Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist, content creator, and non-monogamy advocate Kate Shelor for an unfiltered conversation about open relationships, outsourcing fantasies, emotional labor in swinging, and the surprising ways long-term couples keep intimacy exciting.

Kate opens up about why she rarely dates outside her marriage despite being ethically non-monogamous, how hiring sex workers simplified their relationship dynamic, and the realities of jealousy, chemistry, group play, and sexual compatibility. They also dive into anal sex, fantasies, OnlyFans attention, emotional burnout, aging, confidence, kink exploration, and the difference between fantasy and real-life sex.

Topics covered:

• Ethical non-monogamy & swinging
• Why Kate rarely wants other partners
• Being a sex educator while dating
• Being intimidating or “unapproachable”
• Emotional labor in open relationships
• Using escorts and sex workers as a couple
• Negotiating fantasies and boundaries
• Why paying for sex can be simpler than dating
• Outsourcing anal and mismatched sexual interests
• Jealousy, communication, and trust in marriage
• Male vs female sex workers
• Exploring kinks safely
• Why group sex stopped being exciting
• Realistic female orgasms vs porn fantasy
• Aging, hormones, and changing libido
• OnlyFans, validation, and sexual attention online
• Keeping long-term relationships exciting
• Matching underwear subscriptions
• Cruise playrooms and glory hole adventures
• Novelty, intimacy, and maintaining attraction

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with… herself for a raw, unfiltered solo episode catching you up on everything from life on a Temptation Cruise to her evolving dating standards, sexual boundaries, and relationship mindset.

Alexa shares what it’s like attending a Temptation/Desire-style cruise solo for the first time (people-watching couples, navigating swinger culture, and breaking down exactly how playrooms, workshops, and non-monogamous dynamics work in real life).

She dives into her personal shift away from casual sex and into intentional dating, explaining why she’s now prioritizing emotional connection, aftercare, and partners who genuinely meet her needs, especially when it comes to oral sex.

The episode explores deeper questions around monogamy vs. non-monogamy, whether one partner can meet all your needs, and how exposure to different relationship styles can expand your perspective, whether you ever practice them or not. She also shares behind-the-scenes insights into her workshops, from pussy worship to anal education, and what it’s like teaching pleasure in a fully immersive, hands-on environment.

Topics Covered

• Swinger cruise culture: Temptation & Desire breakdown
• Playroom rules, dynamics, and etiquette
• Workshops: pussy worship, anal 101, handjob techniques
• Observing newbies vs experienced couples in non-monogamy
• Community, connection, and friendships on lifestyle cruises
• Using pleasure and joy as a form of balance in a difficult world
• Transition from casual sex to intentional dating
• Sexual dissatisfaction and unmet needs in casual dynamics
• The importance of oral sex and prioritizing female pleasure
• The orgasm gap and stimulation differences during penetration
• “Real eater only” mindset and not settling sexually
• Monogamy vs non-monogamy reflections
• Fluid relationship identities and changing over time
• Learning from different relationship structures
• Expanding social circles: queer, kinky, celibate, non-monogamous perspectives
• Masturbation and solo pleasure practices
• Behind-the-scenes of sex workshops and teaching live experiences
• STI education gaps and common fears
• Orgies, private room dynamics, and cruise experiences
• Community vs sex focus in lifestyle spaces
• Building a career as a sex educator and coach

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Ashley Manta to explore the world of energetic sex: what it is, how it works, and whether you can actually feel pleasure, connection, or even orgasm without physical touch.

They break down the concept of the energetic body vs the physical body, how breath, presence, and visualization play a role in directing energy, and how practices rooted in tantra, mindfulness, and somatic awareness can expand what we think of as sex. Ashley explains how energy can be shared between partners (with consent), how couples can sync breath and build intimacy without touch, and how techniques like eye gazing, chakra visualization, and intention-setting are used in workshops.

The conversation covers everything from solo exploration to partnered experiences like “energetic penetration,” heart-to-heart connection exercises, and combining touch with energy to enhance sensation. They also discuss real workshop experiences where beginners reported feeling physical sensations, emotional releases, and even orgasms while fully clothed.

