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  • Ep. 167: Why Black Men Struggle to Let Go of Control with Jean Messeroux

    Ep. 167: Why Black Men Struggle to Let Go of Control with Jean Messeroux
    Oct 12 2026
    In XYBM 167, we sit down with Jean, therapist and returning guest, for an unscripted conversation on fatherhood, privacy, and functional depression.

    Jean gets real about surrendering to fatherhood instead of trying to control it, why he keeps his son's face off social media, and how turning 30 left him depressed over unchecked boxes—until a long run and a talk from his lady pulled him out. He opens up about the trade-off between support and independence, why the person you have a child with is the most important decision you'll make, and how being a Black man means always working a room just to survive.

    This is for any Black man who has learned to push through everything without ever really feeling it, and anyone trying to understand whether the version of you that helped you survive is still serving you today.

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    1 h et 20 min
  • XYBM Clips: There’s nothing like being loved by a Black woman

    XYBM Clips: There’s nothing like being loved by a Black woman
    Oct 7 2026
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 166) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 166: The Expectations Keeping Black Men From Being Themselves with Cito Blanko" — it was released on September 28, 2026.

    In XYBM 166, we sit down with Cito Blanko, musician, poet, and educator, for a return visit that goes deeper than the first. Fresh off tour, Cito gets real about what it means to actually feel your feelings instead of just surviving through them, the version of yourself that broke the inner child’s crayons just to make it through the world, and why being wack again, starting over and sitting through the awkward middle, might be one of the hardest things you can do.

    He also opens up about depression, losing friends to suicide, and how boxing taught him to breathe between punches. He talks about a relationship built on a deep friendship, and having a partner who advocates for him when he starts talking to himself in ways he never should.

    This is for any Black man who has learned how to push through everything without ever really feeling it, and anyone trying to understand whether the version of you that helped you survive is still serving you today.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

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    8 min
  • XYBM Clips: Black man, it’s okay to feel your feelings

    XYBM Clips: Black man, it’s okay to feel your feelings
    Oct 6 2026
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 166) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 166: The Expectations Keeping Black Men From Being Themselves with Cito Blanko" — it was released on September 28, 2026.

    In XYBM 166, we sit down with Cito Blanko, musician, poet, and educator, for a return visit that goes deeper than the first. Fresh off tour, Cito gets real about what it means to actually feel your feelings instead of just surviving through them, the version of yourself that broke the inner child’s crayons just to make it through the world, and why being wack again, starting over and sitting through the awkward middle, might be one of the hardest things you can do.

    He also opens up about depression, losing friends to suicide, and how boxing taught him to breathe between punches. He talks about a relationship built on a deep friendship, and having a partner who advocates for him when he starts talking to himself in ways he never should.

    This is for any Black man who has learned how to push through everything without ever really feeling it, and anyone trying to understand whether the version of you that helped you survive is still serving you today.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!

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    SAFE HAVEN:
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    7 min
  • BEST MOMENTS of Ep. 166 with Cito Blanko

    BEST MOMENTS of Ep. 166 with Cito Blanko
    Oct 5 2026
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 166) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 166: The Expectations Keeping Black Men From Being Themselves with Cito Blanko" — it was released on September 28, 2026.

    In XYBM 166, we sit down with Cito Blanko, musician, poet, and educator, for a return visit that goes deeper than the first. Fresh off tour, Cito gets real about what it means to actually feel your feelings instead of just surviving through them, the version of yourself that broke the inner child’s crayons just to make it through the world, and why being wack again, starting over and sitting through the awkward middle, might be one of the hardest things you can do.

    He also opens up about depression, losing friends to suicide, and how boxing taught him to breathe between punches. He talks about a relationship built on a deep friendship, and having a partner who advocates for him when he starts talking to himself in ways he never should.

    This is for any Black man who has learned how to push through everything without ever really feeling it, and anyone trying to understand whether the version of you that helped you survive is still serving you today.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!

