In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the theme of "unbecoming"—letting go of societal expectations, old identities, and limiting beliefs to embrace authenticity. Drawing inspiration from Brené Brown's "The Gifts of Imperfection," Toi shares personal reflections on growth, healing, and self-acceptance. She discusses grieving losses in relationships and friendships with gratitude for the lessons learned, and encourages listeners to release what no longer serves them. The episode highlights the transformative journey toward self-discovery, self-worth, and living unapologetically as one's true self.

Timestamps

Inspiration from Brené Brown & The Gifts of Imperfection (00:00:45) Toi discusses how Brené Brown's book inspired her to let go of societal expectations and embrace authenticity.

Embracing Change and Self-Acceptance (00:01:35) Toi reflects on learning to accept herself, embracing growth, and being okay with not always being okay.

Letting Go of Past Hurt and Setting Boundaries (00:03:02) Toi talks about recognizing self-worth, not tolerating mistreatment, and the importance of shedding what no longer serves.

Gratitude in Grief and Lessons from Loss (00:04:32) Toi explains the need for gratitude during grief, using breakups and friendships as examples of learning and moving on.

Freedom After Letting Go (00:07:15) Toi describes the relief and empowerment that comes from releasing pain and embracing new standards for oneself.

Pursuing Authentic Passions (00:08:44) Toi encourages following true passions, letting go of old expectations, and embracing a colorful, authentic life.

Owning Your Authenticity (00:10:02) Toi emphasizes the importance of shining your light, being authentic, and trusting that what's meant for you will stay.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

'Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so I could finally become who I'm meant to be.'

'I'm okay with being me. I'm okay with learning who I am. I'm okay with changing. I'm okay with growth. I'm okay with healing.'

'I didn't truly love myself at a degree that was acceptable or plausible.'

'Be grateful that you're no longer crying in the shower, that there's no more hurt, and that you're not running after that person.'

'Remember, the most powerful thing you can be is you.'

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"Unbecoming is not about losing yourself—it's about letting go of what was never truly you."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, setting the stage for a podcast focused on growth. Centering on the theme "Love Yourself," Toi discusses the importance of self-love as an active, daily practice. She offers practical tips—like affirmations and self-reflection—and encourages listeners to value themselves, set healthy boundaries, and treat themselves with kindness. Through candid stories and heartfelt advice, Toi inspires listeners to embrace their worth and continue their own journeys toward healing and authenticity.

Timestamps

Defining Self-Love (00:00:44) Explains self-love as action, not just words; discusses affirmations, journaling, treating oneself, and recognizing self-worth.

Celebrating Yourself Amidst Busyness (00:01:33) Encourages listeners to appreciate themselves despite busy lives, suggesting small acts of self-recognition and gratitude.

Gratitude and Perseverance (00:02:50) Highlights self-love as gratitude, perseverance through tough times, and loving oneself even during emotional struggles.

Learning Self-Worth Through Challenges (00:04:02) Shares personal experiences of not knowing her worth, settling, and learning self-love through difficult seasons.

Recognizing and Rejecting Unacceptable Treatment (00:05:41) Discusses how self-love helps avoid tolerating unacceptable behavior and encourages treating oneself as well as one treats others.

Setting High Standards for Love (00:07:01) Emphasizes loving oneself to a high standard, using affirmations, and not accepting less than one deserves.

Final Thoughts on Self-Worth (00:08:36) Reiterates the importance of self-worth, self-care, and not letting others diminish your value.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

'Even on the days I don't feel like getting up or doing what needs to be done, it's okay. I continue to love myself and encourage myself because I've got this.'

'There has been a season or two in my life where I didn't know my worth, and I settled for something I didn't deserve.'

'I didn't love myself enough to not sit there and take what I had to take in that season, because I felt that was the best it was.'

'What taught me my worth was having to go through those seasons, face those challenges, and take accountability for my part in it.'

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"Self-love is the moment you stop settling and start choosing the version of you that knows she deserves the best."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey through a stressful season, highlighting the transformative power of breathwork. She discusses how intentional breathing helped her manage overwhelming responsibilities, find calm, and foster healing. Toi encourages listeners to pause and breathe, even briefly, as a way to regain control and hope during difficult times. The episode offers reassurance that challenges are temporary and better days are ahead, closing with a reminder to embrace self-care and share the message with others navigating their own journeys.

Timestamps

Introduction & Podcast Purpose (00:00:04) Toi introduces herself, the podcast, and its focus on healing, growth, and personal transformation.

Episode Theme: Breathwork Inspiration (00:00:45) Toi shares her inspiration for the episode, discussing stressful life seasons and the need to pause and breathe.

Learning to Breathe Amidst Stress (00:01:34) She emphasizes the importance of taking even a minute to breathe during overwhelming times and self-reassurance.

