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What can we learn from CIA spies about love and relationships?

Former CIA intelligence officer Andrew Bustamante reveals how the same psychological tactics used in espionage can build—or destroy—trust, intimacy, and even family life.

Once a covert CIA operative, Andrew still speaks like a man who may never have fully left the agency… leaving viewers wondering how deep the secrets go.

In this fascinating episode of Desirable, Andrew breaks down how spycraft shapes everything from marriage to parenting—and even how public figures like Charlie Kirk prove we’re all being subtly controlled by information, narrative, and emotional manipulation.

He shares:
✅ How he proposed to his CIA-agent wife through a covert six-month operation
✅ The emotional cost of loving someone trained never to trust
✅ Why he parents like a spy—teaching his kids with “the illusion of choice”
✅ How the CIA recruits through trauma, loyalty & validation needs
✅ Why intelligence isn’t fact—it’s probability—and how that controls public thinking
✅ The truth about conspiracies, propaganda & mass persuasion
✅ The two spy tools that can strengthen any relationship: perspective-shifting & curiosity
✅ What real emotional security looks like when you’ve been trained to lie for a living

This is a rare look inside both the human and psychological side of espionage—and what it can teach us about love, control, and raising the next generation.

Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:51 The Proposal Story
14:29 Challenges of Marriage and Parenthood
24:04 Understanding Human Behavior
26:12 The Three Lives Concept
32:45 Parenting with CIA Insights
34:06 Non-Traditional Parenting Choices
35:25 The Illusion of Choice
35:41 Deciding to Homeschool
36:20 Challenges with Traditional Schooling
38:52 CIA Training and Breaking the System
43:57 The Impact of Father Figures
48:15 CIA Recruitment and Loyalty
01:00:29 The Culture of Silent Professionals
01:09:52 Personal Safety and Family Concerns
01:10:09 Navigating Public Exposure and Security Measures
01:13:25 The Reality of Intelligence Work
01:15:27 The Anatomy of a Conspiracy
01:18:12 Cultural Observations and Political Divisions
01:36:19 CIA Tools for Relationship Building
01:41:39 Concluding Thoughts on Relationships and Personal Growth

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💜 Website: https://saraalmadani.com

Dr. Sara Al Madani has survived narcissistic abuse, built 9 businesses, raised her son as a single mother, and written a book that says it all: Dear Narcissist, F*** You.

On Desirable, she opens up about the price of authenticity, the power of healing, and why self-love is the foundation for real confidence, parenting, and relationships.

In this powerful conversation, Sara shares:
✅ Why entrepreneurial success comes from healing, not hustle
✅ How she balances masculine energy in business with feminine in love
✅ Radical parenting lessons from raising her son with honesty and respect
✅ The hidden cost of narcissistic relationships and how to break trauma bonds
✅ Why forgiveness is freedom, not weakness
✅ Her unapologetic take on Real Housewives and using the platform to spread truth
✅ Why being hated is the ultimate proof of authenticity

This is a roadmap to healing, reclaiming self-worth, and daring to live as your truest self!

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction: Redefining Parenthood
00:25 Meet Sara Al Madani: A Modern Emirati Woman
00:46 Struggles and Triumphs in Love
01:19 The Journey of Forgiveness
01:58 Surprising News and Future Plans
02:37 Balancing Business and Motherhood
03:08 Challenging Societal Norms
04:57 Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies
11:00 Raising Children with Honesty and Independence
15:34 Facing Criticism and Staying Authentic
25:34 Surviving Narcissistic Relationships
35:49 Understanding Narcissism
36:22 Self-Reflection and Growth
37:59 The Power of Solitude
48:31 The Journey of Forgiveness
01:01:24 The Importance of Self-Investment
01:05:03 Navigating Reality TV with Spirituality

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💜 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charlie/

💜 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@charlierocketofficial/videos

💜 Dream Machine: https://www.instagram.com/dreammachine/

What would you call someone who walks away from millions in the music industry… at the height of success… to chase an “impossible” dream?

Delusional? Correct.
But also inspiring? Absolutely.

For Charlie Rocket, the answer was simple: believe bigger.

Grammy-winning music manager turned Emmy-winning athlete, philanthropist, and dreamer, Charlie embodies what he calls “delusional optimism.”

He’s proof that belief creates reality, and that setbacks are just setups for something greater.

In this electrifying episode of Desirable, Charlie opens up about:
✅ Manifesting a Nike commercial with LeBron James and Serena Williams after creating his own ad for $660
✅ Walking away from fame, money, and music at 300 pounds with a brain tumor
✅ Reinventing himself again and again: athlete, CEO, philanthropist
✅ Why words are spells and how to reprogram identity with superhero names
✅ Turning heartbreak, rejection, and “crazy” labels into fuel for belief
✅ The power of service: helping others make their dreams come true first
✅ Finding love, health, and fulfillment beyond success

It’s living proof that dreams are real the moment you decide to believe!

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 The Vegas Incident: A Shocking Encounter with Soulja Boy
00:20 Charlie Rocket's Rise in the Music Industry
00:46 A Life-Changing Vision: From Music Mogul to Nike Athlete
02:32 The Power of Belief and Overcoming Adversity
04:42 The Journey of Reinvention: From Manager to Athlete
07:31 The Turning Point: Health Scare and New Beginnings
08:38 Manifesting Dreams: The Nike Commercial Vision
15:18 The Search for a Videographer: A Stroke of Luck
54:49 The Creative Vision: PVC Pipe and Anamorphic Lens
55:56 Unexpected Call from Nike
56:47 Nike's New Direction
58:49 The Dream Crazy Commercial
59:33 Reflecting on the Journey
01:01:39 Believing in Yourself
01:03:56 Overcoming Childhood Doubts
01:11:25 The Power of Vulnerability
01:15:39 Chasing Dreams and Finding Love
01:21:35 The Importance of Transparency
01:25:01 Celebrating Love and Relationships
01:38:28 The Impact of Social Media
01:42:37 Dream Big: The Notebook

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