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Why do so many of us repeat the same painful relationship patterns... no matter how hard we try to change?

In this episode of Desirable, Attachment Styles Expert Kirby Fling breaks down the science of attachment, the role of trauma in shaping memory, and practical tools for rewiring our patterns in love, parenting, and even the workplace.

With an engineer’s mindset and years of study, he reveals how early childhood wounds echo through our adult lives and how to finally break free!

You’ll learn:
✅ Why attachment is more than four rigid labels and how anxious and avoidant behaviors overlap
✅ The five pillars of secure attachment every child, partner, and employee needs
✅ How trauma erases memory and hardwires autopilot stress responses
✅ Why repair after conflict matters more than avoiding conflict altogether
✅ Practical tools like the “Ideal Parent Figure Protocol” for rewiring insecure attachment
✅ Why self-work, humility, and autonomy are the foundation of healthy love
✅ How to use dating as a vetting process, not a validation loop

Kirby’s approach is a roadmap to healing yourself, parenting consciously, and building relationships that last.

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction: Understanding Love and Relationships
00:38 Steps to Self-Discovery in Relationships
01:10 The Role of Validation and Transactional Relationships
02:14 The Importance of Early Dating Dynamics
05:13 Attachment Styles and Their Impact
26:52 The Five Pillars of Attachment
42:53 Building Emotional Resilience
43:45 Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPF)
44:37 Rewiring the Nervous System
46:11 Creating New Emotional Memories
47:27 The Power of Secure Attachment
56:01 The Role of Emotions in Learning
01:00:14 The Importance of Social Status
01:04:36 Emotional Expression and Cultural Norms
01:10:27 Navigating Emotional Vulnerability in Relationships
01:17:18 Interactive Segment: Relationship Advice
01:25:23 Final Thoughts on Self-Relationship

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What can we learn from CIA spies about love and relationships?

Former CIA intelligence officer Andrew Bustamante reveals how the same psychological tactics used in espionage can build—or destroy—trust, intimacy, and even family life.

Once a covert CIA operative, Andrew still speaks like a man who may never have fully left the agency… leaving viewers wondering how deep the secrets go.

In this fascinating episode of Desirable, Andrew breaks down how spycraft shapes everything from marriage to parenting—and even how public figures like Charlie Kirk prove we’re all being subtly controlled by information, narrative, and emotional manipulation.

He shares:
✅ How he proposed to his CIA-agent wife through a covert six-month operation
✅ The emotional cost of loving someone trained never to trust
✅ Why he parents like a spy—teaching his kids with “the illusion of choice”
✅ How the CIA recruits through trauma, loyalty & validation needs
✅ Why intelligence isn’t fact—it’s probability—and how that controls public thinking
✅ The truth about conspiracies, propaganda & mass persuasion
✅ The two spy tools that can strengthen any relationship: perspective-shifting & curiosity
✅ What real emotional security looks like when you’ve been trained to lie for a living

This is a rare look inside both the human and psychological side of espionage—and what it can teach us about love, control, and raising the next generation.

Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:51 The Proposal Story
14:29 Challenges of Marriage and Parenthood
24:04 Understanding Human Behavior
26:12 The Three Lives Concept
32:45 Parenting with CIA Insights
34:06 Non-Traditional Parenting Choices
35:25 The Illusion of Choice
35:41 Deciding to Homeschool
36:20 Challenges with Traditional Schooling
38:52 CIA Training and Breaking the System
43:57 The Impact of Father Figures
48:15 CIA Recruitment and Loyalty
01:00:29 The Culture of Silent Professionals
01:09:52 Personal Safety and Family Concerns
01:10:09 Navigating Public Exposure and Security Measures
01:13:25 The Reality of Intelligence Work
01:15:27 The Anatomy of a Conspiracy
01:18:12 Cultural Observations and Political Divisions
01:36:19 CIA Tools for Relationship Building
01:41:39 Concluding Thoughts on Relationships and Personal Growth

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Dr. Sara Al Madani has survived narcissistic abuse, built 9 businesses, raised her son as a single mother, and written a book that says it all: Dear Narcissist, F*** You.

On Desirable, she opens up about the price of authenticity, the power of healing, and why self-love is the foundation for real confidence, parenting, and relationships.

In this powerful conversation, Sara shares:
✅ Why entrepreneurial success comes from healing, not hustle
✅ How she balances masculine energy in business with feminine in love
✅ Radical parenting lessons from raising her son with honesty and respect
✅ The hidden cost of narcissistic relationships and how to break trauma bonds
✅ Why forgiveness is freedom, not weakness
✅ Her unapologetic take on Real Housewives and using the platform to spread truth
✅ Why being hated is the ultimate proof of authenticity

This is a roadmap to healing, reclaiming self-worth, and daring to live as your truest self!

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction: Redefining Parenthood
00:25 Meet Sara Al Madani: A Modern Emirati Woman
00:46 Struggles and Triumphs in Love
01:19 The Journey of Forgiveness
01:58 Surprising News and Future Plans
02:37 Balancing Business and Motherhood
03:08 Challenging Societal Norms
04:57 Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies
11:00 Raising Children with Honesty and Independence
15:34 Facing Criticism and Staying Authentic
25:34 Surviving Narcissistic Relationships
35:49 Understanding Narcissism
36:22 Self-Reflection and Growth
37:59 The Power of Solitude
48:31 The Journey of Forgiveness
01:01:24 The Importance of Self-Investment
01:05:03 Navigating Reality TV with Spirituality

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What would you call someone who walks away from millions in the music industry… at the height of success… to chase an “impossible” dream?

