Could this one misunderstood topic change everything about sex and intimacy in your marriage? In this engaging episode, Mary and Katieann explore the often-overlooked types of sexual desire, discussing the myths perpetuated by Hollywood and the importance of appreciating the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. They emphasize the significance of emotional and romantic connections in fostering healthy sexual relationships. Listeners are encouraged to approach intimacy with patience, kindness, and curiosity while considering physiological and emotional aspects of arousal and desire. Practical advice and insightful analogies (responsive desire is like a fajita) are provided to help couples navigate and enhance their intimate lives, promoting a deeper understanding and connection.

TAKEAWAYS:

• Stop measuring your desire by Hollywood’s standard. It doesn’t work for most couples.
• Recognize responsive desire as healthy, and designed to grow through connection and stimulation.
• Engage in intimacy before you feel fully “in the mood.” Allow desire to build along the way.
• See arousal and desire as separate, so you stop misreading and start trusting your body.
• Work with your desire style, not against it. Intimacy will become shared and personal again.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:27 Understanding Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire

01:51 The Hollywood Myth of Spontaneous Desire

03:24 Exploring Responsive Desire (like a fajita)

07:55 Emotional Connection and Desire

12:48 Practical Tips for Enhancing Desire

20:08 Biblical Perspectives on Desire

23:34 Conclusion and Resources

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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

What role does trust play in your sex life? If you don’t feel emotionally safe, it’s impossible to have true intimacy. Mary and Katieann address the issue of trust in marriage, particularly focusing on its impact on sexual intimacy. Triggered by a listener's question, they dive into practical tips to identify and build trust within a Christian marriage framework. Key topics include the harmful effects of betrayal and addiction, how to evaluate trust on a 'number line,' and positive steps for creating an emotionally safe environment. They emphasize the importance of emotional safety before engaging in sexual intimacy and discuss the signs of both negative and positive trust. Listeners are encouraged to evaluate their own trust levels and seek healing and support if necessary.

TAKEAWAYS:

• Assess the trust level in your marriage before applying the intimacy advice we share.
• Recognize that broken trust changes what intimacy requires.
• Understand that trust grows through consistent responsibility, not intentions (I’m sorry. I’ll change.).
• Honor the pain of betrayal you feel and don’t rush into intimacy.
• Guard your heart as an act of wisdom, not rejection.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Audience Engagement

00:42 Addressing Intimacy Advice and Trust in Marriage

02:49 Understanding Trust in Marriage

05:06 Personal Story and Trust Analogy

07:30 Negative Trust in Marriage

16:50 Positive Trust and Accountability

21:14 Repentance and Responsibility

25:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

FREE RESOURCE:

Do you wonder about the emotional trust level in your marriage? Have you felt emotionally unsafe but you’re not sure what to do about it? Schedule a complimentary Relationship Breakthrough Call to get feedback and begin to understand what your next steps might be.

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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

What age-old scenario plays out again and again in marriages everywhere? It’s where wives seek emotional connection before engaging in sex, while husbands often feel connected through sex. Mary and Katieann aim this discussion at helping husbands improve their intimacy by becoming more emotionally engaged with their wives.

Three key topics are explored: why husbands might be unaware of the need for emotional intimacy, simple steps to enhance their sex life, and the positive impact of making wives feel loved. Personal anecdotes, practical advice, and scriptural support are provided to encourage better emotional and physical bonding in marriages.

Two keys revealed: 1. Exactly what to do (easily) after sex to maximize your connection and win her heart. 2. Specifically how you can help her get to the place of NO withholding physically and emotionally in sex.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

01:30 Understanding Emotional Intimacy

02:09 A Story About Learning and Growth

11:40 Simple Steps to Improve Your Marriage

16:26 The Power of Unconditional Love

22:36 Biblical Insights and Final Thoughts

TAKEAWAYS:

• Recognize that emotional and sexual connection are two sides of the same design and not in competition.
• Understand why your wife often needs emotional connection before sex, while you experience it through sex.
• Learn simple, daily ways to show interest that build connection without pressure.
• Practice saying loving, affirming words after sex to deepen emotional safety and desire.
• Experience intimacy as bonding and God-designed, when love leads both before and after sex.

FREE RESOURCE:

Is it difficult to talk about sex? Check out my books on Amazon. They guide you through understanding your own hesitations and give you templates on how to share your thoughts.

For wives: Why Can’t I Talk to Him about Sex? For husbands: Why Can’t I Talk to Her about Sex?

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DISCLAIMER:

This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.