Host Tricia Rose Stone introduces her podcast, Her New Lens, and shares how reading verse one of the Tao Te Ching began her shift from striving and control to trust and allowing. She describes a period in her mid-thirties as a single mom marked by survival mode, constant pressure, and jaw tension from trying to force outcomes. After encountering Wayne Dyer at a Hay House conference in New York and later reading his book Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life, she found the first verse soothing and began exploring its core teaching: the difference between desire-driven forcing and spacious, trust-based allowing. The episode frames this as the first pillar of her New Lens Method—Heart-Led Transformation—moving from head to heart by releasing control, calming the nervous system, and opening to clarity, peace, synchronicity, and alignment. She offers self-inquiry questions about where listeners may be forcing rather than allowing, gives examples related to relationships and the timing of life events, references Byron Katie’s idea that “Reality is always kinder than the stories we tell ourselves about it,” and invites listeners to explore more resources and coaching at triciarosestone.com.

00:00 Welcome to Her New Lens: The Power of Perception

00:31 From Striving to Allowing: Discovering Heart-Led Transformation

01:20 Life in Survival Mode: Single Mom Pressure & the Need to Control

03:39 A Serendipitous Introduction to the Tao (Wayne Dyer & Hay House)

05:08 Verse One of the Tao Te Ching: Reading the Passage

06:36 Desire vs. Allowing: The Two Sides of the Coin

08:51 The Mystery as the Doorway: Synchronicities & Trust

10:27 Pillar One of the New Lens Method: Releasing Control to Find Alignment

12:35 Applying Allowing in Real Life: Relationships, Timing, and Micro-Planning

14:31 Self-Inquiry Prompts: Where Are You Forcing Instead of Allowing?

15:30 Why This Teaching Works: Balancing Action with Surrender

16:59 Closing Reflection & Next Steps: Let Life Align

In this episode of 'Her New Lens,' host Tricia engages in a thought-provoking conversation with Alla Fine, a global matchmaker with decades of experience. They discuss the barriers to finding meaningful relationships, such as unrealistic expectations and a readiness that holds in theory but not in practice. Alla shares her journey, starting from matchmaking as a hobby at 18, and the challenges she observed, including the importance of being emotionally and energetically prepared for a connection. The episode dives into the patterns that hamper love, the need for authentic self-awareness, and the importance of vulnerability in relationships. It also covers the unique dynamics for high-powered women seeking love and the differences in how men and women approach relationships. This conversation aims to provide valuable insights for anyone navigating dating, considering a matchmaker, or reflecting on their relationship patterns.

00:00 Introduction to the Episode

00:13 Meet Alla Fine: A Global Matchmaker

01:10 The Journey of Matchmaking

02:38 Common Challenges in Modern Dating

05:06 The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships

07:29 Empowering Women in the Dating Scene

10:45 The Importance of Communication

14:22 Preparing for Connection

21:56 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

In this episode, we explore why efforts in manifestation often fall short despite setting intentions and the role of the nervous system in this process. Neurosurgeon Dr. James Doty emphasizes that the brain prioritizes safety, which can lead to resistance if the body doesn't feel secure. We discuss shifting the manifestation approach to start with establishing internal safety and regulating the nervous system. Techniques such as self-compassion are highlighted as essential for overcoming fears and opening pathways to manifestation. Personal experiences of overcoming fear and finding alignment within oneself provide practical insights. The episode concludes with coaching questions to help identify and address internal blocks to manifestation.

00:00 Understanding the Missing Piece in Manifestation

00:16 The Role of the Nervous System in Manifestation

01:24 Real-Life Context: How Past Experiences Affect Manifestation

02:54 Signs of Feeling Unsafe and Their Impact on Manifestation

07:17 The Power of Visualization and Compassion

10:10 Personal Story: Finding Safety and Contentment

12:34 A New Order for Manifestation

13:26 Coaching Questions for Self-Reflection

14:14 Final Thoughts and How to Work with Me

What if burnout isn’t a personal failure -- but a signal inviting deeper awareness?

In this episode of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone is joined by burnout recovery coach and writer Jennifer Bassman for a grounded, honest conversation about what burnout is really asking of us. Together, they explore how exhaustion often stems not from doing too much, but from the standards, expectations, and identities we’ve been living by without question.

Jennifer shares her personal story of burnout as a longtime business owner, the subtle warning signs she didn’t recognize at first, and the deeper patterns that emerged. including people-pleasing and perfectionism, which ultimately led her to reassess how she related to herself and her life.

