If you already know you’re stuck in a negative mindset and you’re tired of trying to fake your way into a better one, this episode gives you a tool that actually helps. I’m walking you through the exact method I use with my clients to start rewiring your mind, shifting your emotions, and taking real action, without toxic positivity or fake affirmations.

This is the framework that helped me get out of a constant negativity, self-judgment, and emotional reactivity.

I break down how your thoughts, emotions, and actions are all connected, and how to shift your internal patterns in a way that actually sticks.

Here’s what’s in this episode:

• Why telling yourself to “just stop being negative” never works
• What to do instead if you’re stuck in toxic negativity
• How thoughts, emotions, and actions reinforce each other
• What to focus on when you can’t change your external situation
• How to use my TEA Chart to map your current mindset and shift it
• Two client examples that show how a small mindset shift changes everything
• Why your brain will reject certain thoughts
• What to do when your emotions hit before your thoughts do

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It includes a full breakdown, real examples, and a blank version you can use for yourself.

This episode won’t fix your whole life, but it will show you how to start shifting the parts you actually have control over: your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions.

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If you're a high-earning woman wondering "why can't I save money," you're not alone. The women and money conversation rarely addresses what happens when you're smart, educated, and still struggling financially.

In this episode, financial coach Sandra Park and I share the money mindset shifts that finally helped us stop overspending and start building wealth.

We get brutally honest about our own money mistakes: my near-daily Amazon orders during my time at Amazon, Sandra's multiple real estate moves, and the "I deserve this" mentality that kept us both stuck.

Sandra shares why women in STEM and other high-pressure careers often struggle with money despite their intelligence and education. We talk about why we outsourced our financial decisions to the men in our lives, the mental load that keeps women from learning financial systems, and what actually works when you're ready to take control.

Topics covered:

• Why making more money often leads to more money problems
• The "keeping up with the Joneses" trap in corporate environments
• Retail therapy, stress spending, and the entitlement mindset
• How women outsource financial decisions (and why we need to stop)
• The mental load difference and why women want simpler finances
• Sandra's order of operations for getting your money right
• The spending category that destroys most budgets
• One 30-day exercise that changes everything
• When to get help instead of figuring it out alone

Connect with Sandra Park: Website | LinkedIn: Sandra Park | Engineer Her Path Podcast

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Fear has many faces. Procrastination disguised as learning is one of the biggest traps holding smart, capable people back. If you’ve been bingeing courses, reading books, and calling it “growth”...but not taking action, this episode breaks down exactly why you’re stuck and how to get out.

I’m sharing my story of how I left my job at Amazon to start a photography business… and then spent two years doing everything except building that business. I was completely paralyzed by imposter syndrome always telling myself I just needed one more class, one more tutorial, one more certification.

Here’s what I get into:

• The difference between what most of us call learning and the real learning loop
• How perfectionism and fear turn learning into procrastination
• Why endless prep feels productive — but keeps you stuck
• What finally snapped me out of the cycle (and what might help you too)
• A mindset shift that helps you move from theory to action, even when it’s uncomfortable

If you’ve been putting in the work but still not making progress, or if you're tired of the illusion of productivity, listen to this episode.

This is a production of Jule Kim, © 2026.

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Why success feels empty. Imposter syndrome, self-worth, and achievement letdown do not disappear when you succeed.

In this episode, I talk about what it is like to finish something big - self-love affirmation cards - and still not feel proud, confident, or successful.

A few years ago, I worked with Penguin Random House to create self-love affirmation cards. The process forced me to confront imposter syndrome after success, the gap between external achievement and internal self-trust, and why success does not automatically make you feel better about yourself.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Imposter syndrome after success and achievement letdown
• Why success does not fix self-worth or self-trust
• How I really feel about affirmations
• Editing conflict and protecting your creative voice
• Power dynamics in publishing and being afraid to push back
• What I learned about book deals, contracts, and agents
• Launching something publicly and still feeling conflicted
• Learning how to take a win without minimizing it

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In this deeply personal year-end reflection podcast, I’m sharing the truth about what it was like to live through the hardest year of my life. If you're navigating grief, burnout, chronic illness, or financial stress right now, this episode may feel like a mirror.

