Have you ever had a season where everything in your life fell apart at once and you couldn't catch your breath?

Then this episode is for you. Today I'm sitting down with Nicholas Howe. He's the founder of Howe United Games and Software, a single dad to a nine-year-old, and the creator of a free app called Cups and Spoons that helps couples build healthier relationships.

Before we recorded, I spoke to his friend Cheri about him. What she said is sweet and a little savage, and you can hear him squirm hearing it back live.

Nick opens up about the four months in 2024 when everything came apart at once. The move-out notice from his parents. The friends he turned to whose place he had to leave in under a month. The relationship that ended. He shares the sacrifices he's making to keep his company alive that he hasn't told his own family. And he tells me about the night he asked the universe for a sign and what showed up the next morning.

In Between the Lines, I gave it everything I had. Five questions, five chances to get him to lose a layer. Find out if I managed it.

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(00:41) Welcome and introduction

(00:59) New Clothes: the night everything fell apart

(09:05) Building Cups and Spoons and Howe United Games and Software

(15:29) Mirror Mirror: hearing how Cheri sees him

(18:17) The sacrifices behind the build

(23:15) Between the Lines begins

(24:28) Q1: what therapists get wrong about couples

(27:06) Q2: the gap between perception and reality

(31:19) Q3: the sacrifice no one knows about

(37:43) Q4: the worst leadership he's ever experienced

(42:59) Q5: the thought that plays on repeat

(44:46) The bullfrog sign

(47:48) Where to find Nicholas and sign-off

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Howe United Games & Software:

https://howe-united.com/

https://www.instagram.com/HOWEUNITEDGAMES/

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You can be brilliant at what you do and still feel like the kid no one picked — and starting a business doesn't always fix that.

In this episode of Naked at the Top, Gabriele Sanguigno, founder of Tooth Fairy AI, shares what it takes to compete with the biggest names in tech as a self-described introvert who'd rather be coding than selling. He opens up about the cost of the dream — running a company on the other side of the planet from his family, the mask he puts on every time he speaks publicly, and why he stopped trying to be liked and started leaning on what he knows he's good at.


You'll learn:

- Why being good at the work and being good at the room are two different skills, and what to do when you only have one
- How to hold your nerve and your vision when bigger players are working against you
- Why chasing people who've already made up their minds about you is a losing game
- The line between leaning on your strengths and forcing yourself to become someone else
- What the 3am moments of clarity cost a founder, beneath the highlight reel
- Why staying focused and bootstrapped can matter more than landing the big funding round

By the end, you'll have a more honest picture of what it costs to back yourself when you're not the loudest person in the room — and permission to build your way instead of someone else's.

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(00:00) Cold open
(01:05) Welcome — meet Gabriele of ToothFairy AI
(01:13) New Clothes: the last time he felt naked
(01:28) A stroke, a continent away, during COVID
(04:34) "I think Lara wanted to tell me to look after my wife"
(05:26) Starting ToothFairy AI as everything was crumbling
(06:00) When your co-founder stops believing in you
(07:11) The vision: democratising AI, protecting privacy
(09:15) "I'd never have started if I knew what it took"
(09:35) Staying on course while competing with giants
(11:57) Confidence vs. being the quiet guy in the corner
(14:37) Mirror Mirror: a voice note from Dian, his CMO
(16:05) "It's true, and it hurts" — not the founder caliber VCs want
(17:40) Why a company competing with the giants gets no support
(19:10) What victory looks like in five years
(20:23) The upside of being misunderstood since childhood
(22:50) "Better to be disliked for who you are"
(24:17) Between the Lines
(25:15) Q1 — Pizza or pasta, and the carbonara crime
(26:54) Q2 — Military school at 14: the lesson and the one he'd erase
(28:48) Six months "disassociated" — no one allowed to speak to him
(31:44) Q3 — The mouthful of mud he's chewing right now
(34:23) When the people meant to back you don't
(35:48) Q4 — How much of the day is spent wearing the mask
(38:20) Q5 — The thoughts he shuts down at 3am
(40:53) The gamble, the sacrifice, and the family overseas
(41:41) Where to find Gabriele + ToothFairy AI

TOOTHFAIRYAI:
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabriele-sanguigno/
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Everyone tells you to "just be yourself" at the top — but nobody warns you how exposed that can leave you, or how lonely it gets being the one who's supposed to have the answers.

In this episode of Naked at the Top, Leadernomics author, keynote speaker and 25-year Air Force veteran Seung Paik strips back the polished version of leadership and shares what it looks like behind closed doors. He makes the case that "authentic" might be the most dangerous word in leadership, opens up about the cost of looking unprepared, and walks through the "insurance policy" rule that makes it safe for your team to take risks — including the forty cleanup calls he made so one young officer would never know the mess she'd caused.

You'll learn:

- Why telling your team "it's safe to fail" means nothing until you've done the one thing that proves it
- The "insurance policy" rule for empowering risk-averse people — and the forty cleanup calls behind it
- Why "authentic" might be the most dangerous word in leadership, and the word Seung uses instead
- The difference between authenticity and consistency — and why being your "honest self" in a bad mood isn't honesty
- How sunk cost, ego and reputation trap leaders in decisions they know are wrong
- The early warning sign of burnout that shows up in your attitude long before anything else
- Why the most humble thing a high-achiever can do is build a small circle who'll tell them the truth
- What goes through his head alone in a hotel room after a keynote — and why praise is harder to take than criticism

By the end, you'll have a more honest picture of what leadership costs — and a few specific moves you can use the next time your team needs cover, or you catch your own ego making the call.

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(00:00) Intro

(00:45) Welcome Back — Our First Repeat Guest

(01:00) New Clothes: The Last Time He Felt Naked

(01:15) Flip-Flops at a Five-Star Wedding in Okinawa

(06:07) "It Gets Worse" — Handed the Mic for a Speech

(08:44) Why He Couldn't Shake It: What He Thought They Were Thinking

(11:24) Mirror Mirror: A Voice Note from His Son, Micah

(13:07) "Doing It the Right Way" — Hearing It Back

(15:49) When the Right Way Means Cutting Corners: Leadership vs. Compliance

(19:13) Risk, Reward, and Being Your Team's Insurance Policy

(23:21) "Go Crazy" — The Lieutenant Who Blew Up His Inbox

(28:40) Cleaning Up the Mess Without Killing the Courage

(30:30) Between the Lines

(31:06) The Leadership Word That Should Scare You ("Authentic")

(36:22) The Excuse He Manufactures (and the Yard Work Behind It)

(39:36) Talking Yourself Out of the Right Thing

(40:31) Four Months on Book Tour: Sunk Cost, Pride, and Ego

(45:30) Alone in the Hotel Room After the Keynote

(50:30) Where to Find Leadernomics + Seung

(52:11) How Did That Feel?

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