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  • How to Know If You Dated a Predator - Peter Salerno & Deb Lieberman
    Oct 6 2026

    Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter
    00:00 In This Episode
    00:29 Introducing
    00:41 How to Reflect on Relationships
    03:01 Intrusive Thoughts and Traumatic Relationships
    05:00 The Confusion of Interpreting Manipulation
    06:34 Categorizing Dangerous Behavior
    -Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs
    07:00 The Precursor to Healthy Emotional Processing
    10:28 Evolution and the Superstimulus of Love Bombing
    13:21 The Value of Self-Love
    -Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM
    15:04 How Manipulation Damages the Brain
    17:39 Successful People Can Be Targeted
    19:40 Intelligent People Can Be Manipulated
    21:37 Evolution and the Opportunities for Manipulation
    22:35 Traits of People Who Are Targeted
    -Women Who Love Psychopaths: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI
    25:37 Agreeableness and Valuing Others
    30:03 Know You're Traits. Don't Pathologize Them.
    31:05 People Who Do Not Value Others
    32:59 The Goal: Recovering from Reality Distortion
    35:55 Introducing the Triangle Tool
    39:26 Triangle: Impression, Behavior, and Explanation
    43:09 The Weight of Confusion and Cognitive Dissonance
    44:28 How to Evaluate the Behavior of Others
    48:10 Graphic: Heider's Balance Theory (Social Psychology)
    48:58 Recognizing Diagnostic Behavior
    53:59 High and Low Diagnostic Behavior
    56:48 Deciding Whom to Trust
    1:00:46 Deeper Explanation of the Triangle Tool
    1:08:49 Role-Playing the Triangle Tool
    1:14:48 Evaluating the Triangle Tool
    1:18:12 Recognizing Intentional Harm
    1:19:32 Repaired Relationships Vs. Partial Repair
    1:20:46 Evolutionary Perspective On Investment In Relationship
    1:23:44 Refining the Understanding of Doubt
    1:25:20 Doubt Doesn't Mean You're Wrong
    1:27:24 find Deb Lieberman & Peter Salerno online
    1:28:18 Peter's Lessons from Doing the Workbook
    1:30:12 Deb's Lessons from Doing the Workbook
    1:32:23 Good Relationships Are Possible!
    1:33:46 Further Recommendations
    -Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE

    RESOURCES
    Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE
    Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs
    Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM
    Peter and Deb's book: https://amzn.to/3SNwIZP
    Peter Salerno's website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/
    Peter on YouTube: @DrPeterSalerno
    Deb's lab: https://liebermanlabs.com
    Deb's business: https://rdqnlabs.com
    Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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    In this episode, Dr. Debra Lieberman and Dr. Peter Salerno discuss how to rebuild self-trust after suffering from covert relational abuse.

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    1 h et 34 min
  • Lindsay Clancy & Mental Health Stigma - Psychosis Expert, Dr. Ragy Girgis
    Sep 30 2026

    Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter
    00:00 Understanding the Lindsay Clancy Case
    02:39 The Role of Mental Illness in Violence
    05:53 Medication and Its Impact on Behavior
    11:41 Postpartum Psychosis and Its Implications
    17:38 Female Mass Murderers: Characteristics and Patterns
    26:50 Postpartum Screening for Mental Health
    32:12 Understanding Psychotic Symptoms and Mental Status Exams
    33:31 Challenges in Early Identification of Psychosis
    36:08 The Impact of Stigma on Mental Health Disclosure
    40:56 Destigmatizing Mental Illness and Treatment Options
    51:59 Nuances of Motive and Responsibility in Mental Illness
    57:18 Cluster B Personality Disorders and Motive
    01:03:12 Responsibility and Psychotic Disorders
    01:04:28 Gender Differences in Violence and Psychosis
    01:06:12 The Role of Hormones in Violence
    01:08:57 Contrasting Mass Murderers and Serial Killers (The Unabomber)
    01:11:40 Analyzing The Unabomber, Ted Kaczynski
    01:17:46 Violence Is More Prevalent in the USA
    01:23:37 Interventions and Rehabilitation Strategies
    01:30:11 Further Recommendations
    -Previous interview with Ragy Girgis: https://youtu.be/go577VfZKzo

    RESOURCES
    Previous interview with Ragy Girgis: https://youtu.be/go577VfZKzo
    Ragy Girgis Faculty Page: https://www.columbiapsychiatry.org/profile/ragy-r-girgis-md
    Ragy's book: https://www.strandbooks.com/on-satan-demons-and-psychiatry-9781532699894.html
    Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
    🔔 SUBSCRIBE to help get more guests on the show: https://goo.gl/uEAeNp

    In this episode, Dr. Ragy Girgis discusses the complex relationship between mental illness, medication, and violence, with a focus on postpartum psychosis. We explore how psychiatric conditions are misunderstood and the importance of nuanced, informed perspectives.

