Thriving Minds Podcast Deep Dive: Building a Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Team Hosted by Professor Selena Bartlett
Expert: Feather Berkower, Author of Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse

The top 5 things to keep children safe in the digital age.

Feather challenges the outdated belief that children should be responsible for protecting themselves. Instead, she empowers adults to take charge by building what she calls a “Prevention Team.” This team includes everyone in your child’s world—teachers, coaches, grandparents, babysitters—and sets clear boundaries and safety rules that deter potential offenders before they ever gain access.

It is the small, brave conversations that can make a lifelong difference. From teaching kids the difference between secrets and surprises, to addressing online grooming and exposure to pornography, Feather shows how open, honest, and continuous dialogue is the most powerful protection tool we have.

Top 5 Takeaways for Parents

1. Adults are responsible, not children, for preventing abuse.
2. Talk, talk, talk—and don’t stop talking about body safety.
3. Build your Prevention Team by having explicit boundary conversations with anyone who cares for your child.
4. Discomfort is protective—feeling awkward now prevents trauma later.
5. Use practical tools like Off Limits and Feather’s Conversation Starter Cards to begin these vital discussions today.

This episode will leave you informed, empowered, and ready to create a safer world for children—one conversation at a time.

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Neuroscience now shows us that human connection changes the brain.

Walking high above the forest floor on the Valley of the Giants Treetop Walk in Western Australia, I felt what real strength looks like.

The giant tingle trees reach for the light, but their power doesn’t come from standing alone. Under the soil, their roots and fungi form a living web, sharing water, nutrients, and information. Each tree depends on the health of the whole forest.

That is what thriving organisations do too.

Leadership as Connection

After that walk, I gave a presentation at the Optus Stadium to early childhood educators, as part of the Child Australia conference. They reminded me that leadership isn’t about control. It’s about creating the right conditions for others to grow.

They help children learn through safety, play, and connection. They build trust first, then learning follows.

It’s the same in every organisation. When people feel safe, supported, and seen, they do their best work.

Leadership is no different. It’s not about control, it’s about connection. When people feel seen and supported, they bring their best ideas forward. When leaders make space for visibility, empathy, and trust, the whole system begins to flow.

A healthy organisation works like an ecosystem: it doesn’t rely on one strong trunk, but on many connected roots.

Leaders who create these conditions don’t need to push growth, it happens naturally. Like the forest, their teams become alive with creativity and flow.

When people feel seen, their stress circuits quiet down, and the brain’s higher networks — for creativity, empathy, and problem-solving turn on. That’s how safety becomes innovation.

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Creating Conditions for Flow

Walking among those ancient trees reminded me that growth doesn’t come from control. You can’t force a tree to grow, and you can only create the right light, water, and soil.

Leadership works the same way. Our role is to build the conditions where people feel trusted and visible. When they do, they begin to synchronise, share ideas, and thrive together.

This happens in great conversations, in creative teams, and in organisations where leaders listen more than they direct. The result? Collective intelligence. Decisions become faster, ideas flow freely, and people feel energised rather than exhausted. Most importantly people feel free to say where there are problems and why the idea might fail.

Boundaries protect us. But being seen transforms us.

Read Visible: Rewiring Your Brain for Love, Resilience, and the Courage to Be Seen

https://www.amazon.com.au/VISIBLE-Rewiring-Brain-Resilience-Courage/dp/0999099744

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Today on Thriving Minds, I’m sharing a special replay of my conversation with Dr. Renee White on her Science of Motherhood podcast, where we explored what I wish I knew then—now that I know this—about screens, resilience, and protecting our kids’ mental health in the digital age.

Screens are part of everyday life, but learning how to manage them while protecting our children’s mental health can feel like an uphill battle. In this candid conversation, Professor Selena Bartlett shares the lessons she wishes she knew earlier as a parent—now backed by decades of neuroscience research into stress, resilience, and brain plasticity.

You’ll hear practical, science-informed strategies to help you:

• Set and hold screen time boundaries (without constant battles)
• Support your child’s resilience through the power of neuroplasticity
• Understand how technology impacts kids’ mental health
• Reduce family stress and strengthen connection
• Make everyday changes that protect wellbeing

This isn’t about removing technology altogether—it’s about using it mindfully, while safeguarding what matters most: your child’s mental health and your family’s connection.

Resources & Links

• Follow Renee on Instagram: @fillyourcup_
  
  
• Learn more about The Science of Motherhood and Fill Your Cup services

🌿 Connect with Professor Selena Bartlett:

• Website: profselenabartlett.com
  
  
• Instagram: @prof_selena_bartlett
  
  
• Explore more at womenrise.com.au
  
  

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