Everyone else puts a costume on this week. You've been wearing one all year. In this episode, Dr. Shena closes October by naming the face you put on for work, for family, for church, for the group chat — the composed, capable, unbothered version of you that keeps everyone comfortable and keeps you unknown. You'll learn the difference between a healthy professional role and a mask that has fused to your skin, how to find the one person who gets the real version first, and what it costs your body to perform steadiness you don't feel. Head to audiobookschool.com and explore The Unwine Club—where your intentions, scripts, and reflections become part of a long-term plan. Join the community at www.audiobookschool.com

By the time the holidays arrive, it's too late to decide how you want to be treated. In this episode, Dr. Shena walks you through setting your holiday boundaries in October — while nobody is upset, nothing is scheduled, and you can still think clearly. You'll map the conversations you already know are coming, decide in advance what you will and won't do this season, and write the short scripts that let you answer an invitation without spiraling. This is the least dramatic, most protective work you can do this month. Head to audiobookschool.com and explore The Unwine Club—where your intentions, scripts, and reflections become part of a long-term plan. Join the community at www.audiobookschool.com

You've been changing, and some people are still responding to the version of you they met years ago. In this episode, Dr. Shena talks about the strange grief of growing inside old relationships — being treated as the fixer, the flexible one, the one who never minds — long after you stopped agreeing to it. You'll learn why people default to their oldest file on you, how to update them out loud without making it a confrontation, and how to tell the difference between someone who needs information and someone who is choosing not to update. Head to audiobookschool.com and explore The Unwine Club—where your intentions, scripts, and reflections become part of a long-term plan. Join the community at www.audiobookschool.com

Sorry to bother you. Sorry, quick question. Sorry, I know you're busy. In this episode, Dr. Shena looks at the apology you attach to ordinary requests — and what it quietly teaches people about how much space you believe you deserve. You'll learn the difference between a repair, which belongs in a relationship, and a reflex, which shrinks you in real time, and you'll practice replacing the automatic sorry with something clearer and steadier. This is not about being harder. It's about being accurate. Head to audiobookschool.com and explore The Unwine Club—where your intentions, scripts, and reflections become part of a long-term plan. Join the community at www.audiobookschool.com

You can be the kindest person in the room and still not be telling the truth. In this episode, Dr. Shena opens October by separating niceness — a performance built to keep other people comfortable — from honesty, which sometimes costs you approval in the moment and buys you real closeness later. You'll look at where you smooth things over, agree out loud while disagreeing inside, and call it being a good person. Then you'll write one honest sentence you have been rounding off, and practice saying it kindly and clearly. Head to audiobookschool.com and explore The Unwine Club—where your intentions, scripts, and reflections become part of a long-term plan. Join the community at www.audiobookschool.com

You’ve been doing a lot—thinking differently, talking differently, trying new scripts—and now your brain and heart need a minute. This break‑week episode helps you integrate August and September’s work into a Personal CAP communication plan. We’ll review your technology habits, self‑concept, emotions, perception, nonverbals, triangular conversations, and relational scripts, and invite you to choose one or two that you want to keep practicing on purpose. Your conversational work this week is to write a short “Fall Communication Intention” and submit it to audiobookschool.com, so you have a clear, gentle plan going into the professional‑communication focus in October.

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You’re the glue—the one who checks in, smooths things over, remembers everything, and does the emotional labor that keeps friendships, family ties, and work relationships from falling apart. This episode focuses on relational context and conversational scripts: how different relationships (family, friends, coworkers, partners) call out different versions of you, and how your communication can either reinforce unhealthy dynamics or gently shift them. We’ll build one simple script per context—family, friendship, work, romance—so you have language for saying “I can’t carry this alone anymore.” You’ll be asked to choose one script, try it in real life, and then submit it to audiobookschool.com along with what happened, as part of your Relational CAP work.

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You’re always in the middle—translating between friends who don’t get each other, coworkers who are fighting, or family members who only speak through you. This episode introduces language, interpersonal interactions, and triangular conversations: how your words carry responsibility for three people at once and how that can quietly burn you out. We’ll break down a simple triangular support script you can use when you’re caught between two people, so you’re helpful without being harmed. After you try it, you’ll be invited to submit your script and how it went to audiobookschool.com as part of your Triangular Conversations CAP work.

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