In this episode of Selah, Laura and Krissi explore what happens when your body knows something before your mind is ready to admit it.

From childhood conditioning to adult relationships, many of us were trained to override our signals in the name of being polite, spiritual, patient, or “measured.” Over time, that quiet comes at a cost. Not always in lost relationships or outcomes, but in delayed boundaries, second guessing, and erosion of self-trust.

Laura shares personal reflections on early marriage, masking, agency, and the moment of “enough.” Together, they unpack what it means to reclaim authority without creating rupture, and how awareness becomes the first step toward alignment.

In this conversation:
• What “agency” actually means and how we unconsciously give it away
• The difference between contraction and expansion in the body
• Masking, self-abandonment, and nervous system conditioning
• How to listen without needing to fix or prove
• Simple ways to start noticing your first signal

This episode is not about confrontation. It’s about awareness.

If something in you leans back, tightens, or expands, that is information. The work is not to overanalyze it. The work is to notice.

Laura closes with a prayer for discernment, sovereignty, and the courage to respond when your body speaks.

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🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

What happens when the roles that once defined you start to fall away?

In this episode of Selah – A Deep Pause, Laura, Tim, and Krissi explore what most people call a midlife crisis, but what they’ve learned to call The Tunnel. A season where kids are grown, work shifts, identities loosen, and you’re left asking a quieter, more unsettling question: Who am I when no one needs me?

They talk honestly about the shift from performance to presence, anger as an invisibility trigger, disassociation and numbing as nervous system relief, and what it means for men to have a safe place to land, with their partner and with other men.

This episode is for the men in the tunnel. And for the people who love them.

Guest: Tim Deir

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🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

In this episode of Selah: A Deep Pause, Laura and Krissi explore a tender but powerful theme: reorganizing relationships. Not because anyone is “wrong,” but because something new is asking to be supported.

Laura shares what it felt like to move through a season of shedding, where emotions got louder and her body stopped letting her ignore the truth. Together, they talk about sacred reciprocity, the difference between loyalty and self-abandonment, and how relationships can shift by season without needing to become dramatic endings.

You’ll hear real talk, relatable humor (yes, menopause makes a cameo), and grounded reflection on questions like: Do I feel ease here, or do I brace? Am I holding onto history, or honoring the present? Is this relationship nourishing me, or quietly draining me?

This episode is an invitation to pause before you act, listen before you explain, and let space reveal what’s real. Love can remain, and access can change. You are allowed to make space for what supports who you are becoming.

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🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
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⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

2025 had surprises. Some were beautiful. Some were… OUCH!!!

In this episode, Laura and Tim reflect on what this year revealed, what actually worked, what didn’t, and the patterns that kept showing up until they finally landed.

We talk about learning to catch triggers sooner, listening without fixing, setting boundaries without guilt, and why “just because I can doesn’t mean I should” became a turning point. You’ll also hear how a solo trip to Portugal became a powerful moment of trust, freedom, and identity shift, plus what it looked like to choose “us” over fix-it energy when life got loud.

Then we look ahead to 2026 with a theme of movement and momentum, and Laura’s word for the year: reap - receiving what you’ve planted and letting it be enough.

We close with a reflection and prayer for anyone moving from shedding into what’s next.

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🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

In the final episode of 2025 - and the closing chapter of Season One - Laura and Krissi welcome Danielle for a deeply honest conversation about grief as initiation, shedding old identities, and finding the courage to come home to ourselves.

Framed by 2025 as the year of shedding - the Year of the Snake, a time of dissolving illusions and accelerated transformation - this episode follows Danielle’s descent after losing her best friend, Jessi. Her grief cracked her open, stripping away the identities she had built, revealing long-ignored truths, and initiating her into a profound rebirth.