Delusional? Correct.
But also inspiring? Absolutely.

For Charlie Rocket, the answer was simple: believe bigger.

Grammy-winning music manager turned Emmy-winning athlete, philanthropist, and dreamer, Charlie embodies what he calls “delusional optimism.”

He’s proof that belief creates reality, and that setbacks are just setups for something greater.

In this electrifying episode of Desirable, Charlie opens up about:
✅ Manifesting a Nike commercial with LeBron James and Serena Williams after creating his own ad for $660
✅ Walking away from fame, money, and music at 300 pounds with a brain tumor
✅ Reinventing himself again and again: athlete, CEO, philanthropist
✅ Why words are spells and how to reprogram identity with superhero names
✅ Turning heartbreak, rejection, and “crazy” labels into fuel for belief
✅ The power of service: helping others make their dreams come true first
✅ Finding love, health, and fulfillment beyond success

It’s living proof that dreams are real the moment you decide to believe!

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 The Vegas Incident: A Shocking Encounter with Soulja Boy
00:20 Charlie Rocket's Rise in the Music Industry
00:46 A Life-Changing Vision: From Music Mogul to Nike Athlete
02:32 The Power of Belief and Overcoming Adversity
04:42 The Journey of Reinvention: From Manager to Athlete
07:31 The Turning Point: Health Scare and New Beginnings
08:38 Manifesting Dreams: The Nike Commercial Vision
15:18 The Search for a Videographer: A Stroke of Luck
54:49 The Creative Vision: PVC Pipe and Anamorphic Lens
55:56 Unexpected Call from Nike
56:47 Nike's New Direction
58:49 The Dream Crazy Commercial
59:33 Reflecting on the Journey
01:01:39 Believing in Yourself
01:03:56 Overcoming Childhood Doubts
01:11:25 The Power of Vulnerability
01:15:39 Chasing Dreams and Finding Love
01:21:35 The Importance of Transparency
01:25:01 Celebrating Love and Relationships
01:38:28 The Impact of Social Media
01:42:37 Dream Big: The Notebook

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🎙️ “You cannot convince me that Winston satisfies Mayfair’s needs…”

That’s the kind of comment Winston & Mayfair Clements have faced ever since their engagement photos went viral. Instead of congratulations, strangers questioned their love, their intimacy, even their ability to raise children.

But here’s the truth: Winston has survived over 200 bone fractures from brittle bone disease — and turned that challenge into a platform for impact. Together, he and Mayfair have built a marriage, a family, and a mission that proves love truly knows no limits.

In this powerful episode of Desirable, Winston & Mayfair open up about:
✅ Facing viral scrutiny with humor and resilience
✅ Navigating intimacy and communication in an inter-abled marriage
✅ Raising their daughter while blending travel, purpose, and faith
✅ Redefining what it means to support each other’s hearts
✅ Building a legacy of compassion and inclusion

This is one of the most inspiring love stories we’ve ever shared — and we hope it makes you believe in love again, too. ❤️

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction and Mission of the Podcast
00:39 How We Fell in Love: Two Versions
02:38 Building a Relationship and Community
08:01 Family Reactions and Acceptance
11:47 Dealing with Public Perception and Negativity
20:39 Pursuing Dreams and Career Changes
31:33 Parenting and Maintaining Intimacy
39:46 The Importance of Therapy and Counseling
40:52 The Decision to Seek Counseling
41:27 The Role of Spiritual Guidance
43:28 Maintaining Connection in a Busy Life
46:33 Understanding Brittle Bone Disease
47:48 Faith and Overcoming Challenges
51:13 Parenting and Inclusivity
54:13 The Importance of Community
56:55 Men and Emotional Responsibility
01:00:32 Navigating Postpartum Challenges
01:04:46 Disability and Social Interactions
01:16:44 Choosing to Have Children
01:19:29 Believing in Love Again
01:23:00 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

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Are you truly prepared for a lifelong commitment? How can you survive your own trauma to still find The One?

For the first time ever after years of being known as the faces of a viral social media channel, newly-married couple Sonya Love and Agon Love sit down to reveal the raw, unfiltered truth about their relationship!

From waiting 6 months before getting intimate, confronting childhood trauma, to even postponing their wedding, this is the side of their love story you’ve never seen.

They open up about:
✅ Why they almost canceled their wedding
✅ The real reason they said “I do” alone
✅ Childhood trauma, toxic relationships, and how healing shaped their love
✅ Why they waited 6 months before having sex and what it taught them
✅ Fears about parenthood and breaking cycles from their families

Join us for this heartfelt conversation that will make you believe in love again!

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Wedding and Podcast Introduction
01:09 Our Unique Wedding Plans
03:13 The Importance of Choosing the Right Partner
04:07 Overcoming a Troubled Past
06:45 The Journey to Self-Love and Healthy Relationships
14:27 Advice for Those in Toxic Relationships
19:30 The Beginnings of Our Love Story
20:08 Meeting During COVID: Our First Date
37:30 Navigating Early Relationship Challenges
38:55 Ego and Insecurities in Love
40:26 Building a Strong Foundation
42:45 Parenthood: A New Chapter
44:56 Fears and Realizations About Parenting
50:24 Balancing Parenthood and Partnership
59:04 Viewer Segment: Am I the Asshole?
01:06:40 Embracing Past Relationships
01:15:34 Looking Forward to Marriage

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