Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood.

Dear Son… It Might Be Harder for You: COVID, Tech, and Not Dismissing Their Struggles

In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, D Johns and Jey Blac discuss how modern pressures—technology, social media, shifting norms, and the lasting effects of COVID—may make life harder for today’s young men. Jey Blac shares concern after hearing an “off” tone in his son’s voice following missed calls and texts, prompting him to pivot from frustration to checking in and offering space to talk. They reflect on how parents can dismiss children’s difficulties by comparing them to their own experiences, and how isolation, lost milestones like graduation, and changing work culture have reshaped expectations. The conversation emphasizes reading the room, acknowledging impact even when it isn’t a loud cry for help, and approaching kids’ struggles with neutrality, support, and humility.

00:00 Worried Dad Call

02:04 Show Intro Setup

02:47 Life Updates Loss

03:37 Support And Growth

04:47 Harder For You

06:34 COVID Parenting Blindspots

09:33 Son Sounds Off

13:12 Isolation And Expectations

16:01 Workforce Waiting Season

18:07 Marriage Reading The Room

20:30 Not Always About You

21:21 Rethinking Toughness

22:10 Damani on Lost Milestones

23:39 COVID Norms and Business Shifts

27:45 Kids Need Space to Share

29:19 Common Core Patience Lesson

32:33 Work From Home and Kids Perception

34:41 Hard Is Relative for Generations

36:34 Grinding for Opportunity

41:27 Information Age Overload

44:14 Neutral Parenting Closing

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“What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons”

“How to Be a Better Father”

“Father Son Relationship Advice”

“Mistakes Fathers Make”

“Lessons Every Man Should Learn”

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Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood.

From Daycare Abuse to Autism Advocacy: Will Adams on Fatherhood, Purpose & The Village Network

In this episode of The Dear Son Show, host D Johns sits down with neighbor and nonprofit founder Will Adams, Sr. to discuss fatherhood, identity, and purpose through the lens of raising a son with autism. Will shares how his family discovered his youngest son’s needs after a daycare abuse case surfaced six months later through CPS, leading to a difficult diagnosis process and years of depression he largely masked while in corporate America. He explains the importance of early intervention, therapies, and ABA, and describes meaningful milestones like hearing his son say “Happy New Year” and progressing to full sentences. Will also talks about being laid off, ego and provision, building The Village Network to support fathers and families navigating autism, and challenging misconceptions while encouraging kindness and education about special needs.

00:00 Daycare Abuse Shock

01:21 Show Welcome Guest Intro

02:48 Life After Corporate Exit

04:00 Building The Village Network

06:42 Layoff Ego And Purpose

13:30 Kids Notice The Changes

16:20 How Autism Was Discovered

19:58 Diagnosis Depression And Masking

21:50 Early Intervention And ABA

25:08 Accepting A New Fatherhood

28:33 Learning Love And Communication

30:26 First Words Moment

32:19 Milestones Worth Celebrating

33:42 Family Shift and Legacy

35:52 Autism Misconceptions

38:28 Advocacy as a Black Dad

40:24 Dad Linkups Safe Space

42:28 Authenticity Over Clout

44:23 Called to the Work

51:33 Grace and Fear of Success

58:19 Fatherhood Without a Dad

01:01:03 Where to Find The Village

01:01:45 Final Message Be Kind

#fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk

Channel Focus Areas:

“What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons”

“How to Be a Better Father”

“Father Son Relationship Advice”

“Mistakes Fathers Make”

“Lessons Every Man Should Learn”

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The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community

1. Reveal trauma

2. Heal from trauma

3. Help through telling stories of it all

“Better Man. Better Father.”

The Dear Son, Network ®

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood.

Dear Son: Don’t Get Your Qualifications Disqualified

On The Dear Son Show, hosts Jey Blac and D Johns discuss how people can “disqualify” themselves despite being qualified—through pride, distractions, emotional reactions, or poor decisions. They reflect on fatherhood challenges like knowing when to let sons learn lessons the hard way, recognizing different expressions of focus, and helping children seek support such as tutors or therapy without making it about parental failure. The conversation covers owning outcomes and opportunity cost, finding mentors, staying consistent when consequences from the past surface, and not letting one negative comment outweigh broader impact. They also share workplace lessons about power, courtesy, and long-term cycles of authority, plus a personal story about wasting time over a $25 tire plug as a reminder to pause before acting on frustration.

00:00 Let Them Learn Lessons

01:10 Welcome to Dear Son

01:33 Fall Check In and Community

02:26 Making Space for Priorities

03:57 Qualifications Disqualified

05:49 Don’t Let Doubt In

09:36 Distractions After Graduation

13:44 Pushing Without Controlling

17:00 Asking for Help Matters

20:27 Own Your Outcome

21:55 Mentors for Young Men

24:14 When You Need New Tools

26:41 Learning Through Deficiency

28:04 Understanding Depression Together

28:56 Ego and Asking for Help

29:41 Stop Justifying Relapse

34:05 Consequences Lag Lesson

34:45 Money Habits and Lifestyle Creep

38:48 Gatekeepers and Compassion

43:09 Seize Teachable Moments

46:04 Power Leapfrog and Humility

48:53 Yesterday Today Tomorrow Balance

50:41 Tire Shop Value Lesson

54:45 Final Fatherhood Takeaways

#fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk #newtofatherhood

Channel Focus Areas:

“What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons”

“How to Be a Better Father”

“Father Son Relationship Advice”

“Mistakes Fathers Make”

“Lessons Every Man Should Learn”

Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonshop.store

Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac

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The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community

1. Reveal trauma

2. Heal from trauma

3. Help through telling stories of it all

“Better Man. Better Father.”

The Dear Son, Network ®