This episode closes out Season 1 of Healing Chat by Tolicious, as Cass Uk welcomes the podcast’s first male guest — Daps, multimedia entrepreneur, host of Chilling with Daps and CEO of Innit Studios.

In this honest conversation, Cass and Daps explore masculinity, vulnerability, entrepreneurship, fatherhood, purpose and healing.

Daps: @dapsinnit on Instagram⁠

Cass Uk: @cassukonline on Instagram⁠

• Masculinity, vulnerability and emotional expression
• Representation and mentorship for young Black men
• The pressure of building and leading a business
• Financial freedom and defining success
• Delegation, boundaries and learning to say no
• Forgiveness, recovery and what healing really means

00:00 — Season 1 finale & introducing Daps
01:11 — First male guest & why it matters
02:27 — Making people happy through his work
03:20 — Nigeria, Ireland, America & the UK
04:42 — Parents, discipline & strong values
05:27 — Having information but no mentors
07:32 — Representation & Black success
08:11 — Financial freedom & future family
10:06 — Business and present parenting
11:01 — Why a child’s early years matter
12:03 — Lessons about manhood from his father
15:01 — His mother, women & communication
17:08 — Why men struggle to express emotions
20:17 — Crying privately & emotional honesty
23:13 — Cass shares an emotional business moment
26:11 — Vulnerability & choosing who to trust
29:23 — Carrying the pressure of business
31:03 — Forgiving unrealistic expectations
33:31 — Comparison & protecting your focus
35:06 — Tracking progress
36:47 — A health scare & perspective
37:41 — The fear of betting on yourself
38:29 — Success beyond money
39:09 — Understanding men’s emotions
39:25 — Responsibility & accountability
39:57 — Lessons from the women in his life
42:05 — Learning to delegate
43:46 — Boundaries & saying no
44:17 — What peace looks like
45:00 — Advice to his younger self
46:59 — Scaling & creating jobs
47:56 — What healing means
49:47 — His healing journey

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Season 1 ends here.

Next: Healing Chat Live at SELFISH FOR GOOD — 5 December 2026 Copthorne Hotel Newcastle.

Healing, Leadership & Legacy with Jessica Nkanta | Healing Chat

What does it really take to build a successful life and business without losing yourself along the way?

In this episode of Healing Chat, Cass Uk sits down with entrepreneur Jessica Nkanta for an honest conversation about healing, leadership, boundaries, women in business and building a legacy that lasts.

Jessica shares her journey from Nigeria to the UK, the sacrifices that shaped her path and the lessons she learned while building businesses across multiple sectors.

She opens up about the emotional responsibility of supporting students and families, facing serious health challenges, learning to say no, and recognising that protecting your wellbeing isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.

Together, Cass and Jessica explore cultural expectations around helping others, collaboration over competition, women accessing funding and opportunities, and why a truly successful business needs to be able to thrive beyond its founder.

In this episode:
• Jessica’s journey from Nigeria to the UK
• Early lessons in entrepreneurship, sales and confidence
• Leading with empathy without losing yourself
• Health challenges and learning to prioritise yourself
• The power of saying no and setting boundaries
• Cultural expectations around generosity and helping others
• Supporting and empowering women in business
• Collaboration, confidence and access to funding
• Building teams, systems and a lasting legacy
• Healing through forgiveness, time and letting go

Key Moments
00:31 — Introducing Jessica and her entrepreneurial journey
01:02 — Moving from Nigeria to the UK
03:22 — Early business lessons and entrepreneurial confidence
07:03 — The emotional weight of supporting students and families
13:33 — Health, surgery and putting yourself first
15:37 — Learning to say no
18:13 — Cultural expectations, generosity and boundaries
20:53 — Women in business and creating more opportunities
26:43 — Legacy, structure and investing in your team
31:42 — What healing means: letting go, grief and moving forward

Memorable Takeaway

“If you want to go fast, you go alone. But if you want to go far, you must go with people.”

If this conversation resonates with you, like, comment and subscribe to Healing Chat—and share this episode with someone who needs the reminder that self-care, boundaries and healing belong in the journey too.

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In this episode, we sit down with the co-founders of Newcastle Wellness Club to talk about building a welcoming, accessible community for women and non-binary people in the North East.They share how the club grew from a simple idea into a thriving community rooted in movement, creativity, connection, and care. The conversation explores adult friendship, loneliness, the changing meaning of wellness, and why community can be such an important part of healing.We also talk about making wellbeing accessible, navigating the realities of running a small business together, and the personal experiences that inspired this work.In this episode

• The origin story behind Newcastle Wellness Club
• Redefining wellness beyond appearance and exercise
• Friendship, belonging, and putting yourself out there
• Creating accessible spaces without a paywall
• Building a business as co-founders
• Healing, self-reflection, and sitting with difficult emotions
• Upcoming community events, movement sessions, creative meetups, and more

Newcastle Wellness Club offers social events, creative workshops, book club gatherings, dance, Pilates, yoga, and free community meetups for women and non-binary people in the North East.Remember: healing isn’t a destination—it’s a journey.

