In this episode of Unbecoming Me with Toi, host Toi shares personal do's and don'ts she's learned through her journey of self-discovery. She reflects on lessons around relationships and boundaries, including never chasing people, not placing others above yourself, and recognizing the difference between wanting and needing someone. Toi emphasizes knowing your worth, embracing low-maintenance friendships, and cherishing quality time. She also highlights the importance of being a true partner rather than a fan in relationships. The episode encourages listeners to live authentically and shed old patterns to embrace who they're truly meant to be.

Timestamps

Episode Context & Do's and Don'ts Introduction (00:00:46) Toi explains the episode's connection to the previous one and introduces the topic of life's do's and don'ts.

Setting Expectations & Boundaries (00:01:28) Discusses not demanding what you can't deliver, not insulting intelligence, and the importance of recognizing consequences.

Low Maintenance Friendships & Quality Time (00:02:52) Explains being a low maintenance friend, valuing quality time, and understanding life's obligations.

Experiences & Identity Beyond Roles (00:04:12) Talks about enjoying experiences with friends and exploring identity beyond societal roles like mother or career woman.

Letting Go & Self-Discovery Journey (00:06:18) Reflects on personal growth, letting go of over-giving, and embracing self-worth and alignment.

Six Major Lessons from Unbecoming (00:08:24) Shares key lessons: not chasing people, not putting others above self, and understanding healthy relationship dynamics.

Being a Partner, Not a Fan (00:09:38) Emphasizes the importance of being a partner in relationships, not a fan, and maintaining mutual respect.

Closing Thoughts & Encouragement (00:11:43) Toi offers encouragement, gratitude, and invites feedback from listeners.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"Once ladies become mothers or career-driven women, that's who they say they are, but when you take off those hats, who are you?'

"When I first started this journey of discovering who I was, I overgave, and now I don't do that."

"Now that I truly know myself and I understand my worth, everything's in alignment, and I'm going to continue to walk in this alignment."

"You don't want to give someone so much power that they feel you can't live without them, because you can."

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"It's okay to not be okay—sometimes the pause is exactly what prepares you for your next season."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi returns after a brief hiatus, candidly sharing her recent struggles with grief, illness, and life's busyness. She emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to pause, heal, and unlearn societal pressures to always be "okay." Toi encourages listeners to embrace their unique journeys, highlighting her own story of patience and growth through career changes. The episode offers understanding, motivation, and reassurance that everyone's "due season" will come, reminding listeners not to give up and to trust their personal process of healing and transformation.

Timestamps

Personal Update & Absence Explained (00:00:46)
Toi explains her recent absence due to grief, illness, and life challenges, and acknowledges listeners facing similar struggles.

Societal Pressures & Permission to Pause (00:01:25)
Discussion on societal expectations to always be okay, and the importance of allowing oneself to take breaks and process emotions.

Unlearning Guilt & Embracing Experiences (00:02:48)
Toi shares her journey of unlearning guilt for missing events, celebrating personal wins, and valuing meaningful experiences.

Parenting & Value of Experiences Over Things (00:04:13)
Toi contrasts material possessions with the value of experiences for her son, emphasizing growth and exploration.

Encouragement & Motivation to Persevere (00:05:35)
Encourages listeners to breathe, persevere through tough times, and believe in positive outcomes and personal growth.

Due Season & Career Journey Story (00:06:54)
Toi shares a personal story about waiting for the right timing in her career, illustrating the concept of "due season."

Celebrating Success & Embracing the Season (00:08:06)
She celebrates her new job, reflects on growth, and encourages listeners to recognize and embrace their own seasons.

Final Encouragement & Episode Wrap-Up (00:09:25)
Toi motivates listeners to keep going, trust their journey, and not give up, closing the episode with encouragement.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"I've been hit by grief. I've been sick. My son has been sick. Life has just been life-ing."

"Something in my gut told me and reminded me, this isn't your season. You still have lessons to learn."

"This was my season. I got the job, and I'm the happiest I've been because I recognize that this is actually my season for this chapter."

"When I tell you I am a believer in that, and I am on the other end of that, I can tell you it's true."

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In the season finale of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi invites listeners to reflect on their true selves as they enter 2026. Exploring identity through the company we keep, our shadow sides, and authentic character, Toi encourages embracing every part of oneself—good, bad, and ugly. She revisits themes of healing, self-love, and growth, reminding listeners that it's okay to let go of relationships and old identities. Toi urges her audience to step into the new year with gratitude, authenticity, and supportive connections, emphasizing that being unapologetically yourself is the greatest gift.

Timestamps

Three Aspects of Identity (00:00:44)
Explains identity through company you keep, your shadow side, and your true character.

Season Reflection & Embracing Authenticity (00:02:54)
Reflects on season themes: self-care, self-love, embracing all parts of oneself, and the importance of authenticity.

Growth Beyond Titles & Entering 2026 (00:04:08)
Encourages listeners to look beyond roles and titles, and consider who they are entering the new year with.

Letting Go & Embracing New Relationships (00:05:20)
Discusses the acceptance of ending relationships, healing, and becoming a new version of oneself.