A central theme of this conversation is the powerful distinction between mental toughness and mental strength—and why learning to trust yourself, rather than pushing harder, can change everything.

This episode is for any woman who feels tired, reactive, or disconnected from herself — especially during a season of transition — and is ready to begin seeing her life through a new lens.

• Why burnout is often a signal, not a sign of failure
• The subtle warning signs women tend to dismiss or normalize
• How impossible standards and people-pleasing quietly drain our energy
• The difference between mental toughness and mental strength
• Why pushing through isn’t the same as being resilient
• How awareness — not fixing — is often the first step toward real change
• The role of self-trust in navigating stress, transitions, and identity shifts

Mental strength isn’t about becoming harder or pushing through at all costs.

It’s about self-trust — knowing when to soften, when to stand steady, and how to respond to life with clarity rather than force.

When we begin to examine the lens we’ve been looking through, everything starts to change.

What if the calm you’re craving isn’t something you need to achieve — but something your body is waiting to feel safe enough to allow?

In this episode of Her New Lens, I’m sharing reflections from a recent trip to Copenhagen and exploring the Danish concept of hygge, not as a design trend, but as a felt experience of safety, ease, and belonging.

Hygge isn’t about candles or cozy blankets.

It’s about the absence of irritation, the softening of the nervous system, and the quiet sense that all is well.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why hygge lives in the body, not the mind
• How safety in the nervous system precedes clarity and connection
• What Copenhagen can teach us about slowing down without falling behind
• Why calm presence is more magnetic than effort or urgency
• How seeing life through the Lens of Hygge can transform relationships, love, and the way we move through our days

You’ll also be invited to gently experiment with bringing hygge into your own life — through unhurried moments, softer choices, and a kinder relationship with yourself.

This episode is an invitation to stop striving, soften your inner lens, and remember that a meaningful life doesn’t come from doing more, it comes from feeling safer inside the life you already have.

✨ Lens Shift of the Week:

Where can you choose softness over control — and what would help your body feel more at ease today?

In this episode of "Her New Lens," Tricia invites Banya Lim, a spiritual acupuncturist and energy coach, to discuss the intrinsic connections between the body, mind, and spirit. With over 30 years of experience, Banya shares her holistic Chi Mastery system, which integrates somatic work, energy healing, meditation, and acupuncture. The conversation delves into Banya's unique upbringing in a family of healers, the importance of listening to the body's signals, and the transformative power of unblocking energy pathways. The episode emphasizes that true healing and manifestation begin from within, encouraging listeners to explore their internal landscapes for meaningful external change.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:13 Banya Lim's Background and Early Influences

02:24 Experiences and Lessons from Childhood

05:48 Spiritual Acupuncture and Energy Work

08:15 Connecting Emotions and Physical Health

09:53 Energy Coaching and Achieving Goals

20:32 Practical Advice for Listeners

32:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Every January invites us to decide what we’re going to accomplish, and how quickly we need to get there. But beneath the noise of goal-setting and resolutions, there’s something quieter shaping our year: the intention we carry as we move through our days.

In this opening episode of Season Two, I explore a different way to begin the year. One that focuses less on outcomes and more on inner orientation. We’ll talk about why goals alone often lead to pressure and burnout, how intention acts as an inner posture rather than a to-do list, and why focusing on our “inputs” — our energy, presence, and way of being — naturally influences the outcomes we experience.

I also share my personal intention for the year and invite you to reflect on how you want to feel as you move through your days, not just what you want to achieve.

If January goal-setting has ever left you feeling anxious, behind, or disconnected from yourself, this episode offers a gentler place to land.

In the final episode of season one, we explore the New Lens Method, a transformative coaching framework based on the personal experiences of the host. The episode delves into the origins of the method, inspired by the clarity provided by the right optometric lens, and covers the four pillars of lasting transformation: Heart-Led Transformation, Empowered Vision, Authentic Integration, and Radiant Embodiment. The host shares intimate stories of overcoming personal challenges and emphasizes the power of changing one’s inner lens to alter the outer world. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own perspectives and embrace the possibility of a new lens that honors their true selves. The episode concludes with a look ahead at the upcoming second season, which will delve deeper into the neuroscience of transformation, emotional integration, and practical tools for personal growth.

00:00 Introduction to the New Lens Method

01:00 The Birth of the New Lens Method

03:35 Personal Transformation Through a New Lens

08:30 Pillar One: Heart-Led Transformation

12:31 Pillar Two: Empowered Vision

14:20 Pillar Three: Authentic Integration

17:00 Pillar Four: Radiant Embodiment

20:38 Conclusion and Season Two Preview