FEELING GUILTY FOR JUST SURVIVING? This episode reveals why coping mode isn't failing, the critical difference between coping and healing, and why accepting where you are is what actually creates change.

If you're beating yourself up for not healing fast enough or wondering why you can't just get over this already, I need you to hear this: Coping mode is not a failure. It's not something you need to rush out of. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is accept exactly where we are right now - without making it wrong.

This honest conversation explores how to know which mode you're in, how to support yourself in different seasons without shame, and why resistance keeps us stuck while acceptance creates transformation.

What you'll discover:

- Why coping mode is information, not failure, and how our culture makes us shame survival

- The critical difference between coping (getting through) and healing (transforming)

- How to know which mode you're in right now with honest self-assessment questions

- Why fighting where you are costs you emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually

- The real cost of adding shame on top of survival

- How to support yourself in coping mode without judgment

- When you're ready for healing mode - and why you can't force that readiness

- Why acceptance (not force) is the bridge between coping and healing

- How resistance keeps you stuck and surrender creates space for change

Powerful Quotes:

"Coping is about survival. It's about getting through. And there is nothing wrong with that."

"The problem isn't coping. The problem is when we shame ourselves for being in coping mode."

"When we resist where we are, we stay stuck. When we accept where we are, we create the possibility for movement."

"The bridge between coping and healing is built on acceptance, not force."

"You can't force the transition from coping to healing. You can only create the conditions for it by accepting where you are right now."

Timestamps:

00:00 If you're feeling guilty for just surviving

01:40 What coping and healing actually mean

04:22 How to know which mode you're in

06:47 What happens when we fight coping mode

10:10 How to support yourself in different modes

14:06 The bridge between coping and healing: acceptance

16:14 You're exactly where you need to be

This episode is for you if:

- You're beating yourself up for not healing faster

- You feel guilty for just trying to survive instead of thrive

- You're in coping mode and making it wrong

- You want to understand the difference between survival and transformation

- You're ready to stop fighting yourself and start accepting where you are

Join the conversation:

Share this with someone who's struggling to accept the season they're in. Which mode are you in right now -coping or healing? Follow the show on Apple or Spotify and leave a rating so more people can find permission to be exactly where they are.

Remember: Wherever you are today -coping, healing, or somewhere in between: you're exactly where you need to be.

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