“It wasn’t like we woke up one day and said, let’s talk about sex… all of the time. No, we had wounds that caused a lot of pain but then, we got healing. That’s when everything changed!”

In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast, hosts Mary and Katieann interview each other to explain why they do the show and how their personal experiences revealed the need for sexual wholeness.

Katieann shares that growing up in a conservative church with little conversation about sex led her to assume marital sex was a wife’s duty, mostly for the husband, and that talking about intimacy was shameful; reading Song of Solomon, observing mentors Danny and Sheri’s marriage, and reflecting on Genesis (“it is good”) helped reshape her view of God’s design for intimacy.

Mary describes entering her first marriage with an idealized, “1950s” Christian-marriage expectation and being shocked by a painful, unloving first sexual encounter on her wedding night, leading her to internalize blame and settle in silence; she later experienced healing, learned to speak up, and replaced the lie that she was unlovable with God’s truth, including in her current marriage that is honoring and loving.

They discuss the relational and cultural cost of telling the truth about sex—Mary recounts being poorly received when publicly enthusiastic about her message, while Katieann notes she’s comfortable being the “awkward person in the room,” even as a pastor, and believes the church must address sex or others will without a godly perspective.

Both identify core lies they had to unlearn (“unlovable” for Mary and “not enough” for Katieann) and explain how their healing became a calling to help others, including parenting without introducing shame—highlighted by Katieann stopping her husband from joking about their daughter’s developing body.

The episode ends with their vision to normalize godly, practical conversations about intimacy, continue their G.I.F.T.S. cycles, and an invitation to Mary’s free ebook, God’s Gift to Marriage, available at LimitlessIntimacy.com.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Pulling Back the Curtain: Why This Podcast Exists

01:21 Katieann’s Hot Seat: Duty Sex, Naivety & a New Vision for Intimacy

04:49 ‘It Is Good’: The Genesis Moment That Reframed Sex as God’s Design

06:38 Mary’s Hot Seat: Wedding-Night Shock, Pain & Losing Her Voice

10:18 Telling the Truth About Sex: Pushback, Awkward Rooms & Speaking Anyway

12:43 Unlearning the Core Lies: ‘Unlovable’ and the Healing That Changed Everything

14:26 Called to Carry It for Others: From Personal Breakthrough to Ministry Message

16:02 Katieann’s Turn: The Cost of Truth-Telling as a Pastor

19:40 Breaking ‘Not Enough’: Healing for the Next Generation

22:10 Protecting Kids from Shame: The Parenting Moment That Sparked a Mission

24:29 Wrap-Up: The G.I.F.T.S. Vision, Free e-book & What’s Next

TAKEAWAYS:

• Name the lie that shaped your story and replace it with God’s truth.
• Refuse silent endurance—reclaim your voice in intimacy.
• Let healing turn your pain into motivation to serve others.
• Create a shame-free legacy by changing how the next generation learns about sex.
• Start honest, godly conversations even when you’re the awkward one in the room.

FREE RESOURCE:

Want a surprising look at what God really says about sex in marriage? Download the free e-book: God’s Gift to Marriage

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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

It’s important to talk about the common sex issues people are having so they won’t feel isolated or keep producing the fruit of brokenness. In this audience-driven episode, we answer your questions and comments surrounding body image and its impact on sexual intimacy in marriage. Mary and Katieann discuss how body changes, societal standards, and the idea of rejection affect wives' perspectives on intimacy. They touch on husbands' views about their wife’s body and the role of sexual addiction in marriage fractures. The conversation shifts to AI body image trends, the importance of addressing deep-seated issues in a marriage, and how to rebuild intimacy after betrayal. They emphasize empathy, understanding, and the pursuit of mutual respect and satisfaction. The episode concludes by reinforcing the podcast’s goal of fostering open dialogue and encouraging positive changes in married intimacy.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Audience Interaction

00:58 Body Image and Intimacy Challenges

06:17 AI Trends and Body Image

09:13 Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

13:25 Addressing Sexual Addiction and Betrayal

18:21 Navigating Sexless Marriages

20:24 The Importance of Discussing Sexual Issues

23:35 Conclusion and Call for Feedback

TAKEAWAYS:

• Name the pain honestly—silence keeps it stuck.
• See your body with compassion, not comparison.
• Refuse secrecy especially with sexual addiction. Truth brings healing.
• Pursue intimacy as mutual connection, not obligation or escape.
• Choose courageous conversations now to restore closeness later.

