Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist, content creator, and non-monogamy advocate Kate Shelor for an unfiltered conversation about open relationships, outsourcing fantasies, emotional labor in swinging, and the surprising ways long-term couples keep intimacy exciting.

Kate opens up about why she rarely dates outside her marriage despite being ethically non-monogamous, how hiring sex workers simplified their relationship dynamic, and the realities of jealousy, chemistry, group play, and sexual compatibility. They also dive into anal sex, fantasies, OnlyFans attention, emotional burnout, aging, confidence, kink exploration, and the difference between fantasy and real-life sex.

Topics covered:

• Ethical non-monogamy & swinging
• Why Kate rarely wants other partners
• Being a sex educator while dating
• Being intimidating or “unapproachable”
• Emotional labor in open relationships
• Using escorts and sex workers as a couple
• Negotiating fantasies and boundaries
• Why paying for sex can be simpler than dating
• Outsourcing anal and mismatched sexual interests
• Jealousy, communication, and trust in marriage
• Male vs female sex workers
• Exploring kinks safely
• Why group sex stopped being exciting
• Realistic female orgasms vs porn fantasy
• Aging, hormones, and changing libido
• OnlyFans, validation, and sexual attention online
• Keeping long-term relationships exciting
• Matching underwear subscriptions
• Cruise playrooms and glory hole adventures
• Novelty, intimacy, and maintaining attraction

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with… herself for a raw, unfiltered solo episode catching you up on everything from life on a Temptation Cruise to her evolving dating standards, sexual boundaries, and relationship mindset.

Alexa shares what it’s like attending a Temptation/Desire-style cruise solo for the first time (people-watching couples, navigating swinger culture, and breaking down exactly how playrooms, workshops, and non-monogamous dynamics work in real life).

She dives into her personal shift away from casual sex and into intentional dating, explaining why she’s now prioritizing emotional connection, aftercare, and partners who genuinely meet her needs, especially when it comes to oral sex.

The episode explores deeper questions around monogamy vs. non-monogamy, whether one partner can meet all your needs, and how exposure to different relationship styles can expand your perspective, whether you ever practice them or not. She also shares behind-the-scenes insights into her workshops, from pussy worship to anal education, and what it’s like teaching pleasure in a fully immersive, hands-on environment.

Topics Covered

• Swinger cruise culture: Temptation & Desire breakdown
• Playroom rules, dynamics, and etiquette
• Workshops: pussy worship, anal 101, handjob techniques
• Observing newbies vs experienced couples in non-monogamy
• Community, connection, and friendships on lifestyle cruises
• Using pleasure and joy as a form of balance in a difficult world
• Transition from casual sex to intentional dating
• Sexual dissatisfaction and unmet needs in casual dynamics
• The importance of oral sex and prioritizing female pleasure
• The orgasm gap and stimulation differences during penetration
• “Real eater only” mindset and not settling sexually
• Monogamy vs non-monogamy reflections
• Fluid relationship identities and changing over time
• Learning from different relationship structures
• Expanding social circles: queer, kinky, celibate, non-monogamous perspectives
• Masturbation and solo pleasure practices
• Behind-the-scenes of sex workshops and teaching live experiences
• STI education gaps and common fears
• Orgies, private room dynamics, and cruise experiences
• Community vs sex focus in lifestyle spaces
• Building a career as a sex educator and coach

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Ashley Manta to explore the world of energetic sex: what it is, how it works, and whether you can actually feel pleasure, connection, or even orgasm without physical touch.

They break down the concept of the energetic body vs the physical body, how breath, presence, and visualization play a role in directing energy, and how practices rooted in tantra, mindfulness, and somatic awareness can expand what we think of as sex. Ashley explains how energy can be shared between partners (with consent), how couples can sync breath and build intimacy without touch, and how techniques like eye gazing, chakra visualization, and intention-setting are used in workshops.

The conversation covers everything from solo exploration to partnered experiences like “energetic penetration,” heart-to-heart connection exercises, and combining touch with energy to enhance sensation. They also discuss real workshop experiences where beginners reported feeling physical sensations, emotional releases, and even orgasms while fully clothed.

Topics discussed:

• What “energetic sex” is
• Energetic body vs physical body
• Breathwork and presence in sexual experiences
• Visualization and directing energy
• Solo energetic pleasure practices
• Partnered energetic connection
• Eye gazing and breath syncing
• Chakra system and energy movement
• Hand energy exercise (feeling energy between palms)
• Energetic “penetration” concept
• Combining physical touch with energy
• Workshop experiences and beginner reactions
• Reports of no-touch orgasms
• Emotional and somatic responses (shaking, release)
• Building confidence in energetic practices
• Energetic kink and power dynamics
• Energetic restraint and roleplay
• Tuning into a partner’s “frequency”
• Feedback cues and responsiveness
• Breath orgasms vs other orgasm types
• Laughgasms, coregasms, and non-traditional orgasms
• Expanding definitions of pleasure
• Self-pleasure and manifestation practices
• Using orgasmic energy for intention-setting
• Longer orgasm experiences
• Tantra workshops and festivals
• Tantric massage (what it may involve)
• Skepticism vs openness
• Long-distance energetic connection
• Phone sex using energy and visualization
• Alexa’s personal experiment and results