Topics discussed:

• What “energetic sex” is
• Energetic body vs physical body
• Breathwork and presence in sexual experiences
• Visualization and directing energy
• Solo energetic pleasure practices
• Partnered energetic connection
• Eye gazing and breath syncing
• Chakra system and energy movement
• Hand energy exercise (feeling energy between palms)
• Energetic “penetration” concept
• Combining physical touch with energy
• Workshop experiences and beginner reactions
• Reports of no-touch orgasms
• Emotional and somatic responses (shaking, release)
• Building confidence in energetic practices
• Energetic kink and power dynamics
• Energetic restraint and roleplay
• Tuning into a partner’s “frequency”
• Feedback cues and responsiveness
• Breath orgasms vs other orgasm types
• Laughgasms, coregasms, and non-traditional orgasms
• Expanding definitions of pleasure
• Self-pleasure and manifestation practices
• Using orgasmic energy for intention-setting
• Longer orgasm experiences
• Tantra workshops and festivals
• Tantric massage (what it may involve)
• Skepticism vs openness
• Long-distance energetic connection
• Phone sex using energy and visualization
• Alexa’s personal experiment and results

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Star Stone to unpack her real-life experience inside OneTaste, the controversial “orgasmic meditation” (OM) community often described as a sex cult.

Star shares how she was drawn in while searching for better sex and multiple orgasms, what “OMing” actually is, and how quickly curiosity turned into something much more complex. From communal living and blurred consent to coercion, confusion, and trauma bonding, this episode dives deep into the psychological dynamics of cult-like environments and how they operate under the guise of empowerment and sexual wellness.

We talk about why people join, how boundaries get blurry, what makes leaving so difficult, and what healing looked like afterward. Star also opens up about rebuilding her relationship to sex, safety, and intimacy after the experience.

We also cover the recent sentencing of OneTaste founder Nicole Daedone and what accountability, justice, and systemic change actually look like in cases like this.

Topics covered:

• How Star first discovered OneTaste
• What “orgasmic meditation” actually is and how it works
• Wanting to become multi-orgasmic and seeking better sex
• The structure of OM classes and partner pairing
• Why the first experience didn’t work but still hooked her
• Moving into communal “OM houses”
• Sharing beds with strangers and lack of privacy
• House rules and daily OM expectations
• Confusion as a control tactic in cult dynamics
• Pressure to override boundaries and say yes
• Consent vs coercion in group environments
• “Lean into discomfort” and loss of autonomy
• Sexual dynamics, power, and unsafe partner experiences
• Trauma bonding and cycles of abuse
• Why it’s hard to leave cult-like environments
• The role of belonging, community, and vulnerability
• Leaving the house vs leaving the organization
• Therapy, treatment, and understanding narcissistic abuse
• Processing trauma through art, comedy, and storytelling
• Life after OneTaste and rebuilding sexual safety
• How the experience impacted her sex life and relationships
• Learning boundaries, discernment, and partner selection
• Moving to Costa Rica for healing and nervous system reset
• Writing and performing her one-woman show
• Humor as a tool for processing trauma
• Cult psychology and why smart people still join
• Justice vs systemic change in cases of sexual exploitation

At the time of this episode, Star chose not to speak in detail about the legal case.

However, here are the key verified facts:

• Nicole Daedone was sentenced to 9 years in federal prison in March 2026 for forced labor conspiracy
• Co-defendant Rachel Cherwitz received 78 months (6.5 years)
• Prosecutors said the organization used psychological, emotional, and financial coercion
• Victims were allegedly pressured into unpaid labor and sexual acts with clients or investors
• The court ordered $12 million in forfeiture and nearly $900,000 in restitution to victims
• The case followed a five-week federal trial in 2025

If you want to read more:

• DOJ sentencing announcement
• Guardian coverage of the case

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with sex therapist and author Ian Kerner to break down what’s really going on in your sex life, starting with one simple question: “So tell me about the last time you had sex.”