    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
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    SAFE HAVEN:
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    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

    SUPPORT THE PLATFORM:
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    10 min
  • Ep. 166: The Expectations Keeping Black Men From Being Themselves with Cito Blanko

    Ep. 166: The Expectations Keeping Black Men From Being Themselves with Cito Blanko
    Sep 28 2026
    In XYBM 166, we sit down with Cito Blanko, musician, poet, and educator, for a return visit that goes deeper than the first. Fresh off tour, Cito gets real about what it means to actually feel your feelings instead of just surviving through them, the version of yourself that broke the inner child’s crayons just to make it through the world, and why being wack again, starting over and sitting through the awkward middle, might be one of the hardest things you can do.

    He also opens up about depression, losing friends to suicide, and how boxing taught him to breathe between punches. He talks about a relationship built on a deep friendship, and having a partner who advocates for him when he starts talking to himself in ways he never should.

    This is for any Black man who has learned how to push through everything without ever really feeling it, and anyone trying to understand whether the version of you that helped you survive is still serving you today.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!

    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
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    SAFE HAVEN:
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    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

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    1 h et 44 min
  • Ep. 165: Why Black Men Feel Like They’re Never Doing Enough with Tahoe

    Ep. 165: Why Black Men Feel Like They’re Never Doing Enough with Tahoe
    Sep 14 2026
    In XYBM 165, we sit down with Tahoe, host and storyteller, for an intensely honest conversation about grief, fatherhood, emotional intimacy, and the ways our own childhood experiences can shape how we love and connect with the people closest to us. Just days after the murder of someone he considered family, Tahoe opens up about the guilt of wondering whether he could have done more, his own history of street life, and the painful realization that sometimes we can only make the best decisions we can with the information and resources we have at the time.

    This is a must-watch for men struggling with grief, fatherhood, relationships, or the weight of feeling like they should have done more. It’s a powerful reminder that accountability and self-forgiveness can exist at the same time—and that becoming a better man often starts with having the courage to understand your wounds, communicate what you need, and give yourself grace along the way.

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    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

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    2 h et 2 min
  • Ep. 164: Why Black Men need to Prioritize God with Norense Odiase

    Ep. 164: Why Black Men need to Prioritize God with Norense Odiase
    Aug 31 2026
    In XYBM 164, we sit down with Norense Odiase, former pro basketball player, corporate account executive, and viral storyteller — for a deeply candid conversation about navigating grief, identity, and the pursuit of peace beyond performance. Norris breaks down his path through the NBA G-League and Amazon, unpacks the hidden weight of sudden loss and childhood trauma, and explores the five core questions every man must answer to know who he truly is. He also opens up about the emptiness that comes with reaching the top of your career, the difference between empathy and compassion, and how an NYU cinematography course helped him turn raw, unscripted vulnerability into a movement.

    This is a must-watch for anyone who has achieved everything they thought they wanted only to still feel empty inside — and for anyone ready to step out of survival mode, redefine success, and find purpose beyond the noise.

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    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

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    1 h et 36 min
  • Ep. 163: Governor Wes Moore on the Future of Our Young Men, Jobs & Childcare

    Ep. 163: Governor Wes Moore on the Future of Our Young Men, Jobs & Childcare
    Aug 17 2026
    In XYBM 163, we sit down with Governor Wes Moore for a walk-and-talk at Sandy Point Park to discuss what Maryland is actually doing to help Black men and boys win. From the state’s first-ever paid service year option for high school grads to the largest mass pardon in U.S. history — over 175,000 cannabis convictions cleared — Governor Moore breaks down real, tangible policy in plain language.

    He also gets personal: sharing his own story of having handcuffs on his wrists at 11 years old, and why that makes young men and boys his most personal priority in office.

    This is a must-watch for any young Black man in Maryland who feels like the system wasn’t built for him — and for anyone who wants to hear a governor speak about affordability, homeownership, and opportunity in a way that actually sounds like he’s been there.
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    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

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    13 min