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    1 h et 31 min
  • How to Spot Sincere Love Vs. Dark Manipulation - Dr Harry Reis
    Sep 18 2026

    Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter
    00:00 In This Episode
    00:35 Introducing Dr. Harry Reis
    01:08 The Signs That You Are Loved
    02:02 Love Causing Sadness
    02:43 The Key to Happiness
    03:38 The Answer to Pain and Being Unloved
    04:57 Writing with Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky
    05:46 Why Relationships Must Come First
    07:38 The Happiest Countries (Not the USA)
    08:55 Feeling Unloved Vs. Feeling Lonely
    10:55 Healing the Pain of Loneliness
    11:44 Harry's Pioneering Relationship Research
    14:44 Where to Look for Love
    17:15 Red Flags In Finding Love
    19:44 Relationships With Dangerous People
    24:02 What to Share With People
    25:50 How to Listen Well. Attention Is Key.
    28:24 How to Learn to Connect With People
    30:30 The Cost of Talking With AI Chatbots
    31:50 The Seesaw: Mutual Support
    34:42 Gut Feelings and Trust
    37:00 Gut Feelings and Breaking Up
    38:22 Gut Feelings and Implicit Cognition
    42:09 Gut Feelings and Love at First Sight
    43:39 Multiplicity: We've All Done Bad Things
    48:09 Distressed Marriages and Feeling Loved
    48:51 How Much Should We Tolerate In a Relationship?
    51:33 Cognitive Dissonance and Feeling Loved
    54:02 Sincere Apologies and Lying
    59:57 How to Recognize a Liar
    57:23 Finding Love After Pain
    59:14 The Cost of Being Alone
    1:00:21 How to Find Love After a Loss
    1:02:32 Reappraisal: The Cure for Rumination
    1:05:45 Don't Give Up On Relationships
    1:07:33 The Risk and Pain of Divorce
    1:08:35 Put Away Your Phone
    1:10:11 Love Languages
    1:11:38 find Dr Harry Reis online
    1:12:28 Teaching the World About Relationships
    1:13:47 Further Recommendations

    RESOURCES
    Interview with Jennifer R. Young: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI
    Harry Reis's book: https://amzn.to/4ycIgVC
    Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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    Dr. Harry Reis explains how to distinguish genuine love from manipulation tactics such as love-bombing and deception that ultimately lead to toxic relationships.

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    1 h et 14 min
  • How to Identify a Social Predator (The 4 Phases) - Dr Peter Salerno
    Sep 4 2026

    Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter
    00:00 In This Episode
    00:32 Introducing Dr. Peter Salerno
    00:44 Predatory Relationships: The Most Common Patterns
    02:40 Why You Are Targeted by a Predator
    04:59 Who Is Vulnerable to a Social Predator?
    08:11 The Tactics of a Social Predator
    10:07 The Psychological Structure of Predatory Behavior
    13:29 Learn to Use Patterns Not Diagnoses
    16:14 The Lingering Upset Effect
    18:38 Gut Feelings and Predators
    20:40 Questions to Ask Yourself In Relationships
    22:27 Finding Useful Information on Personality Disorders
    -Peter Salerno on Narcissism and Genetics: https://youtu.be/yx-0px-ymtM
    25:40 When to Stop Studying Predators
    26:58 Group Therapy and Recovery
    28:47 Phase 1: Idealization (Trust)
    36:19 How Idealization Ends
    37:45 Phase 2: Devaluation (Control)
    40:04 Intermittent Reinforcement and Gaslighting
    42:18 Identifying Intentional Harm
    46:49 Maintaining Control Over a Target
    48:02 Why We Can't Recognize Devaluation
    49:22 Social Isolation and Immersion Tactics
    51:40 How Devaluation Ends
    52:30 Phase 3: Abandonment (Avoiding Accountability)
    53:13 Shocking the Target
    54:58 Publicly Replacing the Target
    57:28 Tactics of the Abandonment Phase
    58:40 Recycling Tactics of Idealization
    1:01:41 How Abandonment Ends
    1:02:18 How to Disengage
    1:03:04 Phase 4: Post-Relationship Abuse
    1:04:16 Tactics of Post-Relationship Abuse
    1:05:38 Smear Campaigns and Reputational Destruction
    1:08:02 Preparation for Post-Relationship Abuse
    1:10:37 Are Predators In Denial?
    1:12:37 The Most Important Thing to Understand
    1:13:43 Trance and False Intimacy
    1:14:48 Callousness: The Most Important Trait
    1:17:32 find Dr. Peter Salerno online
    1:18:04 Upcoming Project with Dr. Debra Lieberman
    -Previous interview with Peter and Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE
    1:19:50 Further Recommendations
    -Previous interview with Peter Salerno: https://youtu.be/lt8AC7x34S8