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In this episode, we sit down with the co-founders of Newcastle Wellness Club to talk about building a welcoming, accessible community for women and non-binary people in the North East.They share how the club grew from a simple idea into a thriving community rooted in movement, creativity, connection, and care. The conversation explores adult friendship, loneliness, the changing meaning of wellness, and why community can be such an important part of healing.We also talk about making wellbeing accessible, navigating the realities of running a small business together, and the personal experiences that inspired this work.In this episode

• The origin story behind Newcastle Wellness Club
• Redefining wellness beyond appearance and exercise
• Friendship, belonging, and putting yourself out there
• Creating accessible spaces without a paywall
• Building a business as co-founders
• Healing, self-reflection, and sitting with difficult emotions
• Upcoming community events, movement sessions, creative meetups, and more

Connect with Newcastle Wellness Club

• Website: https://www.nclwellnessclub.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nclwellnessclub
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nclwellnessclub

Newcastle Wellness Club offers social events, creative workshops, book club gatherings, dance, Pilates, yoga, and free community meetups for women and non-binary people in the North East.Remember: healing isn’t a destination—it’s a journey.

What does it take to feel fully alive again?

In this episode of Healing Chat with Tolicious, created by Cass Uk. Aisling Gray shares her journey of reconnecting with herself, stepping outside her comfort zone and choosing to experience life consciously instead of living on autopilot.

From trying improv classes to being fully present with strangers and “dancing in the moment,” Aisling explains how new experiences can help us rediscover the parts of ourselves we may have lost.

Her biggest lesson is simple: every “yes” comes with a “no.” We cannot do everything, but we can consciously choose what deserves our time, energy and attention.

For any woman who no longer recognises herself, this conversation is a reminder that you are still in there. Meet yourself where you are, tune in and give yourself permission to discover who you are becoming.

Healing is a journey, not a destination.

Website: www.asgcoaching.co.uk
Instagram: @level_up_with_ash
LinkedIn: Aisling Gray

00:00 – Opening the conversation
00:19 – Discovering what makes you feel alive
00:49 – Improv as a comfort-zone breakthrough
01:19 – Owning your choices and understanding the trade-offs
01:47 – A message for women who no longer recognise themselves
02:05 – Getting to know yourself again
02:17 – Healing is a journey, not a destination

Personal branding, motherhood, and building a business with perspective

This solo episode explores how personal branding becomes more meaningful when it reflects values, not just visibility. The speaker connects lessons from nursing, entrepreneurship, motherhood, wellness, money, and leadership into one clear message: you do not need to have everything figured out to have a voice worth hearing.It is a practical and reflective conversation about building a business that grows without consuming your whole life, and about making choices based on purpose instead of pressure.

Key topics

• Personal branding is more than a polished image. It is what people associate with your name, your values, and your point of view.
• A job title is not an identity. The episode pushes back on defining yourself only by a career or a role.
• Staying put can be risky too. The speaker reframes leaving a secure path as a question of regret, not just financial risk.
• Business reveals the founder. Entrepreneurship exposes habits, insecurities, decision-making, and leadership patterns.
• Revenue is not profit. The speaker emphasizes understanding actual business numbers, not just headline sales.
• Viral content is not a business model. Visibility only matters if it turns into trust, community, and repeat customers.
• Customers care about relevance, not effort. What people buy, reorder, or ignore tells you more than how hard you worked.
• Delegation, hiring,

In this episode of Healing Chat by Tolicious, we have an honest conversation about collaboration, competition and maintaining friendships in adulthood.

We explore why women need to support one another intentionally, how perfectionism can delay progress and why genuine collaboration requires action—not just words.

We also discuss jealousy among women, balancing business with motherhood and relationships, and the painful reality of outgrowing friendships that once felt permanent.

From being told to “do it yourself” after asking a friend for support to deciding whether loyalty means sharing difficult information about someone’s relationship, this episode explores the complicated choices women face in friendship.

Some friendships end. Some naturally become distant. Others remain so genuine that even after years apart, it feels as though nothing has changed.

Because healing isn’t a destination—it’s a journey.

In this episode:

• Collaboration versus competition among women
• How men and women may approach career progression
• Perfectionism and taking action
• Jealousy in professional and personal spaces
• Turning motherhood and home-management skills into business strengths
• Why adult friendships change
• Recognising when support is no longer mutual
• Loyalty, honesty and difficult conversations
• Friendships that survive time and distance

Timestamps

00:00 — Why women are supporting one another more
00:44 — Climbing the ladder versus growing together
01:14 — The history of women supporting women
02:03 — Taking action and showing support differently
02:42 — How perfectionism can slow women down
03:12 — Competition and jealousy between women
04:25 — Collaboration requires action
05:04 — Turning parenting skills into business strengths
06:01 — Helping people grow without falling out
06:54 — Why adult friendships become harder to maintain
08:32 — When asking for support ends a friendship
09:35 — Outgrowing friendships as life changes
10:05 — Sharing difficult relationship information
11:21 — Loyalty, honesty and different perspectives
12:28 — Friendships that survive long periods apart
14:27 — Healing and self-care

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In this deeply personal episode of Healing Chat by Tolicious, Cass Uk and Samantha reflect on the life and legacy of Dolly Parton before opening up about grief, resilience, suicide awareness and surviving some of life’s most traumatic moments.