Breathwork as a Healing Modality (00:02:55) Toi explains how breathwork helped her manage stress, channel emotions, and regain control during difficult moments.

Personal Growth Through Breathwork (00:04:20) She reflects on lessons learned from breathwork, gratitude for her teacher, and encourages listeners to breathe through challenges.

Closing & Encouragement (00:05:50) Toi offers hope, reminding listeners that after hardship comes better days, and reiterates the importance of breathing.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

'Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be.'

'There were times I didn't have anyone to depend on but myself, and I had to make do with what was due.'

'Sometimes, all I have is a minute, so I just close my eyes and tell myself it's going to be okay and that the best is yet to come.'

'Breathwork has helped me tremendously; it has opened my eyes to so many things, like how to channel myself and use it as stress relief.'

'Now, when deadlines are coming up, I channel my breaths, rescue myself, gather my thoughts, and tell myself that it's okay.'

'I remind myself that this is not the end, and that whatever I'm going through, I'll make it out and I'll be okay.'

'I'm grateful and thankful for the light that breathwork has shown me.'

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"Sometimes, all it takes is a single breath to remind yourself that the best is yet to come."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the healing modalities of hypnosis and journaling. She shares personal experiences with hypnosis, emphasizing its power to access the subconscious, foster self-awareness, and support overcoming challenges like imposter syndrome. Toi highlights journaling as a vital companion to hypnosis, helping process insights and emotions. She encourages listeners to embrace self-care, avoid comparisons, and honor their unique healing journeys. The episode underscores the importance of growth, accountability, and staying open to change, reminding listeners that true healing begins with self-acceptance and personal responsibility.

Timestamps

Episode Topic Introduction: Hypnosis & Journaling (00:00:45) Toi introduces hypnosis and journaling as healing modalities and explains their interconnectedness.

Experiencing Hypnosis: Insights & Downloads (00:01:25) Describes personal experiences with hypnosis, including delayed insights and increased self-awareness after sessions.

Prioritizing Self-Care & Boundaries (00:05:07) Emphasizes the importance of self-care, using the oxygen mask analogy, and learning to set boundaries.

Accepting Your Own Pace in Healing (00:06:05) Discusses the value of embracing your unique journey and not comparing your progress to others.

Embracing Change, Growth, and Accountability (00:08:40) Encourages embracing change, growth, and self-accountability as essential parts of the healing journey.

Letting Go & Moving Forward (00:10:03) Talks about releasing people who no longer serve your growth and learning from the "lonely season."

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

Hypnosis has helped me stamp out imposter syndrome because I now understand that what is for me is for me, and what has my name on it is not meant for anyone else.'

'Hypnosis has shown me that I'm okay with not being okay.'

'I've learned that it's okay to be on step five when everyone else is on step ten.'

'You don't know how long it took, how many tears they've cried, or how many things they went without to actually have that blessing.'

'I'm telling you, these modalities are going to hit home, and some of them aren't going to be pretty, but if you're open to it, it will be amazing.'

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"Healing isn't about keeping up with anyone else — it's about becoming the truest version of you."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey of healing and growth, exploring the concept of "unbecoming" to become your true self. She discusses healthy healing practices, including hypnosis, journaling, breathwork, reiki, and traditional therapy, sharing her own experiences and insights. Toi emphasizes the importance of embracing diverse healing modalities, letting go of self-judgment, and focusing on personal progress. She encourages listeners to explore these practices, offering support and resources for anyone interested in deepening their healing journey. The episode inspires self-acceptance and holistic well-being.

Timestamps

Overview of Healthy Healing (00:00:45)
Toi explains the concept of healthy healing and introduces various healing modalities alongside traditional therapy.

Hypnosis and Inner Child Work (00:01:35)
Discussion of hypnosis as a healing tool, including personal experiences addressing childhood wounds.

Journaling for Emotional Release (00:03:04)
Explains the importance of journaling for processing and releasing negative thoughts and emotions.

Overcoming Negative Thinking (00:04:33)
Addresses the impact of negative thoughts and the importance of shifting to a positive mindset.

Comparison and Personal Growth (00:05:50)
Toi discusses avoiding comparison with others and focusing on personal progress and gratitude.

Breathwork and Reiki Therapy (00:08:21)
Introduces breathwork and reiki therapy as modalities for stress reduction, relaxation, and energy alignment.

Encouragement and Resources (00:09:50)
Encourages listeners to try healthy healing modalities and offers to provide resources and professional references.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"I've always thought that I wanted to be the best person I can be, better than I was yesterday."

"It's okay to feel down about not being where you want to be, but get through those feelings and be grateful for the lessons you've learned."

"Breathwork really does work if you learn how to calm yourself with breathing and not let anxiety take over."

