You can be the best in the world at something… and still battle self-doubt, comparison, and “do I belong here?” thoughts. In this under-10-minute Quick Lift, We are breaking down the most actionable lessons from Olympic gold medalist Charlotte Worthington—so you can use them in your next big meeting, pitch, or hard conversation.

In this Quick Lift, you’ll take away:

• A 10-second pressure reset you can use before high-stakes moments
• A simple way to “rehearse” your mindset so you’re not surprised by anxious thoughts
• A process-over-outcome focus to stay present and perform
• A reframe for comparison that builds confidence and community: swap comparison for admiration

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Ever notice how the higher you achieve, the louder the expectations get? Olympic gold medalist Charlotte Worthington gets it—because she’s lived it in the most high-stakes arena possible.

In this episode, Charlotte shares how she built mental toughness in a sport that’s equal parts fearless and strategic, why confidence is a practice (not a personality trait), and the simple mindset shift that changed everything for her: swap comparison for admiration.

You’ll hear about:

• How Charlotte went from new BMX rider to Olympic track fast (without “waiting until she was ready”)
• The tools she uses to stay calm under pressure: breathing + visualization + thought rehearsal
• Why “I have to be the best in the room” is a trap (and what to do instead)
• Individual sport vs. team energy—and how she learned to drop ego and embrace support
• The confidence reframe every woman in leadership needs: comparison → admiration

Links / Resources

• Follow Charlotte on Instagram: @ChazWerther
• Book mentioned: Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday
• Loud & Lifted Links

Episode Overview

This quick recap pulls the most actionable ideas from my conversation with Dr. Alison Fragale, author of Likeable Badass—so you can earn more respect (status), influence outcomes, and still feel like yourself doing it.

Be warm → get overlooked.

Be strong → get judged.

Show confidence → get questioned. …

So let’s fix the game instead of blaming you.

Summary

In this Quick Lift, we break down Alison’s core concept: people make fast judgments about you based on warmth and competence. When you intentionally signal both, you build status—and status becomes influence. The best part? The move is usually adding clarity and confidence, not subtracting kindness.

Key Takeaways

• Status is built (not granted): Warmth + Competence → Respect → Influence
• Power vs. status: A title can give power, but respect creates leverage
• “Too nice” isn’t a personality problem: it’s usually a signal problem (they’re not seeing enough competence/confidence)
• Self-promotion without backlash: Brag + Thank (claim impact + share credit)
• Tough conversations land better when you think in a relationship timeline: past + present + future signals

Quick Lift Moves (try these this week)

• Pick one signal to turn up:
  • Warmth: give public credit, a real check-in, a specific compliment
  • Competence: crisp POV, decisive language, bring the solution
• Use this sentence starter in meetings:
  • “My recommendation is ___, because ___.”
• Try Brag + Thank once (email, meeting, weekly update, LinkedIn):
  • “I’m proud of . Huge thanks to for __.”

Links & Resources

Alison's site: https://www.alisonfragale.com/

Alison's Instagram: @alisonfragale

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Loud & Lifted Podcast: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/

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