It's frustrating when someone gets in our way when we're trying to accomplish something. It's even more frustrating when we get in our own way and become an obstacle to ourselves. Maybe you know someone who is constantly getting in their own way and self sabotaging their best efforts? Maybe you think of yourself when you think of that problem?

For most individuals who do not experience mood disorders, the thoughts we focus on can significantly influence whether we have a positive or negative mood, a good day or a bad day, and an overall positive or negative outlook. In this episode, we explore some strategies to help us avoid undermining our mood.

Yes, I know, men can be frustrating. We frustrate ourselves! We frustrate our friends and our coworkers. And you wouldn’t believe the things that we say to ourselves about ourselves or the comments we tolerate from other guys. But there’s one thing men don’t tolerate well and that’s when they feel like their wife or significant other is "scolding" them.

“I love you, I just don't trust you.” It's not a statement anyone really wants to hear. Just the same I've heard this over and over and counseling sessions with couples. The person on the receiving end of this message rarely has a easy time grasping or accepting the statement. There's always a question of, “How can you love me and not trust me?”

Well, it pretty much always comes down to the lack of positive predictability. One person doesn't know what to expect from the other from day-to-day but it's generally not anticipated to be positive. Too many failures, too many disappointments, too many surprises. It takes a toll on a relationship.

In this episode, we're taking a brief look at what it takes for one to be seen as trustworthy and what often prevents it.

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Let’s use a sports analogy to illustrate how men sometimes get caught up in playing defense rather than offense in their relationships. It’s crucial to move from a reactive stance to one where they take the lead and act proactively. This lack of intentional involvement in marriages can often result in our wives feeling frustrated.

When it comes to porn use, often people use the term “addiction” a little to freely. Not to minimize the issue, but there’s a difference between a “problem” and an “addiction” and often we are talking “problem level” rather than “addiction level” issues. The question is how do we tell the difference?

Extramarital affairs rarely start with a deliberate intention to deceive a partner. Yet, individuals frequently find themselves crossing that boundary. In this episode, we aim to provide you with advice on how to steer clear of this trap.

Many couples become disheartened when marriage counseling fails to yield immediate results. However, it's important to recognize that the issues within a marriage didn't arise in a day, and they won't be resolved in a day either.There's a lot of discussion about the necessity of "hard work" in this process, and while it can indeed be challenging, the time it takes often frustrates and discourages many. Men, in particular, tend to be more impatient during marriage counseling. They frequently seek out "signs that it's working" or indications that it isn't.

In this episode, we're focused on encouraging you to notice the little signs of improvement!