You can be the best in the world at something… and still battle self-doubt, comparison, and “do I belong here?” thoughts. In this under-10-minute Quick Lift, We are breaking down the most actionable lessons from Olympic gold medalist Charlotte Worthington—so you can use them in your next big meeting, pitch, or hard conversation.

In this Quick Lift, you’ll take away:

• A 10-second pressure reset you can use before high-stakes moments
• A simple way to “rehearse” your mindset so you’re not surprised by anxious thoughts
• A process-over-outcome focus to stay present and perform
• A reframe for comparison that builds confidence and community: swap comparison for admiration

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Ever notice how the higher you achieve, the louder the expectations get? Olympic gold medalist Charlotte Worthington gets it—because she’s lived it in the most high-stakes arena possible.

In this episode, Charlotte shares how she built mental toughness in a sport that’s equal parts fearless and strategic, why confidence is a practice (not a personality trait), and the simple mindset shift that changed everything for her: swap comparison for admiration.

You’ll hear about:

• How Charlotte went from new BMX rider to Olympic track fast (without “waiting until she was ready”)
• The tools she uses to stay calm under pressure: breathing + visualization + thought rehearsal
• Why “I have to be the best in the room” is a trap (and what to do instead)
• Individual sport vs. team energy—and how she learned to drop ego and embrace support
• The confidence reframe every woman in leadership needs: comparison → admiration

Links / Resources

• Follow Charlotte on Instagram: @ChazWerther
• Book mentioned: Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday
• Loud & Lifted Links

Episode Overview

This quick recap pulls the most actionable ideas from my conversation with Dr. Alison Fragale, author of Likeable Badass—so you can earn more respect (status), influence outcomes, and still feel like yourself doing it.

Be warm → get overlooked.

Be strong → get judged.

Show confidence → get questioned. …

So let’s fix the game instead of blaming you.

Summary

In this Quick Lift, we break down Alison’s core concept: people make fast judgments about you based on warmth and competence. When you intentionally signal both, you build status—and status becomes influence. The best part? The move is usually adding clarity and confidence, not subtracting kindness.

Key Takeaways

• Status is built (not granted): Warmth + Competence → Respect → Influence
• Power vs. status: A title can give power, but respect creates leverage
• “Too nice” isn’t a personality problem: it’s usually a signal problem (they’re not seeing enough competence/confidence)
• Self-promotion without backlash: Brag + Thank (claim impact + share credit)
• Tough conversations land better when you think in a relationship timeline: past + present + future signals

Quick Lift Moves (try these this week)

• Pick one signal to turn up:
  • Warmth: give public credit, a real check-in, a specific compliment
  • Competence: crisp POV, decisive language, bring the solution
• Use this sentence starter in meetings:
  • “My recommendation is ___, because ___.”
• Try Brag + Thank once (email, meeting, weekly update, LinkedIn):
  • “I’m proud of . Huge thanks to for __.”

Links & Resources

Alison's site: https://www.alisonfragale.com/

Alison's Instagram: @alisonfragale

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Loud & Lifted Podcast: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/

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Women in leadership often get stuck in the likability vs. competence double bind—and it can stall career growth for women even when performance is strong. In this episode, organizational psychologist Dr. Alison Fragale shares the “Likeable Badass” approach to build leadership confidence, strengthen executive presence, and increase influence at work—without shrinking, over-explaining, or apologizing for being direct.

If you’ve ever softened your message, over-explained, or held back from advocating for yourself because you didn’t want to be “that person”… this episode is for you. Alison breaks down why the likability-competence tradeoff shows up so often for women, and the practical shifts that help you build influence without contorting yourself into someone else’s comfort zone.

Takeaways

• Stop aiming to be liked. Aim to be respected and trusted—there’s a difference, and it changes your results.
• Status isn’t about ego. It’s how your value becomes visible (and rewarded).
• Warmth without strength gets you overlooked. Strength without warmth can trigger backlash. The goal is both.
• Self-advocacy doesn’t need to feel salesy—it needs to be clear, specific, and connected to outcomes.
• Use cleaner language. Less apologizing, fewer “justs,” and no pre-defending your point before you make it.

Links & Resources

• Dr. Alison Fragale
• Likeable Badass (book)
• Follow Alison on Instagram
• Loud & Lifted Podcast: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/
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Guest Bio

Dr. Alison Fragale is an organizational psychologist, professor at the University of North Carolina Kenan-Flagler Business School, and bestselling author of Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve. Her academic research on status, power, negotiation, and influence have been published in her field’s top academic journals as well as national media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times. She is a sought-after keynote speaker who uses behavioral science to help individuals, especially women, excel. Prior to her academic career, Alison worked as a consultant for McKinsey and Company, Inc.

She holds a B.A. in Mathematics and Economics from Dartmouth College and a Ph.D. in Organizational Behavior from the Stanford University Graduate School of Business.

Micromanagers, Narcissists, and Bullies — and how to protect your peace without losing your edge.

