity (not IQ or willpower) drives lasting behavior change
• The 2 lies that keep you looping: “porn has power over me” and “I actually want it”
• The gospel reframe: “Sin shall not have dominion over you” → how to live that today
• A simple way to process urges without shame, panic, or self-punishment
• How to laugh at old scripts and realign to your new heart

Romans 6:14, Romans 6:17, Colossians 2:15, Ephesians 2:6

If boredom sends you to your phone—and your phone sends you to porn—this episode is your reset. Richard breaks down why there’s no such thing as a “dopamine hit,” how novelty drops your baseline and fuels escalation, and how a few simple shifts can raise your baseline so books, prayer, and family time feel rich again.

You’ll learn:
• Why peaks/novelty lower your dopamine baseline (and motivation)
• How boredom + scrolling quietly funnels you back to porn
• The “turn your phone into a phone” rule that disarms triggers
• Practical resets: no-phone mornings, room-parking your phone, long-form without a second screen
• The gospel frame: dead to sin, alive to God—welcoming urges and answering with truth

We end with a prayer to trade peaks and valleys for steady joy in Jesus. Share this with a friend who says, “I relapse when I’m bored.”

Are “big BUTs” sabotaging your freedom? Not those glutes—the tiny word that sneaks in after truth: “I know I’m free in Christ, but…” In this episode, Richard Young and Justin K. dismantle the sneaky “but” statements that keep you married to an old identity. Drawing from a recent church trip to Texas, they walk through Romans 6, Revelation 1, and Jesus’ “good tree” metaphor in Matthew 7 to show why a healthy tree (you, in Christ) produces good fruit—and how the “but” often reveals the real lie you’re believing.

You’ll hear a live coaching moment where a brother realizes he doesn’t actually believe he’s a “good tree,” why all-or-nothing thinking (hello, 75 Hard) fuels shame and relapse, and how to let good fruit ripen with patience instead of quitting at the first stumble. The episode closes with a hopeful prayer, rooting you again in your union with Jesus.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to spot the “BUT” that’s blocking transformation
• Why identity (“good tree”) precedes behavior (“good fruit”)
• A grace-based way to handle setbacks without starting over
• Practical steps to take thoughts captive and agree with truth

If you’d like Richard & Justin to teach this message at your church or men’s group, DM us. And if this helped, follow the show and share it with a friend who’s ready to retire their “big BUTs.”

In this episode, Richard Young dismantles the myth that freedom should be “easy” if you’re doing it right. If you’ve been looking for a loophole, a hack, or a shame-free shortcut, this conversation reframes the journey: not as trying harder, but as thinking differently—and practicing it daily.

You’ll learn why numbing out is easy in the moment but costly over time, and how to build the resilient, shame-free habits that actually change your life: feeling your feelings, questioning fear, and renewing your mind with truth. Richard breaks down a simple rhythm for processing anxiety with God, taking thoughts captive (2 Cor. 10:5), and being transformed by the renewing of your mind (Rom. 12:2)—even when it’s uncomfortable.

If you’re ready to stop chasing “get-free-quick” and start walking in durable freedom, this one’s for you.

CTA: Grab the free checklist, How to Quit Porn Now: A Freedom Checklist, and DM “SFP” on Instagram to get the link to our next shame-free masterclass.

• Why “make it easier” can become a new form of avoidance
• A simple framework for feeling urges without obeying them
• How to process anxiety with God so peace guards your heart (Phil. 4:7)
• The difference between effort and striving—and how grace fuels practice

On today’s shorter, solo episode of Free From Porn, Richard Young unpacks real questions that came up during a recent 6-hour live coaching weekend in Texas. These aren’t theory questions—these are the ones every man secretly asks:

👉 “What if I still feel tempted?”
👉 “What if my desire goes away… but then comes back?”
👉 “How do I convince my friend porn is bad?”

Here’s the truth: freedom doesn’t mean you’ll never feel temptation again. Even Jesus was tempted. What matters is how you see it—and whether you let shame or grace define your response. Richard explains why temptation isn’t sin, why desire itself isn’t the problem, and why trying to convince someone else to quit will always backfire.

If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m not really free because I still feel tempted”—this episode will change the game for you.

And at the end, Richard shares an exclusive invite to his Shame-Free Path Masterclass happening this Thursday. Normally $27, but for podcast listeners it’s just $5. DM him “SFP” on Instagram to grab your spot.

Most guys think commitment means trying harder, pushing through, and shaming yourself into change. But that kind of “commitment” always burns out. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin unpack why lasting freedom requires a shame-free commitment.

Through personal stories, hilarious analogies (backflips, belly flops, and failed journaling attempts), and biblical truth, they show you how to spot the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in half-hearted attempts—and how to finally go all in without the weight of shame.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “committed to quitting” but secretly only committed to looking like you’re quitting, this conversation will flip the script. Freedom doesn’t come from beating yourself up. It comes from believing the truth of who you are in Christ—and committing from that place of grace.

Welcome to the Free From Porn podcast, where freedom is your new normal. In today’s episode, your host Justin Khoe and co-host Richard Young dive deep into a raw and real conversation about the unexpected, uncomfortable reality of being propositioned in a massage parlor. It’s not a story you hear often, but it highlights a key truth: external circumstances don’t define your integrity.

Justin shares multiple jaw-dropping stories of being propositioned in places he thought were safe spaces, and how he continually chose purity in moments of temptation. Richard joins the conversation to challenge the false narrative that external factors—like women’s clothing or controlling environments—are the key to overcoming lust. Instead, the battle starts inside, and how you choose to see people, not as objects but as image-bearers of God.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The absurdity of outsourcing responsibility for your lust to others.
• Why changing how you view people is the real battle.
• Practical steps to take ownership and steward your thoughts and eyes.

It’s time to stop blaming others and start embracing the transformation of your mind. Tune in for a conversation that will shift your perspective on lust, temptation, and true freedom.

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