FREE RESOURCES:

Send Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast questions and comments to: mary@limitlessintimacy.com

Listen to episode 6: If Sex Feels Selfish, You Need this One Sacred Shift

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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

Passion can inspire you to action but what you really want is something that bonds you to one another. In this intriguing episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast, Mary and Katieann explore the origins of passion, contrasting Hollywood's depiction with Biblical examples. They delve into stories from Genesis, examining how passion in God's design is meant to be sacred, intimate, and reserved for marriage. The hosts share personal experiences and provide insights into maintaining healthy boundaries and understanding passion's proper place. They also highlight the importance of conflict and commitment in relationships, offering practical advice for singles, parents, and married couples.

TAKEAWAYS:

• Let passion spark you—but let commitment hold you.
• Honor passion by placing it where it can grow safely.
• Respond to attraction with self-respect and self-control.
• Practice healthy beliefs now to build strong love later.
• Lean into conflict to deepen bonding, let it make you closer.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Excitement for Today's Topic

00:07 Exploring Passion: God vs. Hollywood

03:14 Personal Stories of Passion

07:05 The Importance of Passion in Marriage

08:49 Biblical Stories of Passion

17:55 Hollywood vs. Biblical Passion

20:05 Conflict and Covenant in Relationships

23:32 Conclusion and Invitation for Relationship Breakthrough

FREE RESOURCE:

Do you wonder about the emotional trust level in your marriage? Have you felt emotionally unsafe but you’re not sure what to do about it? Schedule a complimentary Relationship Breakthrough Call to get feedback and begin to understand what your next steps might be.

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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

Could this one misunderstood topic change everything about sex and intimacy in your marriage? In this engaging episode, Mary and Katieann explore the often-overlooked types of sexual desire, discussing the myths perpetuated by Hollywood and the importance of appreciating the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. They emphasize the significance of emotional and romantic connections in fostering healthy sexual relationships. Listeners are encouraged to approach intimacy with patience, kindness, and curiosity while considering physiological and emotional aspects of arousal and desire. Practical advice and insightful analogies (responsive desire is like a fajita) are provided to help couples navigate and enhance their intimate lives, promoting a deeper understanding and connection.

TAKEAWAYS:

• Stop measuring your desire by Hollywood’s standard. It doesn’t work for most couples.
• Recognize responsive desire as healthy, and designed to grow through connection and stimulation.
• Engage in intimacy before you feel fully “in the mood.” Allow desire to build along the way.
• See arousal and desire as separate, so you stop misreading and start trusting your body.
• Work with your desire style, not against it. Intimacy will become shared and personal again.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:27 Understanding Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire

01:51 The Hollywood Myth of Spontaneous Desire

03:24 Exploring Responsive Desire (like a fajita)

07:55 Emotional Connection and Desire

12:48 Practical Tips for Enhancing Desire

20:08 Biblical Perspectives on Desire

23:34 Conclusion and Resources

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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

What role does trust play in your sex life? If you don’t feel emotionally safe, it’s impossible to have true intimacy. Mary and Katieann address the issue of trust in marriage, particularly focusing on its impact on sexual intimacy. Triggered by a listener's question, they dive into practical tips to identify and build trust within a Christian marriage framework. Key topics include the harmful effects of betrayal and addiction, how to evaluate trust on a 'number line,' and positive steps for creating an emotionally safe environment. They emphasize the importance of emotional safety before engaging in sexual intimacy and discuss the signs of both negative and positive trust. Listeners are encouraged to evaluate their own trust levels and seek healing and support if necessary.

TAKEAWAYS:

• Assess the trust level in your marriage before applying the intimacy advice we share.
• Recognize that broken trust changes what intimacy requires.
• Understand that trust grows through consistent responsibility, not intentions (I’m sorry. I’ll change.).
• Honor the pain of betrayal you feel and don’t rush into intimacy.
• Guard your heart as an act of wisdom, not rejection.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Audience Engagement

00:42 Addressing Intimacy Advice and Trust in Marriage

02:49 Understanding Trust in Marriage

05:06 Personal Story and Trust Analogy

07:30 Negative Trust in Marriage

16:50 Positive Trust and Accountability

21:14 Repentance and Responsibility

25:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

FREE RESOURCE:

Do you wonder about the emotional trust level in your marriage? Have you felt emotionally unsafe but you’re not sure what to do about it? Schedule a complimentary Relationship Breakthrough Call to get feedback and begin to understand what your next steps might be.

