Before you can change anything, you have to be willing to tell the truth about how heavy your life has really become. This episode returns to the core theme of The Unwine Club—you’ve been carrying it all—and looks specifically at how “being good under pressure” quietly turns into an identity that traps you. We explore how you’ve trained people to believe you’re always okay, why your automatic “I’m fine, just busy” keeps you isolated, and what it costs you to keep pretending you don’t need help. You’ll be invited to try one small shift in how you answer when someone asks how you are—offering a slightly more honest response and noticing who can hold that truth with you. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where the people who hold everyone else up finally get a chance to be held, too.

There comes a point where keeping the unspoken rules—staying quiet, staying small, staying agreeable—costs more than it protects. This episode is for the moment after you start telling the truth and setting boundaries: when the system around you reacts, and you’re tempted to believe you’ve made a mistake. We look at what really happens when you break the rules nobody wrote down but everybody enforced—the guilt, the pushback, the labels—and why other people’s discomfort doesn’t automatically mean you’re wrong. You’ll be guided to name the rule you’re breaking, anticipate the reactions that scare you most, and write down the real reasons your boundary or decision still matters for your wellbeing. Then you’ll choose one grounding sentence you can return to when the emotional noise gets loud, so you don’t talk yourself out of the growth you were brave enough to begin. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where we’re honest about the cost of breaking unspoken rules and just as honest about the freedom on the other side.

Most of us were never directly taught how to do healthy relationships—we just absorbed whatever we saw growing up and carried it into adulthood, whether it served us or not. This episode gets honest about the quiet “curriculum” your family gave you: how they fought, forgave, shut down, or pretended, and how those unspoken lessons now show up in the way you communicate, argue, apologize, and choose partners or friends. You’ll walk through a simple three-part reflection—what you saw, what you learned from it, and what you actually want instead—so you can stop calling yourself “bad at relationships” and start seeing that you’ve simply been using old scripts. Then you’ll choose one small, practical shift that aligns with the kind of relationship you want to build now, not the ones you watched growing up. If this episode hit home, pour a glass, click the link to join the community, and come deeper with us inside The Unwine Club—where we gently rewrite the relationship lessons nobody ever sat down and taught us on purpose.