Shadow Side & Character for the New Year (00:06:34)
Urges accountability for one's shadow side and reflection on character for the upcoming year.

Affirmation & Support for Authenticity (00:07:53)
Affirms listeners' worth, encourages authentic living, and offers support for personal growth.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"Over the past five years, I have been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"Sometimes, I just want to be myself and embrace who I am, willing to heal the bad and showcase the good."

"It's okay to move on and get to know a new me after shedding all of that."

"You deserve to be who you truly are, unapologetically and authentically."

"If you need help, let me know and I'll help you—I'm here."

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"Stepping into a new year isn't about becoming someone new—it's about being more of who you truly are."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the theme of "unbecoming"—letting go of societal expectations, old identities, and limiting beliefs to embrace authenticity. Drawing inspiration from Brené Brown's "The Gifts of Imperfection," Toi shares personal reflections on growth, healing, and self-acceptance. She discusses grieving losses in relationships and friendships with gratitude for the lessons learned, and encourages listeners to release what no longer serves them. The episode highlights the transformative journey toward self-discovery, self-worth, and living unapologetically as one's true self.

Timestamps

Inspiration from Brené Brown & The Gifts of Imperfection (00:00:45) Toi discusses how Brené Brown's book inspired her to let go of societal expectations and embrace authenticity.

Embracing Change and Self-Acceptance (00:01:35) Toi reflects on learning to accept herself, embracing growth, and being okay with not always being okay.

Letting Go of Past Hurt and Setting Boundaries (00:03:02) Toi talks about recognizing self-worth, not tolerating mistreatment, and the importance of shedding what no longer serves.

Gratitude in Grief and Lessons from Loss (00:04:32) Toi explains the need for gratitude during grief, using breakups and friendships as examples of learning and moving on.

Freedom After Letting Go (00:07:15) Toi describes the relief and empowerment that comes from releasing pain and embracing new standards for oneself.

Pursuing Authentic Passions (00:08:44) Toi encourages following true passions, letting go of old expectations, and embracing a colorful, authentic life.

Owning Your Authenticity (00:10:02) Toi emphasizes the importance of shining your light, being authentic, and trusting that what's meant for you will stay.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

'Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so I could finally become who I'm meant to be.'

'I'm okay with being me. I'm okay with learning who I am. I'm okay with changing. I'm okay with growth. I'm okay with healing.'

'I didn't truly love myself at a degree that was acceptable or plausible.'

'Be grateful that you're no longer crying in the shower, that there's no more hurt, and that you're not running after that person.'

'Remember, the most powerful thing you can be is you.'

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"Unbecoming is not about losing yourself—it's about letting go of what was never truly you."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, setting the stage for a podcast focused on growth. Centering on the theme "Love Yourself," Toi discusses the importance of self-love as an active, daily practice. She offers practical tips—like affirmations and self-reflection—and encourages listeners to value themselves, set healthy boundaries, and treat themselves with kindness. Through candid stories and heartfelt advice, Toi inspires listeners to embrace their worth and continue their own journeys toward healing and authenticity.

Timestamps

Defining Self-Love (00:00:44) Explains self-love as action, not just words; discusses affirmations, journaling, treating oneself, and recognizing self-worth.

Celebrating Yourself Amidst Busyness (00:01:33) Encourages listeners to appreciate themselves despite busy lives, suggesting small acts of self-recognition and gratitude.

Gratitude and Perseverance (00:02:50) Highlights self-love as gratitude, perseverance through tough times, and loving oneself even during emotional struggles.

Learning Self-Worth Through Challenges (00:04:02) Shares personal experiences of not knowing her worth, settling, and learning self-love through difficult seasons.

Recognizing and Rejecting Unacceptable Treatment (00:05:41) Discusses how self-love helps avoid tolerating unacceptable behavior and encourages treating oneself as well as one treats others.

Setting High Standards for Love (00:07:01) Emphasizes loving oneself to a high standard, using affirmations, and not accepting less than one deserves.

Final Thoughts on Self-Worth (00:08:36) Reiterates the importance of self-worth, self-care, and not letting others diminish your value.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

'Even on the days I don't feel like getting up or doing what needs to be done, it's okay. I continue to love myself and encourage myself because I've got this.'

'There has been a season or two in my life where I didn't know my worth, and I settled for something I didn't deserve.'

'I didn't love myself enough to not sit there and take what I had to take in that season, because I felt that was the best it was.'

'What taught me my worth was having to go through those seasons, face those challenges, and take accountability for my part in it.'

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"Self-love is the moment you stop settling and start choosing the version of you that knows she deserves the best."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey through a stressful season, highlighting the transformative power of breathwork. She discusses how intentional breathing helped her manage overwhelming responsibilities, find calm, and foster healing. Toi encourages listeners to pause and breathe, even briefly, as a way to regain control and hope during difficult times. The episode offers reassurance that challenges are temporary and better days are ahead, closing with a reminder to embrace self-care and share the message with others navigating their own journeys.

Timestamps

Introduction & Podcast Purpose (00:00:04) Toi introduces herself, the podcast, and its focus on healing, growth, and personal transformation.