They remember Dolly Parton as more than a country music legend. From timeless songs including “Jolene,” “9 to 5” and “I Will Always Love You” to her life-changing work through Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library, her influence reached across music, education, philanthropy and generations of families worldwide.

Cass and Samantha discuss why the tributes following Dolly Parton’s passing revealed the depth of her impact—and what her life teaches us about kindness, purpose and leaving a meaningful legacy.

The conversation then becomes deeply personal. Samantha shares the loss of her grandfather at 93 and reflects on grief, caregiving and end-of-life dignity. They also discuss suicide awareness, survivor guilt and the instinct to blame yourself when someone dies.

Both hosts share experiences that changed their lives, including near-death car incidents, violence and childbirth trauma. They explore what it takes to process trauma, find courage and continue moving forward.

Healing isn’t a destination—it’s a journey.

Self-care is not selfish. It’s survival.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — Opening the episode
00:24 — Season one is nearing its conclusion
00:43 — Why negative news spreads faster
01:16 — Remembering Dolly Parton and her legacy
03:39 — Losing a loved one at 93
04:32 — Grief, caregiving and end-of-life dignity
05:53 — Suicide losses within their community
06:48 — Survivor guilt and self-blame
08:08 — Messages of hope near Sunderland Bridge
08:30 — A death in Dominica brings back memories
09:45 — Cass recalls a near-death car incident
12:34 — Taking time to process trauma
13:23 — Driving again after the crash
13:54 — Samantha recalls surviving an attack
14:59 — The physical trauma of childbirth
15:24 — Healing, self-care and survival

CONTENT NOTICE

This episode contains discussions about grief, suicide, violence, trauma and childbirth. Please listen with care.

If you are struggling or in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services. In the UK and Ireland, Samaritans can be contacted free on 116 123 at any time.

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In this episode of Healing Chat by Tolicious, created by Cass Uk, Sam sits down with Dr. Victoria for a conversation about medicine, service, hospice care, community healthcare and finding purpose in an unexpected career path.

Dr. Victoria's journey has taken her from working as an army doctor, through GP training and humanitarian work, into hospice and palliative care, community medicine and eventually education.

Despite the different roles, one thing has remained consistent: her desire to serve people in a meaningful way.

Dr. Victoria began her medical career in the army before training as a GP. Her humanitarian experiences during this period left a lasting impression on how she viewed medicine and the type of doctor she wanted to become.

After leaving the army and starting a family, she wanted to return to what she describes as "hearts and minds" work medicine that allowed her to connect more deeply with people.

That desire led her to St Oswald's Hospice, which became a major turning point in her career.

Working alongside specialists in hospice and palliative care allowed her to support patients and families through some of life's most vulnerable moments. The experience changed her career direction so significantly that she never returned to general practice.

Dr. Victoria later moved into community-based work in Sunderland.

She reflects on the privilege of being invited into people's homes and personal spaces during times of illness and uncertainty. For her, these experiences reinforced the importance of seeing the person beyond their diagnosis.

Her story reminds us that healthcare isn't only about treatment. It's also about dignity, trust, listening, compassion and human connection.

Teaching was another calling that followed Dr. Victoria throughout her life.

Growing up in a family of teachers, she initially wanted to do something completely different. Yet teaching continued to appear throughout her career.

Her experiences across army medicine, humanitarian work, hospice and community care ultimately gave her valuable knowledge and perspective to pass on to others.

Dr. Victoria's journey demonstrates that our careers don't always need to follow the path we originally imagined. Sometimes the roles we never planned for reveal where we can make our greatest contribution.

• Beginning her career as an army doctor
• The impact of humanitarian work
• Why St Oswald's Hospice changed her career
• Lessons from hospice and palliative care
• Community medicine in Sunderland
• The trust involved in entering patients' homes
• Seeing the person beyond the diagnosis
• Growing up in a family of teachers
• Initially resisting a career in teaching
• Following your values as your career evolves

00:00 — Welcome and introduction to Dr. Victoria
00:28 — Army medicine and humanitarian work
00:58 — Joining St Oswald's Hospice
01:11 — Why hospice care changed her career direction
01:11 — Community work in Sunderland
01:38 — Being welcomed into patients' homes
01:38 — Early encouragement towards teaching
02:06 — Family influence and resisting the teaching path

Are you following the career you originally planned, or the career your experiences are preparing you for?

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Real conversations. Real healing.