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We all know scrolling isn’t great for us, and yet we keep reaching for our devices anyway. Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas pull back the curtain on what’s really happening to your brain every time you fall into an infinite feed, and why the cost is far higher than a few lost minutes here and there.

In this episode, we unpack how doom scrolling is rewiring your brain and how to finally stop. Emilia breaks down what the research shows about brain waves, mental exhaustion, brain fog, and sleep procrastination, while Bianca opens up her own screen time report live and does the math on how many days a year we hand over to our devices. You’ll learn why the apps are designed to hijack your nervous system, how to reframe doom scrolling into bloom scrolling, and the simple time boundaries that help you reclaim your attention, your agency, and your life.

Here’s a related episode that builds on today’s conversation:
#492 | The Realities of Tech and Future Conversations None of Us Are Ready to Face - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/492-the-realities-of-tech-and-future-generations/id1511831621?i=1000759123683

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Show notes:
(0:00) Intro
(1:25) Is your attention really yours?
(3:25) Handing your brain over on a platter
(4:15) Why countries are changing tech laws
(6:53) How much time we really spend scrolling
(8:39) What doom scrolling does to your brain waves
(10:43) Brain fog, burnout, and sleep procrastination
(13:28) Auditing your own screen time
(15:34) Alex DeMello shares his experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures
(16:30) The real math on your lost time
(25:05) Outro

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Every fall, the costumes, candy, lattes, and last-minute gifts quietly drain your bank account before the holidays even begin. Emilia shares the story of a client who spent over $800 on Halloween alone, and the surprising shift she made once someone in her corner asked whether that was the best use of her capital. With Halloween spending in the U.S. projected to hit a record $13.5 billion this year, it’s worth pausing before you swipe.

In this episode, we unpack where seasonal spending really goes, why so many of us optimize for short-term pleasure over long-term fulfillment, and the moment Bianca realized she had earned over a million dollars in ten years with nothing to show for it. Then we share 15 better ways to spend your money this fall, from investment accounts and coaching to national park passes, meaningful causes, and higher quality food, so you can keep the fun of the season without burning your capital.

Here’s a related episode that builds on today’s conversation:
#536 | Why Waiting to Feel Like It Is Ruining Your Life - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/536-why-waiting-to-feel-like-it-is-ruining-your-life/id1511831621?i=1000787589194

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Show notes:
(0:00) Intro
(1:31) Why fall spending sneaks up on us
(3:01) The $800 Halloween costume story
(6:50) Halloween spending by the numbers
(9:01) Budgeting for lattes over growth
(10:04) Emilia invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month.
(11:00) What you really miss by skipping the hype
(13:28) Bianca’s million-dollar wake-up call
(14:43) Keep the fun, don’t burn your capital
(16:31) Ways 1 to 5: invest in your growth
(17:48) Ways 6 to 10: nature, causes, and classes
(19:10) Ways 11 to 15: tech, skills, and giving
(21:57) Outro

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Most of us know, logically, that nothing changes unless we do something differently, yet we still wait for life to magically improve on its own. Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas draw on thousands of combined calls behind the scenes to name the patterns they see over and over in people who feel miserable, and they don’t sugarcoat any of it.

In this episode, we unpack the seven habits that are secretly making you miserable and what to replace each one with. From fawning and saying yes to all the wrong things, to staying up past the bedtime you promised yourself, to chasing attention instead of building real skills, Emilia and Bianca show how misery gets cultivated like a garden. You’ll learn how your behaviors reveal your true values, why responsibility is not the same as blame, and how the people you surround yourself with shape your life in ways you may not even realize.

Here’s a related episode that builds on today’s conversation:
#539 | How Shame Prevents the Cycle of Motivation - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/539-how-shame-prevents-the-cycle-of-motivation/id1511831621?i=1000789504920

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Show notes:
(0:00) Intro
(1:17) Seven habits secretly making you miserable
(3:02) Wishing won’t change your life
(6:27) The three-clap challenge
(8:52) Fawning and not speaking your truth
(12:33) Not going to bed on time
(16:15) Not knowing your values
(19:22) Bree shares her experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures
(20:04) Your behaviors reveal your values
(22:00) Not being the captain of your own ship
(24:53) Chasing attention over building skills
(29:12) Avoiding responsibility
(35:29) Surrounding yourself with the wrong people
(39:10) Outro

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Most of us look for relief from anxiety and low moods in all the usual places, but rarely question the rooms, routines, and people we return to every single day. Emilia Smith and Bianca Thomas step outside their usual format to share the mental health advice that years behind the scenes have shown them people avoid most. It starts with Bianca's story of smoking hookah from childhood into her mid-twenties, and why every promise to quit fell apart when everyone around her kept lighting up.

