In today’s episode I’m joined again by Shomit Mitter to talk about acceptance, especially when what’s happened doesn’t seem to make any sense, and how we can find the lesson in difficult times. Shomit describes acceptance as the opposite of avoidance, and shares a simple three-step process: acknowledge what happened, learn from it, then let it go. We talk about how a therapist or wise outsider can help us spot patterns we can’t see ourselves, and why friends sometimes project their own views onto our situation.

We then look at karma as universal cause and effect, and why it should never be used to blame people, especially around illness or tragedy. Shomit explains that when someone is grieving, what they need most is presence, love and listening, with any deeper explanations saved for later and shared at the right level for them. We also talk about staying compassionate in frustrating conversations, the idea that we all share the same Buddha nature, how to see “privileged problems” with perspective and a little humour rather than judgement, and the importance of self-care on bad days. To finish, we touch on earth luck in Chinese astrology and feng shui, and Shomit suggests our friend Jo Russell for guidance.

Get in touch with Jo Russell for Feng Shui and listen to her podcast: https://smashingsecrets.com/our-story

Shomit Mitter www.shomitmitter.com Lara Fares https://thedeeperi.com/

00:00 Why Acceptance Matters 01:29 Three Steps of Acceptance 03:28 Finding the Lesson 04:35 Outside Help and Projection 10:20 When Life Makes No Sense 13:58 Supporting Someone in Grief 15:45 Teaching at the Right Level 17:50 Handling Social Frustration 21:24 Love, Wisdom and Debate 25:13 Privileged Problems and Perspective 30:18 Truth Without Unkindness 33:31 Self Care and Bad Days 35:53 Earth Luck and Feng Shui 39:19 Wrap Up and Next Steps

Lara was born in Lebanon, grew up in France and has been living in London since 1998. Lara is passionate about child welfare and wellbeing, as well as personal inner growth and a spiritual way of living. She has studied Neurolinguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and The 3 Principles by Sydney Banks.

Lara’s true calling in life is to help people be at peace with who they are, connect and align with their true callings, and offer support by sharing all that she has learned through her years of self-work. She has overseen many charitable projects. Always keen to help where she can, Lara is also an ardent supporter of children’s wellbeing, having worked throughout her life to support underprivileged children through charities such as SOS Villages in Lebanon, the British Red Cross and the Speech, Language & Hearing Centre in London, and previously sitting on the Board of Save the Children. She now turns her focus to spiritual enlightenment and personal growth.

For many years Lara has studied and worked with leading spiritual teachers, which has led to her determination to help others find peace and balance.

A creative person at heart, Lara founded THE DEEPER I, which is committed to reaching communities from all walks of life to develop a better sense of self love, self confidence and awareness, to help them trust themselves and trust life in order to thrive through the experience of living.

In today’s episode I’m joined again by Shomit Mitter, following on from our conversation about anxiety, to explore karma and dharma and why understanding them can bring more peace into everyday life. Shomit explains karma as action and intention, and the consequences that follow, and dharma as living in line with our duty and purpose, which ultimately means bringing more love, compassion and kindness into the world.

We talk about looking at karma in two ways. Looking forward, it’s about acting with kindness to create happiness. Looking back, it can help us make sense of what we’re going through now, including the idea of past lives, always with compassion rather than blame. Shomit shares how acceptance is different from giving up, how it connects to forgiveness and love, and how study, reflection and meditation help train the mind. He also returns to the Tall Mountain practice to bring wisdom, an open heart and strength together, and tells a story about Mother Teresa that shows what love with power really looks like.

Shomit Mitter www.shomitmitter.com Lara Fares https://thedeeperi.com/

00:00 Why Karma Brings Peace 02:38 Karma and Dharma Basics 03:17 Forward Looking Karma 05:38 Past Lives and Compassion 10:28 Acceptance, Not Giving Up 17:01 Training the Mind Daily 21:20 Waking Up and Doing the Work 25:25 Love With Strength 30:47 Tall Mountain Alignment 36:36 Finding Your True Purpose 40:03 Closing Thoughts

Lara was born in Lebanon, grew up in France and has been living in London since 1998. Lara is passionate about child welfare and wellbeing, as well as personal inner growth and a spiritual way of living. She has studied Neurolinguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and The 3 Principles by Sydney Banks.

Lara’s true calling in life is to help people be at peace with who they are, connect and align with their true callings, and offer support by sharing all that she has learned through her years of self-work. She has overseen many charitable projects. Always keen to help where she can, Lara is also an ardent supporter of children’s wellbeing, having worked throughout her life to support underprivileged children through charities such as SOS Villages in Lebanon, the British Red Cross and the Speech, Language & Hearing Centre in London, and previously sitting on the Board of Save the Children. She now turns her focus to spiritual enlightenment and personal growth.

For many years Lara has studied and worked with leading spiritual teachers, which has led to her determination to help others find peace and balance.

A creative person at heart, Lara founded THE DEEPER I, which is committed to reaching communities from all walks of life to develop a better sense of self love, self confidence and awareness, to help them trust themselves and trust life in order to thrive through the experience of living.

In today’s episode I talk to Shomit Mitter about anxiety, and how we can work with it both in the moment and through everyday practice. We talk about using the body to calm the mind, from slowing the breath with a longer out breath to going for a gentle walk to feel safe and gain perspective.

Shomit then shares two deeper approaches. One is exploring the past wounds that make anxiety feel bigger today, through regression work. The other is rising above them, finding a higher vantage point through meditation and non-attachment. He guides me through his Tall Mountain meditation, a way to build steadiness, perspective and an open heart, and explains why he sees loving kindness, supported by wisdom and strength, as the truest form of high vibration.

Shomit Mitter www.shomitmitter.com Lara Fares https://thedeeperi.com/

00:00 Why Anxiety Hits Everyone 02:28 Quick Calming Tools 05:29 Breathing Rhythm Explained 07:40 Preventing Anxiety Long Term 08:10 Healing Old Wounds 11:17 Transcending Through Meditation 14:43 Tall Mountain Practice 17:31 Detachment vs Non-Attachment 19:19 Using Tall Mountain Anytime 22:45 High Vibration and Loving Kindness 24:21 Giving Love Without Neediness 26:52 Two Worlds, Strength and Karma 30:46 Wrap Up and Next Topic