    RESOURCES
    Previous interview with Peter Salerno: https://youtu.be/lt8AC7x34S8
    Peter Salerno's book: https://amzn.to/4qU7BRO
    Peter Salerno's website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/
    Peter Salerno on YouTube and Instagram: @DrPeterSalerno
    Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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    In this conversation we cover why you do not need a diagnosis to identify the patterns of a social predator, the four phases every predatory relationship moves through, and the critical difference between a defense mechanism and what Dr. Peter Salerno calls a preference mechanism: an offensive tactic delivered in the costume of a defense. He also explains the lingering upset effect, the reason one conversation can cost you a week of sleep, and why that particular confusion is installed rather than accidental.

    Dr. Peter Salerno is a licensed psychotherapist with a doctorate in clinical psychology, trained to administer the Hare Psychopathy Checklist-Revised, the standard used to evaluate psychopathy in clinical and forensic settings, and a featured expert in the Hulu docuseries Ted Bundy: Dialogue with the Devil. His book is The Social Predator's Secret Playbook: Traits and Tactics of Pathological Personalities and How to Recognize Them.

    How to Identify a Social Predator (The 4 Phases) - Dr Peter Salerno
    The Playbook Every Social Predator Uses on You - Dr Peter Salerno
    Unmasking Social Predators: The Phases of Exploitation

    "Predators idealize then devalue to control."
    "Genuine intimacy takes time, not rapid idealization."
    "Gut feelings are signals of manipulation."

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    1 h et 20 min
  • The Psychology of Female Violence: Comfort, Control, and Evil - Anna Motz
    Aug 25 2026

    Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter
    00:00 In This Episode
    00:21 Introducing Anna Motz
    00:44 Background in the Psychology of Female Violence
    01:37 Dreams and Violence
    08:21 Freudian Slips and Violence
    09:10 Expert Witness for Female Violence and Custody
    11:44 Manipulative Children
    14:19 Patterns In Female Violence
    15:53 Münchausen Syndrome by Proxy
    21:37 Deception and Violent Women
    28:47 Treatment for Violent Women
    40:52 Social Environment and Female Violence
    43:50 Violent Women as Perpetrators and Victims
    48:50 Mindhunter and Empathy for Violent Offenders
    1:01:32 Nature Vs. Nurture in Female Violence
    1:08:26 Working with Violent Women
    1:11:47 Motives of Violent Women
    1:15:49 Self Harm and Violent Women
    1:19:48 Manipulation and Denial
    1:23:43 Intimate Partner Terrorism
    1:24:37 Trauma and Affluent Families
    1:25:58 Trauma and Predicting Violence
    1:27:06 Evil People
    1:27:55 Find Anna Motz online
    1:28:47 Changing Prisons
    1:30:57 Further Recommendations

    RESOURCES
    Interview with Fiona Girkin: https://youtu.be/OLQzcOoWBmE
    Anna Motz's book: https://amzn.to/4xd3jYb
    Anna Motz on X: https://x.com/motz_anna
    Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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    Anna Motz’s extensive background in clinical psychology, particularly her focus on offender patients, provides a foundation for exploring the psychology behind female violence. She explains that her training in forensic psychotherapy allows her to address both conscious and unconscious motivations that lead to unusual or violent crimes. This dual approach—considering both thoughts and deeper psychological conflicts—offers a comprehensive view of what drives women to commit acts of violence.

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    1 h et 31 min
  • What Baboons Reveal About Bullies, Coercion, and Fake Apologies - Dr. Christine Webb
    Aug 4 2026

    A primatologist spent years watching a baboon troop and documented the exact behaviors survivors describe: the bully who escalates at random, the apology that arrives with an audience, the group that reorganizes itself around one individual's temper. None of it was your imagination. All of it is on record.

    Dr. Christine Webb is a Harvard-trained primatologist and Assistant Professor at New York University, where she is part of the Animal Studies program. Her book is The Arrogant Ape: The Myth of Human Exceptionalism and Why It Matters.

    "He put his hand between my hiking boots, he looked up at me, and he bared his teeth into this very awkward, forced grimace."

