Host Tricia Rose Stone introduces her podcast, Her New Lens, and shares how reading verse one of the Tao Te Ching began her shift from striving and control to trust and allowing. She describes a period in her mid-thirties as a single mom marked by survival mode, constant pressure, and jaw tension from trying to force outcomes. After encountering Wayne Dyer at a Hay House conference in New York and later reading his book Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life, she found the first verse soothing and began exploring its core teaching: the difference between desire-driven forcing and spacious, trust-based allowing. The episode frames this as the first pillar of her New Lens Method—Heart-Led Transformation—moving from head to heart by releasing control, calming the nervous system, and opening to clarity, peace, synchronicity, and alignment. She offers self-inquiry questions about where listeners may be forcing rather than allowing, gives examples related to relationships and the timing of life events, references Byron Katie’s idea that “Reality is always kinder than the stories we tell ourselves about it,” and invites listeners to explore more resources and coaching at triciarosestone.com.

00:00 Welcome to Her New Lens: The Power of Perception

00:31 From Striving to Allowing: Discovering Heart-Led Transformation

01:20 Life in Survival Mode: Single Mom Pressure & the Need to Control

03:39 A Serendipitous Introduction to the Tao (Wayne Dyer & Hay House)

05:08 Verse One of the Tao Te Ching: Reading the Passage

06:36 Desire vs. Allowing: The Two Sides of the Coin

08:51 The Mystery as the Doorway: Synchronicities & Trust

10:27 Pillar One of the New Lens Method: Releasing Control to Find Alignment

12:35 Applying Allowing in Real Life: Relationships, Timing, and Micro-Planning

14:31 Self-Inquiry Prompts: Where Are You Forcing Instead of Allowing?

15:30 Why This Teaching Works: Balancing Action with Surrender

16:59 Closing Reflection & Next Steps: Let Life Align

In this episode of 'Her New Lens,' host Tricia engages in a thought-provoking conversation with Alla Fine, a global matchmaker with decades of experience. They discuss the barriers to finding meaningful relationships, such as unrealistic expectations and a readiness that holds in theory but not in practice. Alla shares her journey, starting from matchmaking as a hobby at 18, and the challenges she observed, including the importance of being emotionally and energetically prepared for a connection. The episode dives into the patterns that hamper love, the need for authentic self-awareness, and the importance of vulnerability in relationships. It also covers the unique dynamics for high-powered women seeking love and the differences in how men and women approach relationships. This conversation aims to provide valuable insights for anyone navigating dating, considering a matchmaker, or reflecting on their relationship patterns.

00:00 Introduction to the Episode

00:13 Meet Alla Fine: A Global Matchmaker

01:10 The Journey of Matchmaking

02:38 Common Challenges in Modern Dating

05:06 The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships

07:29 Empowering Women in the Dating Scene

10:45 The Importance of Communication

14:22 Preparing for Connection

21:56 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

In this episode, we explore why efforts in manifestation often fall short despite setting intentions and the role of the nervous system in this process. Neurosurgeon Dr. James Doty emphasizes that the brain prioritizes safety, which can lead to resistance if the body doesn't feel secure. We discuss shifting the manifestation approach to start with establishing internal safety and regulating the nervous system. Techniques such as self-compassion are highlighted as essential for overcoming fears and opening pathways to manifestation. Personal experiences of overcoming fear and finding alignment within oneself provide practical insights. The episode concludes with coaching questions to help identify and address internal blocks to manifestation.

00:00 Understanding the Missing Piece in Manifestation

00:16 The Role of the Nervous System in Manifestation

01:24 Real-Life Context: How Past Experiences Affect Manifestation

02:54 Signs of Feeling Unsafe and Their Impact on Manifestation

07:17 The Power of Visualization and Compassion

10:10 Personal Story: Finding Safety and Contentment

12:34 A New Order for Manifestation

13:26 Coaching Questions for Self-Reflection

14:14 Final Thoughts and How to Work with Me