Have you ever worked for someone who monitors you like a toddler near an open staircase? You don’t get bonus points for suffering quietly.

In this Loud & Lifted: Quick Lift, Betsy recaps insights from "The Management Guru" Lynda Harvey to give you a playbook for the three most draining leadership personalities. We break down exactly how to spot them and the specific, repeatable moves you can use this week to protect your confidence.

In this episode, we cover:

• The Micromanager: Distinguishing between "trust issues" vs. "power trips"—and the "Train Your Boss" method to stop the hovering before it starts.
• The Narcissist: Why you can't win by confronting them, and how to use the "Gray Rock" method to disappear from their drama radar.
• The Bully: The difference between tough leadership and abuse, and how to "document like a detective" to protect your career record.

Key Takeaway: If leadership protects the bully, that’s the culture. Learn when to stay and fight, and when to protect your next move.

Bad bosses don’t just ruin your day—they can destroy your confidence and make you question your sanity.

If you’re dealing with a toxic work environment, a micromanaging boss, or constant gaslighting, this episode is your survival guide.

We are joined by Lynda Harvey (aka the Management Guru) to break down the three most common toxic manager types: the Micromanager, the Narcissist, and the Bully. We share the exact scripts and strategies you need to "train your boss," protect your peace with the Gray Rock method, and know exactly when it’s time to exit.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The 3 Toxic Archetypes: How to spot toxic boss behavior before it breaks you.
• The "Train Your Boss" Technique: Proactive steps to stop a micromanaging boss in their tracks (like calling them before they call you).
• Narcissist Neutralization: Using the "Gray Rock" theory to handle gaslighting, lack of accountability, and credit-stealing
• Document or Depart: The "detective" method for handling workplace bullying and when to go to HR (or the EEOC).

Chapters

01:04 Meet Lynda Harvey (Management Guru)

03:28 The micromanager that broke the system

6:29 Why she started training managers

8:06 The 3 toxic boss types

8:24 The real problem: managers aren’t trained

9:08 How bad managers get created

10:15 Micromanagers: control + mistrust

12:38 Two micromanagers (including the “necessary evil”)

13:51 How to manage a micromanager (observe + get ahead)

15:35 If they don’t change: your decision point

17:21 Narcissistic bosses (men + women)

18:15 Narcissist patterns: blame, gaslight, control

19:33 When you outshine them: isolation + stolen credit

23:16 Gray rock: stay boring, stay safe

24:31 Documentation that protects you

26:51 Script your responses (3 options)

28:17 Bully bosses: what counts (and why it’s messy)

30:03 Document like a detective (proof matters)

31:47 Direct conversation vs. escalation

34:07 Escalate: HR, EEOC, and exit plan

35:00 The big takeaway (and what to do next)

35:54 Managing high performers

37:31 One-size leadership doesn’t work

About the Guest:

Lynda Harvey teaches leaders and employees how to speak fluent corporate and navigate toxic work culture without losing their edge.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lynda.leads/?hl=en

Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lynda.leads

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lyndaharvey01/

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You’ve heard of glass ceilings—but what if the bigger career blocker is glass walls? In this conversation, researcher and author Dr. Amy Diehl explains why women often don’t just hit barriers at the top… they hit invisible walls every direction they turn—blocking access to roles, relationships, and real influence.

Amy breaks down the six glass walls from her book Glass Walls and shares practical ways leaders, allies, and women can respond—without pretending bias is “all in your head.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why glass walls can be more limiting than glass ceilings (and why they’re harder to spot)
• The 6 glass walls that make up workplace gender bias:
  • Male privilege
  • Disproportionate constraints
  • Insufficient support
  • Devaluation
  • Hostility
  • Acquiescence
• What “he-peating” is (and how allies can interrupt it in real time)
• How women get trapped in the “too confident vs. not confident enough” double bind
• Why women get disproportionately stuck doing “office housework” (and what leaders should change)
• The “Flip it to test it” bias check you can use immediately
• How to depersonalize bias, build support, and keep options on the table so you’re never stuck

Links & Resources:

• Amy Diehl website
• Book: Glass Walls

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In this solo episode,we are looking back at Season 1 of Loud & Lifted and pulling out the big themes that kept showing up in every conversation with women in leadership — from founders and executives to small business owners. Think of this as your 2025 rewind: what actually matters if you want to grow your career, expand your impact, and stop playing small?

This episode walks through the patterns we saw across the season and connect the dots into a simple, usable roadmap you can take into the next year. No fluff, no clichés — just real talk, honest stories, and practical moves you can actually try this week.

We’ll dig into:

• Confidence on purpose – how the women this season built it, not “found” it
• Growth doesn’t happen in your comfort zone – and what it really takes to step out
• Your personal brand is already talking - you need to decide what it’s saying
• Being intentional about exposure – getting in the right rooms, with the right people
• Community, support, and sponsors – why you cannot do big things alone

If you’ve missed episodes, this is your shortcut. If you’ve listened to them all, this is your playbook for applying what you heard so you can become more visible, more confident, and more in control of your next move.