Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Aimee, sex coach, host of Come Talk With Aimee, to unpack red flags in hookup culture, casual sex boundaries, love bombing, ghosting, emotional unavailability, situationships, sexual compatibility, and how to protect your peace while still having fun.

This episode dives into the blurred lines between “hot” and “toxic,” how to define red flags in early dating, and why casual doesn’t have to mean careless. Alexa and Aimee break down how to navigate casual sex in a way that feels empowering instead of chaotic.

In this episode, we cover:

• How to define a red flag (and why they aren’t always universal)
• The difference between mystery and emotional unavailability
• Why hot-and-cold behavior is a major warning sign
• Love bombing and how to spot it early
• Why ghosting happens (and when it’s acceptable)
• Fear of rejection and craving validation
• How to state your needs without playing games
• Casual sex vs. friends with benefits vs. fuck buddies
• Setting boundaries before sex happens
• How to avoid situationships and why we’re both against them
• Why “casual” doesn’t mean careless
• How to reschedule a date properly from both sides
• Signs someone may be selfish in bed
• Unsolicited nudes and consent in sexting
• Condom jokes & sexual health red flags
• Boundary pushing and subtle manipulation tactics
• Negging disguised as “banter”
• Why talking badly about all your exes is a red flag
• Pussy worship vs. oral as a chore
• Abundance mindset vs. scarcity mindset in dating
• Why you shouldn’t do casual if it creates chaos for you
• Protecting your peace while still enjoying sex

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sexologist, intimacy coach for men, and former sex worker Coral Osborne for a conversation about conflict, repair, emotional safety, and how to fight in ways that actually strengthen relationships instead of destroying them.

This episode breaks down why conflict is inevitable, why resolution is not the same as repair, and how most people unintentionally make things worse by avoiding discomfort, suppressing feelings, issuing ultimatums, or apologizing without real empathy. Coral shares tools drawn from attachment theory, coaching, lived experience, and relationship psychology to help couples navigate fights with curiosity, accountability, and emotional intelligence.

Topics covered include:

• The difference between conflict resolution and emotional repair
• Why 69% of conflict in relationships is recurring
• Secure vs anxious vs avoidant attachment styles
• Why conflict is necessary for real intimacy
• Sulking, silent treatment, and “read my mind” behavior
• Fight, flight, freeze responses in relationships
• How avoidance fuels resentment and rupture
• The importance of reassurance during conflict
• Why “do you want to be right or happy?” matters
• Active listening and emotional attunement
• How to bring issues up without score-keeping
• Why feelings don’t have to “make sense” to be valid
• Rejection and abandonment as core emotional wounds
• What a real apology actually includes
• Why ultimatums damage trust and safety
• Repair rituals and post-conflict reconnection
• Why makeup sex doesn’t work for everyone
• Gamifying conflict and repair to reduce defensiveness
• When recurring fights are about values vs preferences
• Emotional safety as the foundation for erotic surrender
• Curiosity as the key to intimacy, sex, and connection

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Aaron Thompson (aka Small Hands) to unpack how an awkward, short kid with a conservative upbringing became one of the most desired men in adult entertainment, and why confidence has far more to do with self-awareness, humility, and emotional intelligence than looks, height, or stats on a dating app.

They go deep on real intimacy versus performative sex, porn myths versus real-life pleasure, and how men can become better lovers by listening, learning, and caring more about their partner’s experience than their own ego.

Topics covered include:

• The “Short King” mindset and why height doesn’t matter
• Masculinity, confidence, and owning what you can’t change
• Penis size myths and sexual insecurity
• Why personality beats looks in real attraction
• Dating apps, stats culture, and first impressions
• Porn vs real sex (and why porn is not sex education)
• Communication, consent, and “checking in” during sex
• Reading body language, sounds, and partner feedback
• Helping partners orgasm without killing the vibe
• Using vibrators, magic wands, and toys with confidence
• Sexual worship, power dynamics, and mutual pleasure
• Learning from women and having real female friendships
• Dating as a porn star and navigating fans vs real intimacy
• Performative sex vs lazy, intimate, off-camera connection
• OnlyFans, AI digital duplicates, and fantasy fulfillment
• Erectile health, Viagra and injectable performance drugs
• Aaron’s natural erection health routine

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, performer, director, and sex worker Lucy Hart for an honest conversation about reinvention, desire, identity, and learning how to start over without losing yourself. Lucy shares what it has been like to transition later in life, rebuild after financial loss, find community through kink and creativity, and forgive herself through every stage of change.

In this episode, they discuss:

• Reinventing yourself multiple times throughout life
• Transitioning later in life and trusting your timing
• Building chosen family and supportive community
• Talking about sex before getting into bed
• Ending sex based on satisfaction, not performance
• Communication, oral sex, toys, kink, and curiosity
• Sexual responsibility, testing, PrEP, and harm reduction
• The importance of kissing and chemistry
• Exploring kink slowly and without pressure
• Power dynamics and shifting roles
• Losing financial stability and rebuilding from scratch
• Divorce, grief, and letting go of relationships that no longer fit
• Forgiveness as a daily practice
• Letting go of resentment and self-blame
• Redefining success and happiness
• Making peace with impermanence
• Trusting yourself to rebuild again if needed

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified holistic sex educator and Beyond the Beez founder Elizabeth Ashford for a deeply practical, funny, and no-BS conversation about talking during sex—and why silence, shame, and faking orgasms are some of the biggest barriers to good sex. From dirty talk and giving direction to toys, lube, boundaries, aftercare, and post-sex debriefs, this episode is a masterclass in how communication transforms intimacy, pleasure, and connection.