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DISCLAIMER:

This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

What age-old scenario plays out again and again in marriages everywhere? It’s where wives seek emotional connection before engaging in sex, while husbands often feel connected through sex. Mary and Katieann aim this discussion at helping husbands improve their intimacy by becoming more emotionally engaged with their wives.

Three key topics are explored: why husbands might be unaware of the need for emotional intimacy, simple steps to enhance their sex life, and the positive impact of making wives feel loved. Personal anecdotes, practical advice, and scriptural support are provided to encourage better emotional and physical bonding in marriages.

Two keys revealed: 1. Exactly what to do (easily) after sex to maximize your connection and win her heart. 2. Specifically how you can help her get to the place of NO withholding physically and emotionally in sex.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

01:30 Understanding Emotional Intimacy

02:09 A Story About Learning and Growth

11:40 Simple Steps to Improve Your Marriage

16:26 The Power of Unconditional Love

22:36 Biblical Insights and Final Thoughts

TAKEAWAYS:

• Recognize that emotional and sexual connection are two sides of the same design and not in competition.
• Understand why your wife often needs emotional connection before sex, while you experience it through sex.
• Learn simple, daily ways to show interest that build connection without pressure.
• Practice saying loving, affirming words after sex to deepen emotional safety and desire.
• Experience intimacy as bonding and God-designed, when love leads both before and after sex.

FREE RESOURCE:

Is it difficult to talk about sex? Check out my books on Amazon. They guide you through understanding your own hesitations and give you templates on how to share your thoughts.

For wives: Why Can’t I Talk to Him about Sex? For husbands: Why Can’t I Talk to Her about Sex?

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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

This episode tackles the common struggle in married intimacy where wives desire closeness before engaging in sex, while husbands want sex to feel close. The discussion centers on understanding and validating the reasons women might not feel motivated for sex and offers actionable insights for Christian wives to empower their perspective towards sex. Through personal anecdotes, scientific insights, and spiritual parallels, Mary and Katieann seek to bridge the gap in sexual needs between spouses. Topics include the impact of hormones, stress, past beliefs, and the importance of communication and safety in a marital relationship.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:06 Understanding the Struggle in Marriage

01:56 Empowering Christian Wives

06:19 The Role of Hormones and Life Stages

07:16 Addressing Emotional and Mental Barriers

13:19 The Benefits of Sex in Marriage

22:46 Choosing Sex Even When You Don't Feel It

27:22 Final Thoughts and Next Episode Preview

TAKEAWAYS:

• Discover how low desire can be a signal and not a sentence. Understand why leading with action often creates the emotional connection you’re waiting for.
• Learn how choosing intimacy by faith allows feelings to catch up naturally. Recognize how responsive desire works and why it’s normal for many wives. Experience sex as healing, bonding, and sacred when it’s chosen safely and intentionally.

5 Reasons you can choose sex even when you're not feeling it.

1. God, not your spouse, is your source of ultimate identity and security.
2. You already walk by faith in many areas. You can include sexual intimacy, by faith.
3. You have godly motivation to walk in love, not pressure because you believe He has your best in mind.
4. You know spontaneous desire isn’t normal for many women. The media lied about that.
5. You understand responsive desire often blooms after engagement begins. You start with action, and the feeling follows.

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DISCLAIMER:

This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.

In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, Mary and Katieann discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, especially during busy times like the holidays. They share personal anecdotes and a practical checklist to help couples sustain healthy intimacy habits. Key points include the importance of communication about sex, being aware of disconnection, having a proactive plan for intimacy, taking personal responsibility in the relationship, and choosing God's way for a shame-free, joyous connection. Special emphasis is laid on the G.I.F.T.S. acronym: Good, Intimate, Fierce, Timeless, Sacred as a framework for sexual wholeness.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Holiday Stress

00:53 The Importance of Intimacy

02:07 Proactive Intimacy Habits

03:19 Checklist for Healthy Intimacy

03:54 A Story About Baking and Intimacy

08:47 Talking About Sex

11:08 Addressing Disconnection

14:55 Planning for Intimacy

20:10 Being Powerful in Your Relationship

22:43 Choosing God's Way

26:18 Conclusion and Resources

TAKEAWAYS:

• Discover how talking about sex, even when it’s awkward leads to more connection.
• Understand why noticing and addressing disconnection is a sign of relational health.
• Learn how having a plan for intimacy sustains connection through busy seasons.
• Recognize how being responsible and proactive strengthens your entire relationship.
• Experience shame-free and joy-filled sex, mess-ups and all, when you choose God’s way.

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  DISCLAIMER:

  This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

  Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.