At some point, the relationship between a mother and daughter can begin to shift. You start seeing each other less through the roles you’ve always played and more as two women with their own stories, choices, and lives.

In this episode, Laura sits down with her daughter, Brandelyn, for an open conversation about their relationship, how it has changed over the years, and what healing between them has actually looked like.

They look back at who they were to each other when Brandelyn was growing up, the expectations and patterns they didn’t always recognize at the time, and what began to change as they both started doing their own inner work.

Brandelyn also shares how becoming a mother herself gave her a new perspective, including a recent moment with her daughter when she caught herself repeating something Laura used to do with her.

They talk about learning to trust each other’s growth, making choices without needing approval, letting go of old versions of one another, and giving each other room to become who they are now.

It’s a conversation about mothers, daughters, generational patterns, and how a relationship can change when both people are willing to see each other differently.

• Seeing your mother as a woman, not only as “Mom”
• How becoming a parent can change the way you see your own childhood
• Catching generational patterns as they happen
• Letting go of the need for approval
• Giving the people we love room to change
• Learning to trust each other differently
• Healing the mother-daughter relationship as both people grow

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🎙️ Host: Laura Deir
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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by Breaking

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⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

After an unexpected month away following a family emergency, we're back - and returning with one of the most honest conversations we've had.

This episode explores a question that quietly shapes every relationship:

What does it actually mean to feel safe in a relationship?

For one person, safety might mean feeling heard and emotionally connected. For another, it might mean being accepted without criticism, trusted without needing to perform, or simply being allowed to exist without having to earn love.

Together we unpack:

• Why couples often have completely different definitions of emotional safety
• How our nervous systems react long before our wisdom does
• The surprising difference between presence and fixing
• How identity, vulnerability, and conditioning shape the way we love
• Why repair, not perfection, is what builds lasting relationships

Whether you're navigating conflict with a partner, rebuilding trust, or simply learning yourself more deeply, this conversation offers a different lens for understanding connection.

Sometimes the greatest gift we can offer another person isn't advice.

It's becoming a place where they finally feel safe enough to simply be.

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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

In this deeply raw and vulnerable episode of Selah: A Deep Pause, Laura and Tim share what they call their “third energetic divorce” - a six-day separation that forced old identities, old coping mechanisms, and buried truths to finally surface.

What began as a simple disagreement unexpectedly opened the door to something much deeper: months of unspoken tension, nervous system overwhelm, adaptive childhood patterns, emotional withdrawal, and the fear of being truly seen.

Together they explore:

• What rupture actually reveals inside long-term relationships
• The difference between separation and disillusionment
• How nervous systems hold unresolved patterns
• Why truth can feel threatening to connection
• Masculine emotional safety and the fear of vulnerability
• The danger of self-abandonment inside partnership
• How relationships evolve through repeated death-and-rebirth cycles

This conversation is not polished. It is not wrapped up neatly. It is two people sitting inside the ashes of what almost ended - and discovering what became possible when honesty finally arrived.

If you’ve ever questioned whether a relationship can survive change, distance, truth, or transformation… this episode is an invitation to reconsider what rupture may actually be asking of us.

Sometimes what feels like an ending is actually the crossing of a threshold your soul can no longer avoid.

This episode is an invitation to see beyond the surface.

When you look at a man who appears strong, grounded, and unshakable…
you’re not seeing the full story.

Our very special guest, Slade Thompson, shares his journey from chaos, addiction, and emotional suppression to a path of deep healing, presence, and service.

In this conversation, we explore:

• The hidden pain many men carry
• Why asking for help is the hardest… and most powerful… step
• The difference between performing strength and actually living it
• What healing really looks like… beyond the highlight reel
• How transformation happens both inside and outside of ceremony

This isn’t about perfection.
It’s about honesty.
It’s about courage.
It’s about coming back to the heart.

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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

In this deeply personal episode, Laura shares a powerful realization that unfolded after a recent Wachuma journey… not during the ceremony, but in the quiet days that followed.

What began as a simple, repeated vision revealed something much deeper - a moment from childhood where a part of her learned to turn off her light in order to feel safe.

Together, we explore how the nervous system protects us, how childhood adaptations shape who we become… and what happens when those protective parts begin to come back online.

This conversation isn’t about fixing what’s broken.

It’s about recognizing that nothing was ever broken in the first place.

It was protected.

And when safety returns… so can we.

✨ In this episode, we explore:

• The moment Laura realized when and why she dimmed her light
• How the body stores memory beyond what we consciously remember
• What integration actually looks like (and why it’s not instant)
• The role of safety in reconnecting with yourself
• Moving from protection into agency… at your own pace
  

This episode closes with a gentle guided reflection to help you reconnect with a younger part of yourself… and begin building safety from within.

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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

What happens when your body speaks - but no one, not even you, is listening?

In this powerful episode of Selah: A Deep Pause, Laura and Krissi explore the moment when your body quietly (or not-so-quietly) whispers “enough.” Through raw personal stories, they unpack how we learn to silence our truth to keep the peace, earn love, or fit in - and what it takes to finally reclaim our voice.

From the pressure of perfection to the slow burn of resentment, this is an honest look at how easy it is to lose yourself - and how deeply healing it can be to come back home.

"Reclaiming your voice isn’t about being loud. It’s about being true. It’s about remembering the sound of your soul—raw, honest, maybe trembling, but real."

🪞 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• The moment Laura realized she married her mother (yep, really)
• How fear-based conditioning keeps women silent
• The body’s role in intuition, resistance, and eruptive truth
• How seeking mirrors and safe spaces leads to real transformation
• Why choosing yourself often comes with loss—and why it’s still worth it
• A guided reflection on listening for the whispers in your own life

Host: Laura Deir

Producer, Editor: Krissi Burdette

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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/
Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

Selah: A Deep Pause – Episode 2

Host: Laura Deir
Producer & Editor: Krissi Burdette

Laura and Krissi return with a powerful conversation about the wisdom held within our bodies.

💫 Topics in this episode:

• How physical pain can be our body’s way of speaking truths we’re ignoring
• Laura’s raw and personal story of 12 years of chronic back pain—and the moment she refused to accept someone else’s version of her future
• The sacred unraveling: why falling apart might be the first step toward authentic healing
• The courage it takes to listen to the whispers beneath the noise of life
• How community and connection can help us navigate fear, shame, and the unknown

Laura shares a vulnerable invitation to listeners: place your hand on your heart, breathe, and ask your body what it’s trying to say.

Because sometimes, the unraveling isn’t the end—it’s the beginning of becoming who you’re truly meant to be.

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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

2025 had surprises. Some were beautiful. Some were… OUCH!!!

In this episode, Laura and Tim reflect on what this year revealed, what actually worked, what didn’t, and the patterns that kept showing up until they finally landed.

We talk about learning to catch triggers sooner, listening without fixing, setting boundaries without guilt, and why “just because I can doesn’t mean I should” became a turning point. You’ll also hear how a solo trip to Portugal became a powerful moment of trust, freedom, and identity shift, plus what it looked like to choose “us” over fix-it energy when life got loud.

Then we look ahead to 2026 with a theme of movement and momentum, and Laura’s word for the year: reap - receiving what you’ve planted and letting it be enough.

We close with a reflection and prayer for anyone moving from shedding into what’s next.

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🎙️ Host: Laura Deir
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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/
Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.