“Is love found or created?” Keion asks to kick off this episode. The Hendersons discuss Black love and Black joy, emphasizing the need to understand what brings happiness to oneself and to our partner. Reflecting on their love story, Shaunie declares that they found love and then created joy. Keion affirms that the superpower of their relationship is consistently choosing to love one another by cultivating joy together. The Hendersons also confess that imposing one’s rules and standards on a partner may block the other's joy. They highlight the importance of self-sacrifice and prioritizing the happiness of their partner. Shaunie shares how Keion’s efforts to learn what fills her joy tank strengthens their love and why contributing to their relationship brings her joy. In this episode, we learn how to love your partner better by speaking their love language, why it's important to celebrate your partner’s path to joy, and how to discover what fuels your joy so you can share it with your partner. We have to be intentional about discovering what brings us joy as individuals instead of expecting to find it in our relationships. As Keion faithfully reminds us, just like growth, joy is an inside job.

For further growth, check out The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman.