Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, performer, director, and sex worker Lucy Hart for an honest conversation about reinvention, desire, identity, and learning how to start over without losing yourself. Lucy shares what it has been like to transition later in life, rebuild after financial loss, find community through kink and creativity, and forgive herself through every stage of change.

In this episode, they discuss:

• Reinventing yourself multiple times throughout life
• Transitioning later in life and trusting your timing
• Building chosen family and supportive community
• Talking about sex before getting into bed
• Ending sex based on satisfaction, not performance
• Communication, oral sex, toys, kink, and curiosity
• Sexual responsibility, testing, PrEP, and harm reduction
• The importance of kissing and chemistry
• Exploring kink slowly and without pressure
• Power dynamics and shifting roles
• Losing financial stability and rebuilding from scratch
• Divorce, grief, and letting go of relationships that no longer fit
• Forgiveness as a daily practice
• Letting go of resentment and self-blame
• Redefining success and happiness
• Making peace with impermanence
• Trusting yourself to rebuild again if needed

Thank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