From there, they unpack the patterns most couples fall into and why sex often becomes routine, disconnected, or unsatisfying over time. This episode dives into the hidden dynamics behind desire, communication, and intimacy and how to actually fix them.

They cover:

• sex scripts and why most people follow the same predictable pattern
• spontaneous vs responsive desire and why mismatched libidos happen
• why initiation often fails (and creates rejection cycles)
• obligation sex vs genuinely wanting it
• the role of foreplay, arousal, and why rushing to penetration backfires
• the orgasm gap and importance of clitoral stimulation
• why couples stop prioritizing sex in long-term relationships
• communication struggles and how to actually say what you want
• turning complaints into clear desires
• building anticipation, tension, and erotic connection
• practical tools like the “willingness window”
• how to create better sex through intention, not just chemistry

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with comedian Tina Friml to talk about:

• Growing up with cerebral palsy and dating insecurities
• Becoming a successful comedian even without a drivers license
• Bullying around desirability and sex
• Having sex for the first time at 26
• Slow burn vs instant chemistry in dating
• Navigating ambiguity and attraction
• Making dates go to her comedy shows
• Using comedy to express kinks and boundaries
• Bad sex due to lack of communication/understanding
• Polyamory vs monogamy experiences
• Sex parties and exploration
• Discovering a love for restraint and being tied up (Shibari)
• Sex toys and accessibility issues
• Misconceptions about disabled people being non-sexual
• Emotional labor of making others comfortable
• Rejection and people avoiding honesty
• Green flags in dating disabled people

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with kink performer, educator, and co-founder of Hit Me Up, Hawthorne, to talk about the future of sex, switches, kink exploration, nipple clamps, and the very real phenomenon of post-nut clarity.

We get into how sex parties are evolving beyond just hooking up, and why community might be the most important part of modern sexuality. From mixers and workshops to co-working spaces (yes, really), we explore how people are using these environments to build real connections, not just get laid.

We also talk about:

• Why community comes before sex (and how that changes everything)
• How kink and non-monogamy have become more visible
• The rise of switches and why rigid dom/sub roles are fading
• What people still get wrong about power dynamics
• Post-nut clarity, what actually happens psychologically and physically after orgasm, and why so many people completely drop the ball right after they come
• Why private orgies > big parties (sometimes)
• How to approach people at events without being weird
• The reality of running a sex party business

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex therapist and relationship coach Gaby Balsells to talk about emotional connection: what it actually means, why it matters, and how it directly impacts your sex life.

From feeling “seen, heard, and safe” to understanding why some people need emotional connection before sex (and others after), this episode breaks down the real dynamics behind intimacy, desire, and long-term connection.

Alexa and Gaby explore how disconnection happens (even in good relationships) and how couples can rebuild it through communication, attunement, and intentional effort. They also unpack why relying on your partner as your only emotional outlet can kill attraction, and how having a “menu” of support systems actually strengthens your relationship.

In this episode, we cover:

• What emotional connection actually means
• Emotional vs physical connection and how they influence each other
• Why some people need sex to feel emotionally connected
• Why emotional safety is the foundation for intimacy
• Reconnecting after a fight (without forcing sex)
• Meeting your partner in the middle instead of rejecting bids for connection
• Expanding your “menu” of emotional support beyond your partner
• Why relying on your partner for everything kills attraction
• How to feel connected again when life gets busy
• Weekly check-ins and “heart to heart” conversations
• The importance of non-sexual touch
• Appreciation, praise, and feeling seen in relationships
• Creating novelty (why hotel sex hits different)
• Why good sex doesn’t equal emotional connection
• Resentment as the biggest relationship killer
• One-sided effort and what to do when your partner isn’t trying
• “We accept the love we think we deserve”
• Outgrowing relationships and evolving needs
• How to know if a relationship is worth saving
• Dating tips to assess emotional compatibility early
• Why safety is essential — even in casual sex
• Attunement: the sexiest relationship skill

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