Could this one misunderstood topic change everything about sex and intimacy in your marriage? In this engaging episode, Mary and Katieann explore the often-overlooked types of sexual desire, discussing the myths perpetuated by Hollywood and the importance of appreciating the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. They emphasize the significance of emotional and romantic connections in fostering healthy sexual relationships. Listeners are encouraged to approach intimacy with patience, kindness, and curiosity while considering physiological and emotional aspects of arousal and desire. Practical advice and insightful analogies (responsive desire is like a fajita) are provided to help couples navigate and enhance their intimate lives, promoting a deeper understanding and connection.

TAKEAWAYS:

• Stop measuring your desire by Hollywood’s standard. It doesn’t work for most couples.
• Recognize responsive desire as healthy, and designed to grow through connection and stimulation.
• Engage in intimacy before you feel fully “in the mood.” Allow desire to build along the way.
• See arousal and desire as separate, so you stop misreading and start trusting your body.
• Work with your desire style, not against it. Intimacy will become shared and personal again.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:27 Understanding Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire

01:51 The Hollywood Myth of Spontaneous Desire

03:24 Exploring Responsive Desire (like a fajita)

07:55 Emotional Connection and Desire

12:48 Practical Tips for Enhancing Desire

20:08 Biblical Perspectives on Desire

23:34 Conclusion and Resources

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This podcast is designed for informational purposes only. Any and all actions or consequences from the podcast are the sole responsibility of the podcast audience participant. Information should not be seen as medical or mental health advice, and is not meant to take the place of seeing licensed health professionals.

Special thanks to Suzanna Storey of Saphron Music for “Shape Shifter”, on her Identity Crisis album.