Most people lump m*sturbation and p*rn into one bucket, then stack on rules until the bowstring snaps—and the binge follows. In this episode, Richard Young takes a grace-first look at desire, self-control, and what God actually calls sin. Spoiler: the real issue is objectifying people for selfish ends—not a moment of physical release.

Drawing from a conversation with caring parents, Richard unpacks how shame around sexuality can prime the cycle of escape and numbing—and how lowering the stakes helps many step out of compulsion. You’ll learn:

• How to separate p*rn-driven fantasy from simple physiology
• Why “more rules” often intensify rebounds (and what to do instead)
• A practical, shame-free way to coach yourself—or your kids—toward healthy sexuality
• How stress and anxiety fuel the escape loop, plus a prayerful path to peace

If you’re tired of white-knuckling and ready for clear-conscience living, this conversation will help you trade shame for wisdom and walk in real freedom.

P.S. Keep Justin and Emily in your prayers as they welcome baby #2!

If your freedom hinged on a perfect test score, most of us would be doomed. Good news—it doesn’t. In this episode, Richard and co-host Justin dismantle a viral “SAT success” parable to expose something far bigger: belief shapes behavior. If a lie (a wrong score) can transform a life, how much more can the truth of the gospel rewrite your habits, desires, and outcomes? We walk through Romans 6, laugh at the shame-y scripts that pretend porn still owns you, and trade the “try harder” treadmill for identity-based transformation. You’ll hear the two sneaky lies that quietly prolong a porn habit, the one liberating truth that ends it, and a grace-filled way to process urges without white-knuckling. Listen in, breathe out, and step into what’s already true of you in Christ.

• Why identity (not IQ or willpower) drives lasting behavior change
• The 2 lies that keep you looping: “porn has power over me” and “I actually want it”
• The gospel reframe: “Sin shall not have dominion over you” → how to live that today
• A simple way to process urges without shame, panic, or self-punishment
• How to laugh at old scripts and realign to your new heart

Romans 6:14, Romans 6:17, Colossians 2:15, Ephesians 2:6

If boredom sends you to your phone—and your phone sends you to porn—this episode is your reset. Richard breaks down why there’s no such thing as a “dopamine hit,” how novelty drops your baseline and fuels escalation, and how a few simple shifts can raise your baseline so books, prayer, and family time feel rich again.

You’ll learn:
• Why peaks/novelty lower your dopamine baseline (and motivation)
• How boredom + scrolling quietly funnels you back to porn
• The “turn your phone into a phone” rule that disarms triggers
• Practical resets: no-phone mornings, room-parking your phone, long-form without a second screen
• The gospel frame: dead to sin, alive to God—welcoming urges and answering with truth

We end with a prayer to trade peaks and valleys for steady joy in Jesus. Share this with a friend who says, “I relapse when I’m bored.”