I did not have starting a podcast, becoming a coach for women and quitting my job on my 2025 bingo card. But here we are and it has been a ride!!

February 18th, 2025 launched me into a completely different world, one where my healing really became public and transformative for me. I finally let my pain out into the light, in a space that presented itself in a seemingly random way. But as I have said over these many episodes now, maybe it was not random and maybe it was meant to present itself, to force me to step into the discomfort that comes with real growth. And doing so changed everything this year.

This episode was so meaningful, to record on the evening of 12-31-25 and be able to reflect on what the year held and what the lessons were that presented themselves. One of the overarching ones being, "Healing doesn't have to be alone."

Thank you all for joining me on this journey and here is to more in 2026!!!

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In a rare twist, this episode features the producer of the show, Ashley, who wants it known he knows it is a girls name and also was not named after Gone With The Wind.

He has been a part of each episode so far, listening to the stories told and running the recording, while being deeply in awe at the stories shared and the resiliency of the women involved in this show. (He also took the cover art photo, which I still have a hard time embracing, for far too many reasons, none of them logical)

I asked him to share some insight into several different topics, but we mostly focused on the topic of domestic violence and what his experiences during his 20 plus years in law enforcement taught him. It is a heavy topic, but we hope we were able to bring some humanity to it, while respecting survivors of many different types.

It was our longest episode to date and we hope you enjoy it!!

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The last decade has shown a drastic increase in mental health advocacy, acceptance of therapy and an online culture supporting healing and addressing trauma in all its forms. These are all excellent things and society is better for it.

But what if a small side effect of this is a growing mindset that anything unsavory that comes your way is unsafe? What if we are not actually at times building resiliency as a byproduct from the things that have shaped our lives, but using the new buzzwords of healing culture as a crutch and it is keeping us stuck?

This is an important discussion to have, about what the real difference is between something that feels uncomfortable to us and things that are genuinely unsafe. If we don't lean into the uncomfortable to help build a stronger version of ourselves, then we risk feeling unsafe from things that are inherently just simply unpleasant to the current version of us.

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"If I seem mean when I tell you no, just know that I am being very kind to myself."

In this episode, I talk about a trend I have been floating on social media, the idea that setting boundaries, advocating for oneself, being kind to yourself, may have the added flavor to it that somehow you are being mean. To who exactly?

Are ingrained responses we have that powerful as to manifest in worrying about are we being mean by putting our own mental and physical health first?

Sometimes it is the narrative that we tell ourselves, sometimes it is legitimately those who are the most confined in their poor behavior by the boundaries we are setting with them that tell us, we are mean now that we are healing.

But healing has to be an internal priority, where you simply say, with no reservation, if I don't do this for myself, there may be no real self left for those people who preferred the old version of me. And I no longer want to exist as that version.

"That can look really fucking mean to the people who benefitted from your lack of boundaries."

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"Learn to listen to you body, whatever that means to you."

Did you know your body keeps score? I didn't, until mine started deciding to show me the effects of what that score was. All the hurt, the trauma, the abuse. Your brain can do what it wants with memories and you can work hard to repress them, move them, reframe them, but parts if it will stay trapped in your body in various ways (hence the somatic healing discussion in episode #11). Until you literally grind to a stop.

"I still find it difficult to find genuine joy in my body, as I think of happy memories." I discuss why that is such a profound realization to have, but also some ideas to change how that actually presents itself.

This was an appropriate follow up to the discussion I had with guest Ashley, a few episodes ago (#11). This is the realization of what all the years have stored in my body, the feelings locked in there and the understanding now of how to start moving them into healthier, more fitting places.

"The biggest takeaway for 2025, I wish I had paid attention to what my body was trying to tell me."

My hope is that after listening to this, you will start listening to what your body is saying.

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"Having boundaries is the biggest act of self love I have ever done for myself"

Who would have thought that would be the case. In a world that sells you tonics, creams, classes, pills and any other modality under the sun to take care of yourself, who could imagine that boundary setting, in any form that it takes, is really the key to deep self love.

Because what you are really saying, to yourself first and often others, is that I matter. I know that I do and I am going to set these limits, these standards, these ideals, that protect my sacred space and peace and they are enforced. Not cruelly, but consistently and without malice.

"You show other people your self worth by the boundaries you establish for yourself." But even more than that, you validate your own ideal of self worth, to yourself.

As I say in this episode, "Boundaries are not fun. They are not easy." Boundaries are not just related to external relationships, you can also set boundaries with yourself. Screen time, eating habits, sleep habits, they are all boundaries you can reflect on and negotiate a better space for yourself if need be.

This episode I talk on my expanding knowledge of and how I have been trying to implement boundaries in my life, as well as how I have struggled with them over the years. Thoughts such as, "If I do what you want me to do to be happy, I am going to feel safe." Trying to be healthy in many aspects of your life and relationships will require you to take a good long look at where you need to define what you can tolerate from both yourself and others.

Hope you enjoy!!

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" The dis-ease, will come as a disease later on." What a profoundly different way of looking at one's health in the form of your relationship with your body. This was one of the truth's that my guest dropped early on!

This week's guest is Ashley; a gifted somatic therapist, devoted mother, and intuitive energy worker. Ashley’s work goes far beyond the physical body; she guides others into deeper awareness, helping them reconnect to themselves through presence, touch, and energetic alignment. With her gentle strength and intuitive wisdom, she creates sacred spaces for healing, embodiment, and transformation.

Our conversation touched on many aspects of her work, but during the first of what will likely be many conversations together, she specifically wanted to share what healing via the work she does can look like. Embracing thoughts like, "I'm ok as I am" and the healing that can come from that statement alone.

It has been enlightening to visit her practice and feel what this work can do to bring your body more into harmony with itself and my hope is that by listening to her speak, it spurs you to seek out your own somatic therapist!

How fitting it is then to hear, "Every place I have been, is where I was meant to be."

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"Any man that came into my life, was going to pay for what my father did and didn't do."

What a realization to have lurking in the back of my mind, for as long as I can remember in life. And to have as an approaching storm, that is getting stronger and stronger until the realization of it crashes against the shores of the life I want to build.

These events in our lives, as well as a deeply personal one I share this episode, affect every relationship we have: friends, coworkers, intimate partners, our kids and most importantly our relationship with ourselves.

We carry this weight with us, not bothering to recognize how it is dragging us down as we try to navigate the deep waters of improving ourselves via all the work we have been discussing on this show. Letting things go in a healthy, restorative manner is the key to progress. "Give yourself grace, give yourself patience, and give yourself time."

This was a rough one to record, as it contains a lot of deeply repressed memories of abuse at the hands of the man who should be a protector. I have not publicly shared this part of my life before, but I knew it was something to let go of in some fashion, to be able to turn the corner on the continued evolution of me.

As I closed the show by saying, "You deserve a whole life and a life of peace. You're not going to find that in another person or another place. It's inside you and waiting to be found."

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