In this episode of Selah, Laura and Krissi explore what happens when your body knows something before your mind is ready to admit it.

From childhood conditioning to adult relationships, many of us were trained to override our signals in the name of being polite, spiritual, patient, or “measured.” Over time, that quiet comes at a cost. Not always in lost relationships or outcomes, but in delayed boundaries, second guessing, and erosion of self-trust.

Laura shares personal reflections on early marriage, masking, agency, and the moment of “enough.” Together, they unpack what it means to reclaim authority without creating rupture, and how awareness becomes the first step toward alignment.

In this conversation:
• What “agency” actually means and how we unconsciously give it away
• The difference between contraction and expansion in the body
• Masking, self-abandonment, and nervous system conditioning
• How to listen without needing to fix or prove
• Simple ways to start noticing your first signal

This episode is not about confrontation. It’s about awareness.

If something in you leans back, tightens, or expands, that is information. The work is not to overanalyze it. The work is to notice.

Laura closes with a prayer for discernment, sovereignty, and the courage to respond when your body speaks.

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🎙️ Host: Laura Deir
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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

What happens when the roles that once defined you start to fall away?

In this episode of Selah – A Deep Pause, Laura, Tim, and Krissi explore what most people call a midlife crisis, but what they’ve learned to call The Tunnel. A season where kids are grown, work shifts, identities loosen, and you’re left asking a quieter, more unsettling question: Who am I when no one needs me?

They talk honestly about the shift from performance to presence, anger as an invisibility trigger, disassociation and numbing as nervous system relief, and what it means for men to have a safe place to land, with their partner and with other men.

This episode is for the men in the tunnel. And for the people who love them.

Guest: Tim Deir

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🎙️ Host: Laura Deir
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🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
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Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
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⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.

In this episode of Selah: A Deep Pause, Laura and Krissi explore a tender but powerful theme: reorganizing relationships. Not because anyone is “wrong,” but because something new is asking to be supported.

Laura shares what it felt like to move through a season of shedding, where emotions got louder and her body stopped letting her ignore the truth. Together, they talk about sacred reciprocity, the difference between loyalty and self-abandonment, and how relationships can shift by season without needing to become dramatic endings.

You’ll hear real talk, relatable humor (yes, menopause makes a cameo), and grounded reflection on questions like: Do I feel ease here, or do I brace? Am I holding onto history, or honoring the present? Is this relationship nourishing me, or quietly draining me?

This episode is an invitation to pause before you act, listen before you explain, and let space reveal what’s real. Love can remain, and access can change. You are allowed to make space for what supports who you are becoming.

🎧 Thank you for joining us for this episode of Selah: A Deep Pause.
We hope this conversation offered you a moment to reflect, breathe, and feel seen.

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🎙️ Host: Laura Deir
🎛️ Producer/Editor: Krissi Burdette
🎨 Artwork Credit: Mural featured in the video by E. Guenthner

🎵 Music Credit
“Dreamcatcher” by Onycs Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY 3.0)
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/
Artist: https://youtube.com/channel/UCNQ6vKZ5ogEZ0tM2TvxLhQA
Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://youtu.be/gUgyfUIhGQc

⚖️ Disclaimer: The conversations in this episode reflect personal experiences and opinions. They are not intended as medical, psychological, or legal advice. Psychedelic substances are not legal in all areas and may carry risks. Always consult qualified professionals and honor your local laws and your own readiness before exploring any healing modality discussed.