If you already know you’re stuck in a negative mindset and you’re tired of trying to fake your way into a better one, this episode gives you a tool that actually helps. I’m walking you through the exact method I use with my clients to start rewiring your mind, shifting your emotions, and taking real action, without toxic positivity or fake affirmations.

This is the framework that helped me get out of a constant negativity, self-judgment, and emotional reactivity.

I break down how your thoughts, emotions, and actions are all connected, and how to shift your internal patterns in a way that actually sticks.

Here’s what’s in this episode:

• Why telling yourself to “just stop being negative” never works
• What to do instead if you’re stuck in toxic negativity
• How thoughts, emotions, and actions reinforce each other
• What to focus on when you can’t change your external situation
• How to use my TEA Chart to map your current mindset and shift it
• Two client examples that show how a small mindset shift changes everything
• Why your brain will reject certain thoughts
• What to do when your emotions hit before your thoughts do

Want the free tool I use in this episode?
Download TEA Chart here.

It includes a full breakdown, real examples, and a blank version you can use for yourself.

This episode won’t fix your whole life, but it will show you how to start shifting the parts you actually have control over: your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions.

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If you're a high-earning woman wondering "why can't I save money," you're not alone. The women and money conversation rarely addresses what happens when you're smart, educated, and still struggling financially.

In this episode, financial coach Sandra Park and I share the money mindset shifts that finally helped us stop overspending and start building wealth.

We get brutally honest about our own money mistakes: my near-daily Amazon orders during my time at Amazon, Sandra's multiple real estate moves, and the "I deserve this" mentality that kept us both stuck.

Sandra shares why women in STEM and other high-pressure careers often struggle with money despite their intelligence and education. We talk about why we outsourced our financial decisions to the men in our lives, the mental load that keeps women from learning financial systems, and what actually works when you're ready to take control.

Topics covered:

• Why making more money often leads to more money problems
• The "keeping up with the Joneses" trap in corporate environments
• Retail therapy, stress spending, and the entitlement mindset
• How women outsource financial decisions (and why we need to stop)
• The mental load difference and why women want simpler finances
• Sandra's order of operations for getting your money right
• The spending category that destroys most budgets
• One 30-day exercise that changes everything
• When to get help instead of figuring it out alone

Connect with Sandra Park: Website | LinkedIn: Sandra Park | Engineer Her Path Podcast

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Fear has many faces. Procrastination disguised as learning is one of the biggest traps holding smart, capable people back. If you’ve been bingeing courses, reading books, and calling it “growth”...but not taking action, this episode breaks down exactly why you’re stuck and how to get out.

I’m sharing my story of how I left my job at Amazon to start a photography business… and then spent two years doing everything except building that business. I was completely paralyzed by imposter syndrome always telling myself I just needed one more class, one more tutorial, one more certification.

Here’s what I get into:

• The difference between what most of us call learning and the real learning loop
• How perfectionism and fear turn learning into procrastination
• Why endless prep feels productive — but keeps you stuck
• What finally snapped me out of the cycle (and what might help you too)
• A mindset shift that helps you move from theory to action, even when it’s uncomfortable

If you’ve been putting in the work but still not making progress, or if you're tired of the illusion of productivity, listen to this episode.

This is a production of Jule Kim, © 2026.

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