2025 wasn’t a highlight reel. I cut ties with my closest friend. I lost my brother unexpectedly. My dad was hospitalized. I was sick on and off for most of the year. And my business barely stayed afloat.

This episode is about what happens when everything falls apart and you're still expected to keep going.

I’m not offering polished lessons or silver linings. Instead, I’m talking openly about:

• Why I stayed too long in a toxic friendship
• What grief really looked like after losing my brother
• The pressure of being the strong one in a family crisis
• How financial obligations forced me to work through exhaustion
• What I wish I had done differently, and why I’m not beating myself up for it

If you're looking for a real conversation about emotional resilience, mental health, and healing during hard seasons, this one’s for you. My only goal is that you feel seen.

I may not have all the answers, but I’m still here. And if you’re listening, so are you.

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If you struggle with consistency, habit building, or following through on goals—especially if you have ADHD or feel like traditional goal setting doesn’t work for you—this episode is for you.

I’m talking about habits, routines, and why I spent years starting things and quietly stopping, even when I really wanted change.

This episode comes from my own experience with ADHD, autism, and struggling with goals and consistency in a way I couldn’t explain.

For a long time, I assumed the issue was discipline. Or motivation. Or that I just hadn’t found the right program yet. So I kept researching, prepping, planning, and trying again—without ever really moving forward.

In this episode, I’m sharing the pattern I didn’t see for years and how my relationship with habits, routines, and consistency started to change once I understood myself better.

If you’ve ever felt stuck with the same goals year after year, or frustrated that you can start things but can’t seem to make them last, this conversation will probably feel familiar.

This is what actually helped me move out of that guilty churn where I always felt like a failure, and why doing things the “right” way was never the thing that worked for me.

Topics in this episode:

• Consistency and habit building
• Goal setting that doesn’t stick
• ADHD, autism, and follow‑through
• Why routines break down
• Resistance and overthinking
• Identity and long‑term change

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If you’ve ever caught yourself making a decision that felt off—like it came from a place of fear, proving yourself, or ego, this episode is for you. I’m joined by my very first guest on the podcast, the incredible podcast visibility coach Chardét Ryel: host of Feel Good Nakd and Her First Three Years.

We talk about what ego-driven decisions really look like, how burnout shows up, and why proving yourself is one of the fastest paths to exhaustion. We also talk about what changes when you stop leading with hustle and start building around balance and alignment instead.

Chardét reveals what shifted for her after 12 years as an entrepreneur: the one change she made this year, what happened when she finally dropped the pressure, and how creating from intention instead of fear has made everything feel lighter.

If you’re feeling burned out, low-key resentful, or just ready to stop grinding your way through business or life, this conversation will speak to you. It’s fun, honest, a little spicy in places—and full of moments that will make you pause and reflect. Sometimes the biggest shift starts with a single question: What if I just stopped doing the thing that drains me the most?

This is one of those episodes you’ll want to revisit whenever things feel heavy.

Hit play and let’s talk about what it really means to build from a place of alignment instead of fear, ego, or self-hate.

Topics Discussed in the Episode:

• What ego-driven decisions look like in business and life
• Why “proving yourself” is a recipe for burnout
• How to know if you’re operating from fear, not alignment
• Setting boundaries when you’re burned out and overextended
• Communication dynamics when working with men vs. women
• The difference between surrender and being passive
• How to build a business around the life you actually want

Ways to Support This Podcast:

• Share this episode with a friend who's burned out or stuck in hustle mode.
• Follow the podcast to catch future episodes on mindset, communication, and real growth.

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Healthy emotional processing is more than just “feeling your feelings” - it’s a critical skill most of us were never taught. If you’ve ever rushed to fix a problem because that's what you thought you were supposed to do, or found yourself repeating the same emotional cycles, this episode will show you why.

I’m unpacking what happens when you skip emotional reflection and go straight into problem-solving, how emotional repression shows up, and why it backfires over time.

You’ll learn how to start recognizing your emotional responses more clearly and how to stop being ruled by them.

This conversation is especially for you if:

• You overthink but still feel stuck
• You avoid confrontation to keep the peace
• Your emotions often feel “too much” or out of control
• You want to feel more emotionally grounded and in control

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