Most people think confidence comes from success.

In reality, confidence comes from self-trust—and most people never learn how to build it.

In this episode of The Mark Divine Show, Mark sits down with Shadé Zahrai, award-winning leadership strategist, Harvard-trained researcher, and author of Big Trust.

Together, they unpack why:

Self-doubt is not the enemy—it’s a signal

- Psychological safety fails when people don’t trust themselves

- Waiting to “feel confident” keeps people stuck

- Inner critics sabotage leadership, performance, and relationships

- True confidence is built through trust, not validation

Shadé introduces her Big Trust framework, breaking down:

- The four core traits that shape self-image

- The internal archetypes that quietly run your behavior

- How to turn doubt into data instead of self-sabotage

- Why self-trust must come before action, not after

- Practical tools to quiet the inner critic and lead with clarity

This conversation bridges neuroscience, leadership psychology, and lived experience to help you stop outsourcing your worth—and start trusting yourself under pressure.

If you’ve ever felt capable but hesitant, accomplished but unsure, or driven but internally conflicted—this episode will give you language, structure, and tools to change that.

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Website: https://www.shadezahrai.com/

Book: https://www.shadezahrai.com/bigtrust

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: Journey into Big Trust

00:44 Join The Unbeatable Tribe

02:04 Meet Dr. Sade Rai

03:20 The Path to Leadership and Performance Psychology

07:11 The Role of Self-Doubt and Trust

12:10 Understanding Self-Image and Core Self-Evaluations

20:47 The Four Archetypes of Self-Doubt

31:55 Visualizing and Reclaiming Ownership

32:30 Personal Example of Managing Thoughts

33:24 Understanding the Root Cause

35:15 The WIRM Process

38:29 The Story of the Golden Buddha

42:04 Building Self-Esteem and Agency

46:21 The Power of Hope and Emotional Adaptability

52:19 Addressing the Victimizer Archetype

56:49 Practical Steps to Develop Trust

01:01:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Most people believe insight alone creates transformation.

But insight without daily practice fades—and self-sabotage takes over.

In this episode of The Mark Divine Show, Mark sits down with Shirzad Chamine, New York Times bestselling author of Positive Intelligence and one of the world’s leading experts on mental fitness, leadership performance, and mindset mastery.

Shirzad shares his journey from a traumatic childhood marked by generational rage and depression to building a globally recognized framework used by Fortune 100 companies, Stanford faculty, and over two million leaders worldwide.

Together, they unpack:

- Why high performers sabotage themselves under pressure

-The 10 mental “Saboteurs” that destroy wellbeing, performance, and relationships

- Why workshops and motivation don’t create lasting change

- How to rewire the brain through short, daily mental fitness practices

- The difference between insight and transformation

- How to shift from fear-based reactions to calm, focused, purposeful action

This conversation bridges neuroscience, leadership, spirituality, and practical tools you can use in the middle of real life, not just in meditation or reflection.

If you want more clarity, resilience, and control over how you show up under stress—this episode gives you a repeatable system to build it.

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Inspirational Quote:

“Most feelings of stress, anxiety, frustration, disappointment, regret, and guilt are the direct results of judging yourself, others, situations, or outcomes.” - Shirzad Chamine

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Timestamps:

00:00 Growing Up in Tehran: A Story of Poverty and Fear

00:56 The Unbeatable Leader Challenge: Transform Your Mind

01:22 Welcome to the Mark Divine Show

01:44 Introducing Shazad Shain: A Journey of Positive Intelligence

02:29 Shazad's Early Life: Overcoming Fear and Depression

06:03 The Whisper That Guided Shazad's Life

08:03 The Importance of Daily Practices for Transformation

09:25 The Unbeatable Tribe: Whole Person Integration

13:08 Understanding Mental Fitness and Emotional Resiliency

14:55 Shazad's Pivotal Moment: From Visionary Leader to Humiliation

18:12 Discovering the Saboteurs: Fear-Based Voices

27:16 The Universality of Saboteurs Across Cultures

29:08 Identifying and Managing Your Saboteurs

32:47 Identifying and Understanding Saboteurs

33:14 Introducing the Sage and Its Superpowers

35:15 Three-Step Process to Combat Saboteurs

38:13 The WIRM Process and Rewiring the Brain

41:18 Practical Techniques for Mindfulness and Self-Command

46:20 Visualization Techniques for Compassion and Healing

50:50 Sage Perspective and the Power of Positive Intelligence

56:47 Scaling Positive Intelligence Through Technology

01:02:31 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Mark Divine and Bill Murphy share insights on cultivating a warrior mindset and building mental toughness, essential for effective leadership strategies. This episode explores the principles of navy seal leadership and how to embrace resilience training. Discover how to integrate high performance habits into your daily routine for personal and professional growth, aligning with the unbeatable mind philosophy.

Bill shares how his worst business year in nearly three decades forced a deeper internal reckoning—and why pursuing extreme physical challenges, including seven marathons on seven continents in seven days, became a catalyst for inner transformation rather than ego-driven achievement.

This conversation goes far beyond endurance sports.

Together, they explore:

-Why most goals fail without a strong emotional “why”

-How to build a bag of whys that sustains commitment under pressure

-The mental frameworks that eliminate quitting without suppressing emotion

-How breath control, mindset, micro-goals, and service to others work together

-Why growth requires both individual strength and team connection

-The difference between suffering that builds you and suffering that breaks you

If you’re a leader, entrepreneur, or high performer navigating uncertainty—and you’re looking for a grounded way to stay disciplined, purposeful, and resilient—this episode provides a clear, actionable path forward.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: bubsnaturals.com Code: Unbeatable

01:13 Guest Introduction: Bill Murphy

01:38 Bill's Athletic Achievements

01:50 The Great World Race: 7 Marathons on 7 Continents

03:09 Mental and Physical Challenges of the Race

08:03 Training and Preparation Insights

12:04 Reflections on the Experience

18:46 Leadership and Mental Toughness

23:37 Understanding the 'Big I' and 'Little i'

24:19 The Importance of Knowing Your 'Why'

25:57 Heart vs. Ego in Overcoming Challenges

27:05 The Power of Teamwork and Character in SEAL Training

28:43 Balancing Individualism and Teamwork

31:17 Transforming Through Training and Resilience

37:40 Setting Goals and the FITS Model

46:09 The Importance of Continuous Challenges

48:58 Concluding Thoughts on Growth and Discipline

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