In this episode, we unpack why your environment shapes your mental health more than anyone is willing to admit, how the 80/20 rule reveals where your habits really come from, and why settling for a "good enough" life leaves so many people feeling empty. Emilia shares two questions to audit the spaces you spend the most time in, Bianca explains why the need to belong can outweigh even an athlete's identity, and together they make the case that loving someone is not the same as them being good for you. You'll also hear why belief steps, not baby steps, are what move your behavior toward the person you want to become.

Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #505 | Why We Feel Attacked When People Try to Help - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/505-why-we-feel-attacked-when-people-try-to-help/id1511831621?i=1000768356024

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Show notes:
(0:00) Intro
(1:19) What you avoid is what you need
(2:48) Your environment isn't built for you
(5:40) Why good enough feels empty
(6:51) Smoking hookah at nine years old
(9:06) Can't quit when everyone smokes
(9:39) Julie shares her experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures
(11:14) Why environment never shows up in search
(13:24) Audit where you spend 80% of your time
(17:13) Loving someone isn't enough
(19:03) Where healthy habits are celebrated
(21:38) Outro

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Most people walk into therapy hoping it will change their lives, but few know what to look for before they ever sit down on the couch. Emilia and Bianca draw on years of clinical experience, thousands of sessions, and their own personal therapy journeys to share what can make or break your experience, plus a behind-the-scenes look at the standard they hold as they grow Evolve Therapy's team of clinicians.

In this episode, we unpack five things you need to know before getting a therapist. You'll hear why asking about a therapist's therapeutic orientation shapes everything from feedback to homework, why the real work begins after you leave the session, and why a therapist who leads by example matters more than credentials on a wall. They also explore how ready you actually are when therapy gets uncomfortable, a powerful client story about external locus of control, and why the problem you walk in with is rarely the root you end up uncovering together.

Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #505 | Why We Feel Attacked When People Try to Help - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/505-why-we-feel-attacked-when-people-try-to-help/id1511831621?i=1000768356024

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Show notes:

(0:00) Intro
(1:00) Five things before getting a therapist
(5:15) The credentials behind this conversation
(11:10) Ask about therapeutic orientation
(15:55) Modality as your therapist's medium
(17:55) The work begins after you leave
(21:15) Emilia invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month.
(22:12) Buying the treadmill isn't enough
(22:50) Is your therapist leading by example?
(29:15) How ready are you, actually?
(34:35) Know the problem, stay open to the root
(37:32) Therapy as a collaboration
(39:26) Outro

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Today, Emilia and Bianca take on one of the most uncomfortable and least talked about topics there is: the toxic family narratives so many of us absorbed growing up, and how these sayings were built to protect the family image rather than the people inside it.

In this episode, we unpack the real origin of "blood is thicker than water" and why its true meaning is the opposite of how families use it, the common mottos like "what happens in the house stays in the house" and "I'll give you something to cry about," and how appearances can come to matter more than truth. Drawing on the work of John Bradshaw, Virginia Satir, and Dr. Yael Danieli, they explore shame-based family rules, multigenerational legacies of trauma, and why so many of us learned to override our own sense that something wasn't safe. If you've ever quietly known the truth about your family system, this conversation is your permission slip to acknowledge it as real.

Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #535 | I Did the Best I Could Is Not a Valid Excuse - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/535-everything-you-need-to-know-about-handling-rude/id1511831621?i=1000786923905

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Show notes:

(0:00) Cold open: Breaking the silence around toxic family culture
(1:37) Toxic family narratives we all heard
(5:04) Debunking “blood is thicker than water”
(8:09) Harmful family sayings and childhood discipline
(9:36) Bianca invites you to join Out of the Mud, the free live virtual event hosted the last Wednesday of every month.
(10:13) When appearances matter more than truth
(12:41) Generational trauma and learned dysfunction
(16:41) Trusting your experience and acknowledging the truth
(19:26) Outro: Final message and episode recommendation

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