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My long-awaited Emmy-award winning guest Javier Leiva from the popular Pretend Podcast joins me on Hot Mess Happy Hour with breaking news! He has been officially diagnosed with ADHD and can join our tribe of hot messes! He discusses how Pretend got its start and how his true-crime series ended up being featured in the New York Times, BBC, and New York Magazine. He also discusses several airline antics and offers a PSA warning not to travel with me... like ever. Things happen. A lot. You'll also learn why not to consume a large amount of beets before flying cross country from Seattle to Raleigh. This is the first part of a two part series with our special guest.

Our next episode will drop next week where we continue the fun with Javier and discuss cult leaders, BBLs, close encounters with sharks, meeting Michael Jackson, and attending a stranger's funeral. Stay tuned!

And listen to the Pretend Podcast, going almost for 10 years now! It is awesome and on my list of favorites. <3

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ADHD people are more likely to be people-pleasers as a survival mechanism to avoid rejection and cope with emotional regulation. I am guilty of it too, but we need to find a way to break this cycle of pleasing. It is okay to be kind and do things for others but don't make it cost your personal values. Recognize what you want to do versus what you feel obligated to do to keep the peace. Gradually set small boundaries to get back to having confidence without the fear of negative reactions. If your friends don't care what you value, or criticize you often, it might be time to move on to better people who respect your boundaries and feelings. You got this! I am here for you!

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The fun continues with our insightful and hilarious guest Nate, as we discuss what not to say to people with depression or ADHD. Best practices if you will, and you should. We also do a deep dive into LEGO minifigs, vegetarian foods, and feature the song "Game Boy" by Zack Cokas, with a sample of this rockin' tune. Don't miss the Yard Sale stories, as those are too funny! You can see that no topic is off limits. Thanks for listening!! We love you. Check out Spotify for more Zack Cokas and Cam Cokas hits! They are talented musical twins with completely different styles. Enjoy!

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Sing it: "He is 16 .... going on 35..." Nate is back and talking about the disparity of the solos assigned to the seven von Trapp siblings during the infamous "So Long, Farewell" song. Fun fact: Georg had 3 more children with Maria making it a grand total of 10 von Trapp kiddos! We also discuss potential dog dating websites, (we're copywriting eBark) and much more! Join us for our happy hour filled with Trader Joe snacks and lots of laughs.

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Back by Popular Demand — NATE! Your favorite ADHD duo is back....and even more off track than ever! We discuss Nate's brief but illustrious bowling career, his many balls, his fun-filled rolling skating party to celebrate his early thirties, Trader Joe's (because why not?) and the benefits of physical therapy (PT). This is all coming to you from Nate's very high-security, top secret location. I had to be buzzed in and even then, there are two areas with the same number. NO ONE CAN FIND YOU NATE! But join me in wishing my friend a very happy birthday! Hope you enjoy the show! There are two more episodes on the heels of this one starring Nate the Great.

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Woop Woop! You'll cheer for this method to help you meet your goals! WOOP stands for Wish, Outcome, Obstacles, Plan and it challenges you to identify what your true wishes are, and what stands in your way. I have started using this mental exercise and it is helping me prepare for things I want to achieve. Deceptively simple but effective! Thank you to the class I took from a Yale professor who introduced this WOOP approach to us that was conceived from Dr. Gabriele Oettingen. I hope it helps you move forward towards the things you would like to do but feel paralyzed like I do sometimes. Cheers!

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No one is SAFE from us! Join us for Hot Mess Happy Hour as Craig and I drag a stranger from a bar on St. Patrick's Day into the podcast to share her fun stories! Jaqueline attended Johnny Cash's funeral and almost blew up a gas station! She fit the bill for hot mess and we love her! Craig shares his love of proctologists and how yearly exams are just not enough! He then shares his fun colonoscopy experience. Then we discuss the difference from people in the Midwest, the north and the south. We are all over the place and wouldn't change a thing! Cheers!

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