Episode Theme: Breathwork Inspiration (00:00:45) Toi shares her inspiration for the episode, discussing stressful life seasons and the need to pause and breathe.

Learning to Breathe Amidst Stress (00:01:34) She emphasizes the importance of taking even a minute to breathe during overwhelming times and self-reassurance.

Breathwork as a Healing Modality (00:02:55) Toi explains how breathwork helped her manage stress, channel emotions, and regain control during difficult moments.

Personal Growth Through Breathwork (00:04:20) She reflects on lessons learned from breathwork, gratitude for her teacher, and encourages listeners to breathe through challenges.

Closing & Encouragement (00:05:50) Toi offers hope, reminding listeners that after hardship comes better days, and reiterates the importance of breathing.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

'Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be.'

'There were times I didn't have anyone to depend on but myself, and I had to make do with what was due.'

'Sometimes, all I have is a minute, so I just close my eyes and tell myself it's going to be okay and that the best is yet to come.'

'Breathwork has helped me tremendously; it has opened my eyes to so many things, like how to channel myself and use it as stress relief.'

'Now, when deadlines are coming up, I channel my breaths, rescue myself, gather my thoughts, and tell myself that it's okay.'

'I remind myself that this is not the end, and that whatever I'm going through, I'll make it out and I'll be okay.'

'I'm grateful and thankful for the light that breathwork has shown me.'

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"Sometimes, all it takes is a single breath to remind yourself that the best is yet to come."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the healing modalities of hypnosis and journaling. She shares personal experiences with hypnosis, emphasizing its power to access the subconscious, foster self-awareness, and support overcoming challenges like imposter syndrome. Toi highlights journaling as a vital companion to hypnosis, helping process insights and emotions. She encourages listeners to embrace self-care, avoid comparisons, and honor their unique healing journeys. The episode underscores the importance of growth, accountability, and staying open to change, reminding listeners that true healing begins with self-acceptance and personal responsibility.

Timestamps

Episode Topic Introduction: Hypnosis & Journaling (00:00:45) Toi introduces hypnosis and journaling as healing modalities and explains their interconnectedness.

Experiencing Hypnosis: Insights & Downloads (00:01:25) Describes personal experiences with hypnosis, including delayed insights and increased self-awareness after sessions.

Prioritizing Self-Care & Boundaries (00:05:07) Emphasizes the importance of self-care, using the oxygen mask analogy, and learning to set boundaries.

Accepting Your Own Pace in Healing (00:06:05) Discusses the value of embracing your unique journey and not comparing your progress to others.

Embracing Change, Growth, and Accountability (00:08:40) Encourages embracing change, growth, and self-accountability as essential parts of the healing journey.

Letting Go & Moving Forward (00:10:03) Talks about releasing people who no longer serve your growth and learning from the "lonely season."

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

Hypnosis has helped me stamp out imposter syndrome because I now understand that what is for me is for me, and what has my name on it is not meant for anyone else.'

'Hypnosis has shown me that I'm okay with not being okay.'

'I've learned that it's okay to be on step five when everyone else is on step ten.'

'You don't know how long it took, how many tears they've cried, or how many things they went without to actually have that blessing.'

'I'm telling you, these modalities are going to hit home, and some of them aren't going to be pretty, but if you're open to it, it will be amazing.'

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"Healing isn't about keeping up with anyone else — it's about becoming the truest version of you."

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In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey of healing and growth, exploring the concept of "unbecoming" to become your true self. She discusses healthy healing practices, including hypnosis, journaling, breathwork, reiki, and traditional therapy, sharing her own experiences and insights. Toi emphasizes the importance of embracing diverse healing modalities, letting go of self-judgment, and focusing on personal progress. She encourages listeners to explore these practices, offering support and resources for anyone interested in deepening their healing journey. The episode inspires self-acceptance and holistic well-being.

Timestamps

Overview of Healthy Healing (00:00:45)
Toi explains the concept of healthy healing and introduces various healing modalities alongside traditional therapy.

Hypnosis and Inner Child Work (00:01:35)
Discussion of hypnosis as a healing tool, including personal experiences addressing childhood wounds.

Journaling for Emotional Release (00:03:04)
Explains the importance of journaling for processing and releasing negative thoughts and emotions.

Overcoming Negative Thinking (00:04:33)
Addresses the impact of negative thoughts and the importance of shifting to a positive mindset.

Comparison and Personal Growth (00:05:50)
Toi discusses avoiding comparison with others and focusing on personal progress and gratitude.

Breathwork and Reiki Therapy (00:08:21)
Introduces breathwork and reiki therapy as modalities for stress reduction, relaxation, and energy alignment.

Encouragement and Resources (00:09:50)
Encourages listeners to try healthy healing modalities and offers to provide resources and professional references.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"I've always thought that I wanted to be the best person I can be, better than I was yesterday."

"It's okay to feel down about not being where you want to be, but get through those feelings and be grateful for the lessons you've learned."

"Breathwork really does work if you learn how to calm yourself with breathing and not let anxiety take over."

"It's okay to exhale, to rest, to relax, and not be stressed out."

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"Healing isn't about becoming someone new — it's about returning to who you were meant to be."

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