Together, the three explore:

✨ How grief becomes one of life’s greatest initiators
✨ What it feels like to walk through a “dark night of the soul”
✨ The micro-moments that rebuild self-trust after a lifetime of over giving
✨ Recognizing the whispers of intuition beneath the noise of survival
✨ What happens when saying “no” disrupts old patterns
✨ Choosing yourself even when others label it selfish
✨ Leaving marriages, careers, and identities that no longer fit
✨ Leaping into the unknown before you can see the destination
✨ The magic that unfolds when you finally listen to your inner knowing

Danielle shares how the two years following Jessi’s death led her to leave a 20-year aesthetics career, a long-term relationship, and an outdated version of herself - ultimately stepping into a life aligned with her truth, her healing, and her calling.

Laura closes the season with a blessing for anyone standing at the threshold of their own rebirth, honoring all we’ve shed, survived, remembered, and softened into during this transformative year.

Learn more about Danielle’s work at https://healwithdaniellemarie.com

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🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/
Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
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⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

Hormones and the holidays🦃… what could possibly go wrong?

In this episode of Selah: A Deep Pause, Laura and Krissi get honest about what happens when midlife hormone shifts collide with family traditions, expectations, and “be pleasant and fine” energy.

Laura shares the story of returning from a three-and-a-half-week honeymoon cocoon feeling soft, grounded, and in love, only to crash hard once “real life” and old stressors rushed back in. From itchy armpits to night peeing to zero give-a-shit for poor Tim, she realizes her body is not just reacting, it is telling the truth.

Together they explore:

💫 How perimenopause and menopause change the way stress lands in the body

💫 Why family holidays can feel like a contract you never consciously signed

💫 The grief of outgrowing old roles, and the freedom that comes when you finally say “enough”

💫 The difference between true gratitude and self-abandonment

💫 How choosing to pause, rest, and listen can quietly rewrite patterns for the next generation

If you have ever pulled up to a holiday gathering with a casserole in your lap and a knot in your throat, this conversation is your permission slip to do it differently.

At the end, Krissi offers three practical invitations for this season:

1. Create a “no list” before the holiday and choose at least one thing you are not doing this year.
2. Build in one simple body anchor like stepping outside for a breath, feeling the sun on your face, or putting a hand on your heart before you say yes.
3. Reclaim one ritual as your own so the day includes you, not just your roles.

May this episode be a balm for the part of you that is tired of performing and ready to belong to yourself first.

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🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/
Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

Where does judgment live in your body — your jaw, your chest, that whisper of “I should have known better”?

In this week’s episode, Laura and Krissi explore what it means to see our mistakes as medicine — not proof that we’ve failed, but invitations to soften, reflect, and reconnect. Because let’s be honest… we’ve all had those “I would never” moments that turned into “until I did.”

Together we unpack what it looks like to:
💭 pause the shame spiral and find grace again
💗 hold ourselves (and each other) with compassion when things get messy
✨ remember that even here — we are still worthy of love

Take a deep pause with us. Mistakes as Medicine is an invitation to breathe, reflect, and begin again.

💫 If this episode meets you where you are, share it with someone who needs a little grace today.

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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/
Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

In this episode, Laura and Krissi sit down with Laura’s longtime friend, Dr. Michelle Cox — a physician, veteran, and regenerative medicine practitioner who also works with psychedelics and breathwork. 🌿

What starts as a “let’s just see where this goes” kind of chat turns into a deep, funny, and refreshingly honest conversation about rupture and repair, anger as wisdom, and the power of saying no when something doesn’t feel right. 💬🔥

The three explore what it means to reclaim your agency, honor your emotions, and trust your own intuition — whether that’s in healing work, relationships, or midlife reinvention. They also talk about pleasure, play, and life-force energy, because healing doesn’t always have to be heavy. 💗✨

It’s real, raw, a little wild, and full of reminders that you already hold the medicine you’re looking for. 🌕

🎙 Guest: Dr. Michelle Cox

🌀 Content note: Adult language and open discussion of mental health and psychedelics.

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🎙️ Host: Laura Deir
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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/
Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.