"It's okay to exhale, to rest, to relax, and not be stressed out."

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"Healing isn't about becoming someone new — it's about returning to who you were meant to be."

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In episode 4 of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the importance of self-care and self-evaluation, emphasizing that self-care looks different for everyone. She discusses practices like spa visits, exercise, journaling, and inner child and shadow work as vital for healing. Toi encourages listeners to prioritize their well-being, embrace change, and regularly engage in self-care activities. She reminds listeners that taking care of oneself is essential, as ultimately, you are responsible for your own well-being. The episode ends with a call to action to discover and commit to personal self-care routines.

Timestamps

Different Forms of Self-Care (00:01:38)
Explores diverse self-care activities: spa, retail therapy, exercise, journaling, and personal routines.

Self-Care in Everyday Life (00:03:01)
Discusses simple self-care acts like reading, bathing, and making time for oneself amid daily responsibilities.

The Importance of Prioritizing Yourself (00:04:22)
Emphasizes not neglecting oneself while caring for others and the necessity of breathing and pausing.

Shadow Work and Facing Your Darkness (00:06:47)
Describes shadow work, confronting negative emotions, and the importance of addressing hidden pain.

Self-Reflection and Embracing Change (00:08:03)
Encourages self-reflection, adapting to change, and understanding oneself through different life seasons.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

'Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so I could finally become who I'm meant to be.'

'It's okay to not be okay, and taking that time of not being okay is self-care for some people.'

'At the end of the day, the only person you're left with is yourself.'

'Sometimes you're not going to be okay, and you have to be okay with sitting with that and getting through it to get to the other side.'

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"At the end of the day, the only person you're left with is yourself—taking care of yourself is not selfish, it's essential."

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In this third episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores "The Lonely Season," a period of solitude that often follows outgrowing relationships, friendships, or life situations. Toi shares personal stories of navigating loneliness during major life transitions and emphasizes how this challenging time is essential for self-discovery, healing, and growth. She encourages listeners to embrace the discomfort, confront their flaws, and take accountability, highlighting that the lonely season—though difficult—ultimately leads to deeper self-understanding and transformation. The episode concludes with a promise to discuss practical self-care strategies in the next installment.

Timestamps

Defining the Lonely Season (00:00:44) Toi explains what the "lonely season" is and when it typically occurs in life.

Lonely Season in Friendships (00:01:29) Toi shares personal experiences of outgrowing friendships and the resulting loneliness.

Travel and Self-Discovery (00:03:07) Toi discusses how travel and new experiences during lonely times contributed to her self-discovery.

Gratitude for Growth (00:05:00) Toi expresses gratitude for the experiences and people that shaped her during lonely seasons.

Self-Reflection and Accountability (00:07:56) Toi emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, dating oneself, and personal growth during lonely times.

Facing Yourself & Shadow Work (00:09:02) Toi discusses the necessity of confronting personal flaws and doing "shadow work" during the lonely season.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"Had I not done that, I would not have become the person I am today."

"The lonely season when it comes to relationships has been the most difficult."

"During the lonely season, I'm telling you from absolute experience, you're going to learn who you are."

"I allowed that person to use me as a solution to a problem I never created."

"During this lonely season, from my experience, the one person you can't lie to is yourself."

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"The lonely season isn't punishment—it's preparation for who you're becoming."

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In this throwback episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi reflects on her introduction to podcasting over five years ago. She shares a deeply personal story about considering a podcast centered on a difficult, controlling relationship with someone who was incarcerated. Toi discusses how that painful chapter became a catalyst for her healing and growth, ultimately shaping the podcast's mission. She emphasizes the importance of embracing one's true self and encourages listeners to see their own challenging seasons as opportunities for transformation.

Timestamps

Throwback: Discovering Podcasting (00:00:44)
Toi recounts her first exposure to podcasting over five years ago and her initial curiosity about the medium.

Enrolling in a Podcasting Class (00:01:40)
Toi describes joining a podcasting class and considering a show about a difficult relationship during a low point in her life.

Reflecting on a Transformative Relationship (00:03:18)
Toi reflects on how a controlling relationship became a turning point, leading to personal growth and a "shedding season."

Gratitude and Lessons Learned (00:05:01)
Toi expresses gratitude for not making the relationship public, recognizing it as a lesson and not her true identity.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

That relationship wasn't the best, and as reflective as I can be, it was a turning point that made me go through a lonely season and a shedding season."

"I grieved that relationship when it was over. It was very controlling, very traumatizing, and very hurtful."

"When it came to the headspace and where I was in my life, I wasn't happy, I wasn't feeling worthy, I wasn't positive, I wasn't cheerful, I wasn't me."

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"Your pain can be the birthplace of your purpose."

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