In this episode, Alexa and Elizabeth discuss:

• Why silence during sex creates insecurity and confusion
• Dirty talk vs simply communicating during sex
• Using your voice for pleasure, direction, and curiosity
• Why most people struggle to talk during sex
• Cultural shame, lack of sex education, and sexual confidence
• Finding your sexual voice and understanding your desires
• Why dirty talk looks different for everyone
• Trauma, shame, BDSM experience, and comfort levels with dirty talk
• Blending dirty talk with practical direction
• Giving feedback without killing the mood
• Starting with positive reinforcement before giving direction
• How safety makes sexual communication easier
• How faking orgasms reinforces bad sex habits
• Why honesty leads to better long-term sex
• The orgasm gap and why penetration alone isn’t enough
• Why partners need to genuinely care about your pleasure
• Oral sex as a baseline expectation, not a bonus
• “Non-eaters” as a dealbreaker
• Curiosity as the foundation of good sex
• Sex worth having vs sex worth avoiding
• Starter phrases for people new to dirty talk
• Keeping dirty talk simple and natural
• Compliments during sex and feeling desired
• Post-sex communication and debriefing
• Aftercare beyond cuddling
• Talking about what worked and what didn’t
• Porn, audio erotica, and learning language for desire
• Erotic menus and yes/maybe/no frameworks
• Borrowing phrases instead of reinventing dirty talk

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and professional Dom Sir Marvelous for a conversation about real dominance, fake Doms, pleasure-centered sex, and why communication and patience are the foundation of good BDSM—and good sex in general. This episode breaks down what dominance actually looks like beyond performance, how to spot manipulative dynamics early, and why prioritizing pleasure leads to deeper trust, safety, and better sex.

In this episode, Alexa and Sir Marvelous discuss:

• What actually makes someone a real Dom vs a fake Dom
• Why “pleasure Dom” is often misunderstood and misused
• How fake Doms weaponize submissive language on dating apps
• Manipulation, rushing dynamics, and early red flags
• Patience as the most attractive and essential Dom skill
• Why dominance is about giving and not controlling
• Why dominance doesn’t have to include pain, whips, or chains
• Eating pussy before, during, and after penetration
• Anxiety, erections, and why losing one isn’t a failure
• Strap-ons, toys, and removing ego from penetration
• Asking better questions about pleasure and satisfaction
• The brain as the biggest sex organ
• Post-sex debriefing: what worked, what didn’t, what to do more of
• Advocating for pleasure in Dom/sub dynamics
• Beginner Dom mistakes to avoid
• Why Doms should experience submission or bottoming
• Performative dominance vs authentic presence

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with musician and content creator Emi Larraud for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about vulnerability, masculinity, oversharing on the internet, and why emotional availability makes men more desirable and better lovers. From shitting yourself on the subway to tips on how to be more vulnerable, this episode explores how being human, communicative, and emotionally present leads to better sex, safer intimacy, and more meaningful connections.

In this episode, Alexa and Emi discuss:

• Masculinity, patriarchy, and how it harms men
• Why toughness, aggression, and emotional suppression are not attractive
• Healthy masculinity and being raised with emotional permission
• Men crying, expressing emotions, and being fully human
• How emotional openness improves dating and sex
• Why men shouldn’t center other men’s approval
• Seeking male validation vs caring what women actually want
• Listening to women instead of guessing what they want
• Being bisexual and how that shaped Emi’s perspective on intimacy
• The hot take: men who refuse to eat pussy are kinda gay
• Why vulnerability filters out the wrong people
• Getting approached more after being emotionally open
• Emotional growth through therapy
• Holding male friends accountable for harmful jokes
• Sex, intimacy, and performance anxiety
• Feeling pressure to perform sexually
• Liking women vs just wanting to fuck them

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist and intimacy coach Kate Shelor for an in-depth conversation about erotic hypnosis, the subconscious mind, and how our thoughts, beliefs, and emotional conditioning shape pleasure, desire, and orgasm. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode breaks down what hypnosis really is, how it differs from pop-culture myths, and how erotic hypnosis can help people get out of their heads, release sexual shame, and reconnect with their bodies.

In this episode, Alexa and Kate discuss:

• The role of the subconscious mind in sex, pleasure, and behavior
• Why so many people struggle to stay present during sex
• Anxiety, body image, and self-conscious thoughts in the bedroom
• How hypnosis helps people get out of their heads and into sensation
• Why all hypnosis is ultimately self-hypnosis
• Consent, collaboration, and personal agency in hypnosis
• Common myths about hypnosis from movies and pop culture
• Whether some people are “more hypnotizable” than others
• Sexual blocks related to orgasms, erections, and arousal
• Kate’s personal journey using hypnotherapy to overcome orgasm struggles
• How language and self-talk program sexual responses
• The power of repetition in shaping subconscious beliefs
• Blindfolds, sensory deprivation, and imagination in erotic play
• Practical self-hypnosis and mindset exercises for home
• Auditing negative self-talk and replacing it intentionally
• Rewriting old conditioning with new emotional experiences
• Why the subconscious mind overrides logic every time
• Surrounding yourself with sex-positive language and media
• The best time of day for self-hypnosis
• How long hypnosis takes to create change

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