In today’s episode I’m joined again by Shomit Mitter to talk about acceptance, especially when what’s happened doesn’t seem to make any sense, and how we can find the lesson in difficult times. Shomit describes acceptance as the opposite of avoidance, and shares a simple three-step process: acknowledge what happened, learn from it, then let it go. We talk about how a therapist or wise outsider can help us spot patterns we can’t see ourselves, and why friends sometimes project their own views onto our situation.

We then look at karma as universal cause and effect, and why it should never be used to blame people, especially around illness or tragedy. Shomit explains that when someone is grieving, what they need most is presence, love and listening, with any deeper explanations saved for later and shared at the right level for them. We also talk about staying compassionate in frustrating conversations, the idea that we all share the same Buddha nature, how to see “privileged problems” with perspective and a little humour rather than judgement, and the importance of self-care on bad days. To finish, we touch on earth luck in Chinese astrology and feng shui, and Shomit suggests our friend Jo Russell for guidance.

Get in touch with Jo Russell for Feng Shui and listen to her podcast: https://smashingsecrets.com/our-story

Shomit Mitter www.shomitmitter.com Lara Fares https://thedeeperi.com/

00:00 Why Acceptance Matters 01:29 Three Steps of Acceptance 03:28 Finding the Lesson 04:35 Outside Help and Projection 10:20 When Life Makes No Sense 13:58 Supporting Someone in Grief 15:45 Teaching at the Right Level 17:50 Handling Social Frustration 21:24 Love, Wisdom and Debate 25:13 Privileged Problems and Perspective 30:18 Truth Without Unkindness 33:31 Self Care and Bad Days 35:53 Earth Luck and Feng Shui 39:19 Wrap Up and Next Steps

Lara was born in Lebanon, grew up in France and has been living in London since 1998. Lara is passionate about child welfare and wellbeing, as well as personal inner growth and a spiritual way of living. She has studied Neurolinguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and The 3 Principles by Sydney Banks.

Lara’s true calling in life is to help people be at peace with who they are, connect and align with their true callings, and offer support by sharing all that she has learned through her years of self-work. She has overseen many charitable projects. Always keen to help where she can, Lara is also an ardent supporter of children’s wellbeing, having worked throughout her life to support underprivileged children through charities such as SOS Villages in Lebanon, the British Red Cross and the Speech, Language & Hearing Centre in London, and previously sitting on the Board of Save the Children. She now turns her focus to spiritual enlightenment and personal growth.

For many years Lara has studied and worked with leading spiritual teachers, which has led to her determination to help others find peace and balance.

A creative person at heart, Lara founded THE DEEPER I, which is committed to reaching communities from all walks of life to develop a better sense of self love, self confidence and awareness, to help them trust themselves and trust life in order to thrive through the experience of living.