My gosh, you're good at talking yourself out of shit.

And it feels really convincing. Perfectly logical. Perfectly explainable. You're like, Danya, I know. And you probably do. You've probably taught on it.

Think of something you want that you haven't asked for yet. A sale. A new price point. Asking that person out. Leaving that person. Now ask yourself why you haven't. Not the student answer, the one trying to get it right. Underneath it.

Maybe it's this one. You hired your team member to do the job, and now you feel guilty actually handing her the work. One of my clients finally handed off the sales calls she'd been taking herself, some weeks 16 to 20 of them, and messaged me after: "thanks for challenging my stubborn ass."

It's not about the thing. The thing reveals the guilt, the fear, the shame, the stories underneath.

In this one: what I had hanging around my neck when I walked away from my first career, and why walking away was never the hard part. But I explain what is in this episode, and it's tripping many of you up. The launch you've rinsed and repeated until it's smooth sailing, and the one thing you still can't do with it. Who decided wanting more is greedy. Why I'd give the shirt off my back to a stranger, and what that was actually costing the people I love. The three modes I see people stuck in, and the question that cracks every one of them open. And the number, one to 10, most people are honestly living at.

I get one life, one opportunity. Cue Eminem.

This is the energy behind the Fuck Around and Find Out experiment. Not another course. You've got enough on your plate. It's a mirror. 30 days, give or take, and it's $27 for now Come in here.

Mentioned in the episode:

FAFO Experiement: HERE

Book a Laser Session → HERE

Apply for 1:1 Mentorship → HERE

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Quick note: this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and isn’t a substitute for therapy, medical care, financial advice, or other professional support. Please use your own discernment and seek qualified professionals when needed.

© Danya 2026

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The higher the performer, the more likely you're mistaking pressure for power.

You know how to focus. You know how to execute, how to push, how to discipline yourself and optimise and perform under pressure. That's why you've created what you've created.

And when I say that, I get the same answer. "No, Danya, hard work's my edge"

Yeah. I used to say it too. I could outwork anyone. It landed me in the hospital twice.

In this one I break down the three frequencies I see in almost every high performer I've worked with. The first one got you great results, and it's like putting the most cheap ass gas in a Lamborghini. The second one is the one nobody posts about. The business is built, things are automating, the team's doing its job, and you're bored as fuck. The third is where I want you, and it isn't the version your mind's concocted up right now.

There's a figure skater I can't stop thinking about. She retired because her body was breaking down and she wasn't having fun anymore. Then she came back and said fuck the rules.

There's why you get dumber the second something matters. A $100,000 more, a new client, a different conversation. And how you can catch it in your own language before you've even noticed your chest.

There's the one I hear every week. "But if I stop pushing, everything will fall apart. Danya, you don't understand how I've built this." Yeah. At a cost.

And at the end, your Fuck Around and Find Out experiment for today. One question, for the thing in your business that's been making your heart race.

You've already proven you can perform under pressure. The question now is, can you create from play?

The Fuck Around and Find Out experiment has started, you coming in!?

Not by adding more. You don't need more. You need less. It's only $27 for now. Get in before it rises.

Mentioned in the episode:

FAFO Experiement: HERE

Book a Laser Session → HERE

Apply for 1:1 Mentorship → HERE

Connect with Danya further:

Instagram → HERE

Tik Tok → HERE

And if there’s something you’d love to hear explored on the podcast, send me a message.

Quick note: this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and isn’t a substitute for therapy, medical care, financial advice, or other professional support. Please use your own discernment and seek qualified professionals when needed.

© Danya 2026

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I was booking flights and researching points and I was like, I don't want to do this. I just don't want to.

I know I'm very capable of figuring anything out. I've always done it. I don't want to.

So I asked myself, can you imagine if I just asked if someone wants to share their points with me? Wait a second. Danya, I think you're onto something here.

Then I bumped into an architect walking her dogs. Piercing blue eyes. We're talking about the grey coming into Vancouver and she goes, oh man, I wish I could travel. I wish I could do what you do.

Third person that week. Why can't you? Have you asked?

She hadn't.

In this one: what she found out about a colleague at her own firm, and what she's doing when she gets back to the office. The chiropractor who told me you can't have it all, and what I said back in my head. The Facebook memory of me on a pool deck in my Team Canada gear, and the one question that took me off it. And the figure skater at the Olympics who got asked about the pressure and went, what? I don't see it as that.

This is the Fuck Around and Find Out experiment. Tell the truth. Ask for what you want. Find out what happens.

The truth part is where I've been lying to myself, even subtly, and I take such pride in not settling. Someone asks you for plans, it's a lukewarm yes, you don't actually want to go. You say yes anyway. Why?

The ask part is the cringe part. Points. A home base. A director who can put me in a rom-com holiday movie. Why not? Three possibilities. I get it, I get something different, or it's a no. If you don't ask, you get nothing. You just sit with the overthinking.

And I know you've done a fuck ton of work. Stop trying to dig up the roots of everything and go live. You'll see your edges by living, not by digging.

There's the successful prison of being so self-aware you can explain exactly why you're not doing the thing. And the one of always being the reliable one who does everything herself. I've built both.

And at the end, why you have to tear the house down before you can build a bigger one, and the part everyone forgets about the foundation.

Your 100 year old self isn't giving a shit about what you're worrying about right now. Mine's like, babe, do it for the plot.

The Fuck Around and Find Out experiment starts Thursday 1 October. I'm building it live with the people inside it. It's $27 to come in right now and the price doubles as we go. DM or email me FAFO before the price doubles. and doubles. and keeps on doubling. Get in now while it's less than your morning Erewhon smoothie ;)

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Mentioned in the episode:

Book a Laser Session → HERE

Apply for 1:1 Mentorship → HERE

Connect with Danya further:

Instagram → HERE

Tik Tok → HERE

And if there’s something you’d love to hear explored on the podcast, send me a message.

Quick note: this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and isn’t a substitute for therapy, medical care, financial advice, or other professional support. Please use your own discernment and seek qualified professionals when needed.

© Danya 2026

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