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00:00 In This Episode
00:29 Introducing
00:41 How to Reflect on Relationships
03:01 Intrusive Thoughts and Traumatic Relationships
05:00 The Confusion of Interpreting Manipulation
06:34 Categorizing Dangerous Behavior
-Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs
07:00 The Precursor to Healthy Emotional Processing
10:28 Evolution and the Superstimulus of Love Bombing
13:21 The Value of Self-Love
-Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM
15:04 How Manipulation Damages the Brain
17:39 Successful People Can Be Targeted
19:40 Intelligent People Can Be Manipulated
21:37 Evolution and the Opportunities for Manipulation
22:35 Traits of People Who Are Targeted
-Women Who Love Psychopaths: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI
25:37 Agreeableness and Valuing Others
30:03 Know You're Traits. Don't Pathologize Them.
31:05 People Who Do Not Value Others
32:59 The Goal: Recovering from Reality Distortion
35:55 Introducing the Triangle Tool
39:26 Triangle: Impression, Behavior, and Explanation
43:09 The Weight of Confusion and Cognitive Dissonance
44:28 How to Evaluate the Behavior of Others
48:10 Graphic: Heider's Balance Theory (Social Psychology)
48:58 Recognizing Diagnostic Behavior
53:59 High and Low Diagnostic Behavior
56:48 Deciding Whom to Trust
1:00:46 Deeper Explanation of the Triangle Tool
1:08:49 Role-Playing the Triangle Tool
1:14:48 Evaluating the Triangle Tool
1:18:12 Recognizing Intentional Harm
1:19:32 Repaired Relationships Vs. Partial Repair
1:20:46 Evolutionary Perspective On Investment In Relationship
1:23:44 Refining the Understanding of Doubt
1:25:20 Doubt Doesn't Mean You're Wrong
1:27:24 find Deb Lieberman & Peter Salerno online
1:28:18 Peter's Lessons from Doing the Workbook
1:30:12 Deb's Lessons from Doing the Workbook
1:32:23 Good Relationships Are Possible!
1:33:46 Further Recommendations
-Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE

RESOURCES
Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE
Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs
Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM
Peter and Deb's book: https://amzn.to/3SNwIZP
Peter Salerno's website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/
Peter on YouTube: @DrPeterSalerno
Deb's lab: https://liebermanlabs.com
Deb's business: https://rdqnlabs.com
Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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In this episode, Dr. Debra Lieberman and Dr. Peter Salerno discuss how to rebuild self-trust after suffering from covert relational abuse.

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00:00 Understanding the Lindsay Clancy Case
02:39 The Role of Mental Illness in Violence
05:53 Medication and Its Impact on Behavior
11:41 Postpartum Psychosis and Its Implications
17:38 Female Mass Murderers: Characteristics and Patterns
26:50 Postpartum Screening for Mental Health
32:12 Understanding Psychotic Symptoms and Mental Status Exams
33:31 Challenges in Early Identification of Psychosis
36:08 The Impact of Stigma on Mental Health Disclosure
40:56 Destigmatizing Mental Illness and Treatment Options
51:59 Nuances of Motive and Responsibility in Mental Illness
57:18 Cluster B Personality Disorders and Motive
01:03:12 Responsibility and Psychotic Disorders
01:04:28 Gender Differences in Violence and Psychosis
01:06:12 The Role of Hormones in Violence
01:08:57 Contrasting Mass Murderers and Serial Killers (The Unabomber)
01:11:40 Analyzing The Unabomber, Ted Kaczynski
01:17:46 Violence Is More Prevalent in the USA
01:23:37 Interventions and Rehabilitation Strategies
01:30:11 Further Recommendations
-Previous interview with Ragy Girgis: https://youtu.be/go577VfZKzo

RESOURCES
Previous interview with Ragy Girgis: https://youtu.be/go577VfZKzo
Ragy Girgis Faculty Page: https://www.columbiapsychiatry.org/profile/ragy-r-girgis-md
Ragy's book: https://www.strandbooks.com/on-satan-demons-and-psychiatry-9781532699894.html
Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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In this episode, Dr. Ragy Girgis discusses the complex relationship between mental illness, medication, and violence, with a focus on postpartum psychosis. We explore how psychiatric conditions are misunderstood and the importance of nuanced, informed perspectives.

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00:00 In This Episode
00:35 Introducing Dr. Harry Reis
01:08 The Signs That You Are Loved
02:02 Love Causing Sadness
02:43 The Key to Happiness
03:38 The Answer to Pain and Being Unloved
04:57 Writing with Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky
05:46 Why Relationships Must Come First
07:38 The Happiest Countries (Not the USA)
08:55 Feeling Unloved Vs. Feeling Lonely
10:55 Healing the Pain of Loneliness
11:44 Harry's Pioneering Relationship Research
14:44 Where to Look for Love
17:15 Red Flags In Finding Love
19:44 Relationships With Dangerous People
24:02 What to Share With People
25:50 How to Listen Well. Attention Is Key.
28:24 How to Learn to Connect With People
30:30 The Cost of Talking With AI Chatbots
31:50 The Seesaw: Mutual Support
34:42 Gut Feelings and Trust
37:00 Gut Feelings and Breaking Up
38:22 Gut Feelings and Implicit Cognition
42:09 Gut Feelings and Love at First Sight
43:39 Multiplicity: We've All Done Bad Things
48:09 Distressed Marriages and Feeling Loved
48:51 How Much Should We Tolerate In a Relationship?
51:33 Cognitive Dissonance and Feeling Loved
54:02 Sincere Apologies and Lying
59:57 How to Recognize a Liar
57:23 Finding Love After Pain
59:14 The Cost of Being Alone
1:00:21 How to Find Love After a Loss
1:02:32 Reappraisal: The Cure for Rumination
1:05:45 Don't Give Up On Relationships
1:07:33 The Risk and Pain of Divorce
1:08:35 Put Away Your Phone
1:10:11 Love Languages
1:11:38 find Dr Harry Reis online
1:12:28 Teaching the World About Relationships
1:13:47 Further Recommendations

RESOURCES
Interview with Jennifer R. Young: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI
Harry Reis's book: https://amzn.to/4ycIgVC
Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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Dr. Harry Reis explains how to distinguish genuine love from manipulation tactics such as love-bombing and deception that ultimately lead to toxic relationships.