Depression creates a profound disconnect in relationships that can feel impossible to bridge. The path from where you are to where you want to be might seem unclear or overwhelming—but what if crossing that distance requires just one step at a time?

In this illuminating episode, I share the invitation that concludes each of my podcasts—an invitation many listeners may miss but that contains the most transformative message for anyone impacted by depression. By understanding how our nervous systems function during depression, we can break free from the harmful "just try harder" mentality that keeps us stuck.

I reveal how the dorsal vagal state—our body's shutdown response—operates through slower, unmyelinated nerves that make emerging from depression biologically challenging. This isn't a character flaw; it's neuroscience. By asking a simple question—"Do I need rest, or do I need to take one small step?"—we can honor what our nervous systems truly need rather than forcing action that feels threatening.

For those supporting partners with depression, I offer guidance on recognizing and celebrating microscopic progress. Those tiny steps, acknowledged with genuine pride rather than dismissed as insignificant, build momentum toward healing. When we stop beating ourselves up for being "too slow" and start working with our nervous systems instead of against them, we create space for authentic change.

Whether depression affects you personally or someone you love, this episode provides a compassionate framework for moving forward when everything feels stuck. The journey doesn't require giant leaps—just one step, any size, in any direction. Your nervous system already knows what it needs; learning to listen to that wisdom might be the most powerful step you can take.

Subscribe and share this episode with anyone navigating the challenges of depression in relationships. Remember: getting to a place of greater connection is possible, even when depression is in your bed.

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