Before you can change anything, you have to be willing to tell the truth about how heavy your life has really become. This episode returns to the core theme of The Unwine Club—you’ve been carrying it all—and looks specifically at how “being good under pressure” quietly turns into an identity that traps you. We explore how you’ve trained people to believe you’re always okay, why your automatic “I’m fine, just busy” keeps you isolated, and what it costs you to keep pretending you don’t need help. You’ll be invited to try one small shift in how you answer when someone asks how you are—offering a slightly more honest response and noticing who can hold that truth with you. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where the people who hold everyone else up finally get a chance to be held, too.

There comes a point where keeping the unspoken rules—staying quiet, staying small, staying agreeable—costs more than it protects. This episode is for the moment after you start telling the truth and setting boundaries: when the system around you reacts, and you’re tempted to believe you’ve made a mistake. We look at what really happens when you break the rules nobody wrote down but everybody enforced—the guilt, the pushback, the labels—and why other people’s discomfort doesn’t automatically mean you’re wrong. You’ll be guided to name the rule you’re breaking, anticipate the reactions that scare you most, and write down the real reasons your boundary or decision still matters for your wellbeing. Then you’ll choose one grounding sentence you can return to when the emotional noise gets loud, so you don’t talk yourself out of the growth you were brave enough to begin. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where we’re honest about the cost of breaking unspoken rules and just as honest about the freedom on the other side.

Most of us were never directly taught how to do healthy relationships—we just absorbed whatever we saw growing up and carried it into adulthood, whether it served us or not. This episode gets honest about the quiet “curriculum” your family gave you: how they fought, forgave, shut down, or pretended, and how those unspoken lessons now show up in the way you communicate, argue, apologize, and choose partners or friends. You’ll walk through a simple three-part reflection—what you saw, what you learned from it, and what you actually want instead—so you can stop calling yourself “bad at relationships” and start seeing that you’ve simply been using old scripts. Then you’ll choose one small, practical shift that aligns with the kind of relationship you want to build now, not the ones you watched growing up. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where we gently rewrite the relationship lessons nobody ever sat down and taught us on purpose.

Every system you’re part of—family, friendships, work, even your romantic relationship—runs on unspoken rules: the topics that are off-limits, the feelings that are “too much,” the truths that must stay underground if everyone is going to stay comfortable. You’ve followed those rules for years, often without realizing it, and they’ve shaped what you say, what you hide, and who you’re allowed to be. This episode shines a light on those invisible agreements and explores how “keeping the peace” by never breaking them quietly costs you your voice, your boundaries, and sometimes your mental health. You’ll be guided to name one unspoken rule in your world, see who it protects and who it harms, and identify what it’s actually costing you to keep complying. Then you’ll choose one small, practical way to gently push against that rule—through a question, a boundary, or a refusal to play along—so you can begin building a life that’s based more on truth than on quiet, inherited obligations. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where we learn to notice the rules nobody wrote down and slowly, courageously, rewrite them.

You’ve learned how to shape‑shift—to be a slightly different version of yourself at work, at home, with friends, with family—sometimes so well that you’re not entirely sure which version is the “real” you anymore. This episode dives into the emotional and identity cost of constant code‑switching: how it helped you survive or succeed, but also how it quietly teaches you that your unedited self is “too much” or “not enough” as you are. You’ll be invited to notice where you feel the need to switch the hardest, where you feel most like yourself, and how much energy you spend managing other people’s comfort instead of honoring your own truth. With a few simple reflection questions and one small, practical experiment—bringing just 10% more of your real self into one safer space—you’ll begin practicing what it feels like to be more consistent across the rooms you walk into, without putting yourself at risk or trying to change everything overnight. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where you don’t have to keep breaking yourself into pieces just to belong.

For most of your life, “being a good person” has meant putting yourself last—and the moment you start choosing differently, the word “selfish” shows up like a weapon. This episode unpacks why people are so quick to label you selfish when you stop over-giving, how guilt has been used to keep you in roles that drain you, and why including yourself in your own life is not the betrayal you’ve been taught to fear. You’ll be guided through a powerful reframing question—asking what you’d say if someone you loved were in your position—and you’ll choose one small, specific action that might look selfish from the outside but is actually an act of self-respect on the inside. With a few example sentences you can borrow when you need to say no, ask for space, or name a limit, you’ll begin practicing what it feels like to honor your needs without apologizing for existing. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where taking care of yourself is part of the assignment, not a character flaw.

You’ve done the work—you’ve healed, grown, or simply changed—and yet some people still talk to you like you’re the old version of yourself. They relate to the you who overgave, who didn’t have boundaries, who laughed off disrespect, who stayed small to keep everyone else comfortable. This episode explores what happens when your identity evolves faster than some of your relationships, and why being “loyal” to who you used to be can quietly betray who you are now. You’ll be invited to notice where you slip back into outdated roles, stories, or jokes just to make other people feel at ease, and you’ll get a simple, compassionate way to start bringing your current self into old spaces—without needing to cut everyone off or justify your growth. With one small interrupting sentence you can use the next time someone treats you like the past version of you, you’ll begin practicing what it looks like to stand in your present identity, even when others are still catching up. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where we make room for both who you were and who you’re becoming, without asking you to shrink to fit anyone’s memory.

From childhood, many of us are trained into an identity long before we ever get to ask, “Is this actually me?” You might have inherited the role of the strong one, the successful one, the peacemaker, or the caretaker—and built an entire life around that script—only to discover that the real you is craving something different. This episode explores the quiet tension between the identity you were handed and the identity you actually want, and how loyalty, guilt, and family narratives can keep you locked in patterns you’ve outgrown. You’ll be guided through a simple two-column reflection—“The identity I inherited” vs. “The identity I want”—so you can see, in writing, where those stories collide. Then you’ll choose one small, practical shift and a single sentence you can use to start honoring who you’re becoming, without having to blow up your whole life or disrespect where you came from. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where you’re allowed to evolve, even if the script you grew up with never imagined this version of you.