What does it actually take to build a relationship that lasts? In part two, Jayson and Ellen break down the four core aspects of relational longevity. They explore why you need a basic understanding of attachment, how the nervous system shapes your interactions, the role of communication skills, and what your relational code says about how you show up. They also talk about the importance of actively cultivating connection if you want something that goes the distance. If you are serious about long term love, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

• 2:27 You need a basic understanding of attachment
• 4:27 Have an understanding of the human nervous system
• 6:03 Communication skills
• 7:51 Your relational code
• 12:28 Cultivate connection

Links:

• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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What is relational longevity and why does it matter? Jayson and Ellen break down what it takes to build relationships that actually last. They explore the benefits of healthy connection, how to examine your own relationships honestly, and what defines a high quality connection. They also talk about discovering what is truly possible in partnership and why people want to feel utilized and needed. If you want relationships that go the distance, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

• 2:12 What is relational longevity?
• 3:41 Benefits of healthy relationships
• 6:10 Examining your own relationships
• 7:38 What is a high quality connection?
• 11:10 Discovering what's possible in relationships
• 13:29 Partners want to feel utilized

Links:

• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Jayson and Ellen explore divorce through an evolutionary and cultural lens. Why does divorce feel easier in some cultures than others? Why do some couples stay together but never truly thrive? How do you know when someone is the wrong person, and how do you honestly assess whether you did everything you could to make the relationship work? They also examine when divorce does not actually make things better and why taking responsibility for your role in relationship failures matters more than blame.

Timestamps:

• 1:36 - Human evolution and divorce
• 4:38 - Cultural differences in the ease of divorce
• 9:44 - Not all couples that stay together thrive
• 15:00 - How do you know when someone is the “wrong” person
• 18:42 - Did you do everything you could to make things work?
• 21:55 - When divorce doesn’t make things better
• 26:16 - Consider your own role in relationship failures

Links:

• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!