WelcomeHey, hey! Is it a snowy day where you are? At the very least, it’s cold—which feels like the perfect time to cozy up for this conversation about goals, acceptance, and what actually creates long-term well-being.In today’s episode, we’re talking about redefining goals in a way that doesn’t overwhelm us, unhinge us, or set us up for the dreaded F-word (no, not that one—failure). Instead, we’re starting with something deeper and steadier: acceptance.✨ Why Acceptance Comes FirstWe often set goals around things that fade—weight loss, the perfect job, flawless makeup, the ideal version of ourselves we think we “should” be. But those kinds of goals won’t give us lasting acceptance, because they’re tied to things that change.As we talked about in the last episode, what happens isn’t failure—it's information. And the lesson here?Those external “perfect” goals don’t bring forever-good feelings.What can bring them?Acceptance of who we are, as we are.It can feel freeing.Grounding.Like a deep-rooted tree—unshakeable in wind, change, or chaos.When we accept ourselves, we stop obsessing over our “shortcomings,” and suddenly we have more room for compassion—for ourselves and others. And any goals we choose don’t have the power to break us or make us feel small.Acceptance goes first.Goals come second.✨ How Many Goals Is Too Many?We’ve all heard the sayings:“My plate is full.”“I’m juggling so many balls.”That’s what it feels like when we overload ourselves with 10–15 goals at the surface level—none of them get meaningful attention.But focusing on one intentional goal at a time?That allows you to think deeper, choose what actually matters, and create real change.✨ What Are Goals, Anyway?Goals can be anything—but they need to be for you, not someone else’s approval.Ask yourself:Who is this goal for?Does it genuinely excite me?Does my energy rise when I picture myself doing it?Example:“Read one book a month.”If you love reading, amazing.If you don’t… that’s not a goal—it’s a chore.✨ Using SMART Goals (the realistic version)SMART goals help turn vague wishes into actual plans.S – Specific❌ “Lift weights.”✅ “Use light weights for all major muscle groups twice per week.”M – Measurable❌ Lifting random weights and calling it good.✅ Lifting weights heavy enough that you need to stop between 8–12 reps.(Insert the classic joke about people lifting their purse and calling it strength training — we’ve all seen it!)A – Attainable / Achievable❌ “Become an Olympic weightlifter.”❌ “Run five marathons this year even though I’ve never run.”✅ “Train for and run one marathon.”or“Learn the basics of an Olympic lift.”R – Realistic & RelevantMatch the goal to the mission.If your goal is “Get stronger”:❌ Stretching-only classes✅ Strength training, Pilates, barre, or body-weight workT – Timely❌ “Lift weights this year.”✅ “Lift weights 2x/week for 3 months, then assess.”And don’t forget a crucial element…+ FlexibleCan you adjust if something changes—or if you learn you hate the thing you picked?Hating weightlifting? Try Pilates, barre, resistance bands, a class, or body-weight work.Goals evolve as you do.✨ Final ThoughtsIf goals motivate you, go for them.But don’t wait for a new year, a Monday, or some magical reset moment.You can choose a new direction anytime.Just remember:Start with acceptance.Set goals for YOU.I’m here cheering you on and would love to hear what you’re working toward.DM me, email, comment, or leave a review.And don’t forget—this topic will also be in the newsletter.Subscribe at: menobodies.com/newsletterUntil next time, Menobodies:If you’re going after goals, do it for you, and start with acceptance. 💛Connect with Beth:💌 Email: beth@neonlavendertherapy.com📱 Instagram & Facebook: @menobodies🌐 Website: www.menobodies.com/home🗞️Newsletter:www.menobodies.com/newsletter
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