In this episode of Carla Turned On, Carla Romo discusses the importance of self‑worth, vulnerability, and emotional connection in dating and relationships. She explains how to recognize meaningful green flags, share past trauma in a healthy way, and avoid overwhelming partners through trauma dumping.

Carla also explores how body image can impact intimacy and why emotional safety and presence play a major role in fulfilling sexual and romantic relationships.

What You'll Learn

• Healthy vulnerability builds trust and connection

• Trauma sharing should be thoughtful, not overwhelming

• Green flags deserve recognition—but not for basic decency

• Self-worth shapes relationship choices

• Body image can impact intimacy and sexual confidence

• Emotional connection and safety improve sexual experiences

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1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

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Sound Bites

• "Life has a funny way of working out."

• "We should be treated with decency."

• "Intimacy, into me, I see."

Chapters

00:00 – Life Works Out in Mysterious Ways When You Don't Think it Will

06:44 – Why We Praise the Bare Minimum

11:10 – How to Share Your Past Trauma without Dumping

25:47 – How Body Image Affects Sex

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

In this episode of Carla Turned On, Carla Romo breaks down what truly makes a relationship healthy—especially amid Valentine's Day pressure and romanticized chaos. She explains why healthy love feels calm, why communication and conflict matter, and why body count and sexual history should be about safety and honesty, not shame.

What You'll Learn

• Choosing the right partner matters more than romance

• Valentine's Day can create unrealistic pressure

• Healthy relationships include conflict and communication

• Chaos does not equal passion

• Love should feel calm and secure

• Body count does not define worth or health

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Chaos does not equal passion."

• "You have to earn the love."

• "Body count does not matter."

Chapters

00:00 — Carla's Honeymoon Fiasco & Why Who You Marry Matters

05:59 — Valentine's Day

10:28 — What Is Actually a Healthy Relationship—and What Is Not

29:09 — Sexual History & Body Count

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why traditional dating rules don't work and how understanding relationship stages can prevent unnecessary breakups. Starting with a playful debate on being a dog or cat person, Carla explores attachment styles, conflict, and why resentment and poor communication can lead to sexless relationships. This episode emphasizes intentionality, emotional awareness, and honest communication as the foundation for long‑term intimacy.

What You'll Learn

• Pet preferences reflect personality—not relationship success

• You don't need rigid dating rules to date well

• Understanding relationship stages prevents unnecessary breakups

• Conflict is normal; how you handle it matters

• Resentment can shut down sexual desire

• Intentional communication sustains intimacy long‑term

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites

• "You do not need to follow set rules."

• "Make your own goddamn rules."

• "Resentments are expectations waiting to happen."

Chapters

00:00 — Dog Person or Cat Person

03:32 — Follow a Set of "Rules" — No Dating Rules

12:58 — Phases of Each Stage of Relationships

29:13 — From Sex to Sexless Relationships — What Causes This?

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.