    In this conversation we cover why aggression is rarely about the thing it appears to be about, what reconciliation actually restores, and the critical difference between an apology and a submission display. Dr. Webb also walks through the Sapolsky study in which a troop's most aggressive males died off and the group's culture changed permanently, a change that outlasted every animal who had lived through it.

    If you have ever been told you were reading too much into it, this episode is a record of researchers reading exactly that much into it, on purpose, with notebooks.

    RESOURCES
    Christine's book: https://amzn.to/4wxU4Bk
    Christine's website: https://www.cewebb.com/
    Christine's papers: https://www.cewebb.com/papers
    Sapolsky & Share, "A Pacific Culture among Wild Baboons" (PLoS Biology, 2004):
    https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pbio.0020106
    Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq

    WATCH NEXT
    Robert Greene on The Laws of Human Nature: https://youtu.be/64MsV-FECsY

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    #CoerciveControl #NarcissisticAbuse #primatology

    00:00 In This Episode
    00:56 Introducing Dr. Christine Webb
    01:22 What Aggression Actually Does in a Group
    04:58 The Mobbing: When the Group Turns on You
    08:08 The Apology That Broke the Rules
    10:47 Are Apologies Ever Sincere?
    11:51 Why Words Are the Weakest Evidence
    17:48 Consolation: Comfort From a Bystander
    20:06 The Rule That Trains Scientists to Doubt Animal Minds
    26:12 Unique vs. Superior
    28:29 When a Leader Has Zero Empathy
    29:38 The Troop That Changed After the Bullies Died
    32:40 How a Group Handles a Despotic Leader
    34:39 Coerced Females: Dr. Webb's Own Research
    39:28 Chimps vs. Bonobos: The Stereotype Problem
    45:05 Bluff Displays: Getting Loud to Get Your Way
    50:56 The Lab, the Cages, and MacDuff
    57:34 Prison Populations and the Psychopathy Problem
    01:01:53 The Translation Crisis in Animal Research
    01:05:51 Find Dr. Christine Webb Online
    01:06:09 What Primates Teach Us About Repair
    01:08:46 Further Recommendation: Robert Greene on The Laws of Human Nature

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    1 h et 9 min
  • Biological War: An Unstoppable Nightmare - Annie Jacobsen
    Jul 27 2026

    00:00 In This Episode
    00:32 Introducing Annie Jacobsen
    00:45 Nuclear Solutions to Biological Threats
    02:30 Biological Weapons Are Illegal
    09:12 The Landscape of Biosecurity Labs
    11:50 The Paradox of Biological Weapons Research
    15:14 Monitoring Biological Weapons Programs
    19:04 Over 300 Lab Accidents
    24:40 The Spread of Biological Pathogens
    27:18 War Games and Biological Warfare Scenarios
    31:05 Learning from COVID-19
    34:22 Relations Between US and Russia
    36:08 Navigating Public Health Emergencies
    41:10 The Dilemma of Medical Countermeasures
    43:31 The Human Element in Crisis Management
    46:31 The Fantasy of Surviving Bioweapons
    52:01 Deep Fakes and Communications In an Attack
    53:41 Preparing for the Unthinkable
    58:00 The Future of Biotechnology and Public Health
    01:08:01 find Annie Jacobsen online
    01:08:46 Preventing Future Biological Threats
    01:10:12 Further Recommendation: Annie Jacobsen Nuclear War Interview

    RESOURCES
    Annie's previous interview: https://youtu.be/QHMZfc-VS14
    Annie's book: https://amzn.to/4wSPfSQ
    Annie's website: https://www.anniejacobsen.com/
    Gas mask: https://amzn.to/4gQwHOx
    Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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    Annie Jacobsen discusses her newest book, Biological War: A Scenario. She describes the threats of biological weapons and lab leaks. This conversation serves to warn listeners about the incredible danger of gain-of-function (GOF) research and its lack of oversight and countermeasures.

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    1 h et 10 min
  • Neuroplasticity: The Brain's Way of Healing and Changing - Dr Norman Doidge
    Jul 11 2026

    00:00 Introducing Dr. Norman Doidge
    00:27 Understanding Neuroplasticity
    09:14 Limits of Neuroplasticity
    18:32 The Role of Motivation and Intention in Recovery
    35:14 The Moskowitz Protocol: A Path to Pain Management
    38:04 Restoration: Normal Brain Function
    39:35 Compulsions and Traumatic Cognitive Dissonance
    42:44 Repetitive Ideas and Neuroplasticity
    50:25 Cognitive Behavioral Interventions for OCD
    54:19 The Power of Visualization in Healing
    58:24 The Dynamic Nature of Body Image
    59:46 Experiments on Body Image and Pain
    1:06:44 Placebo Effect vs. Visualization Techniques
    1:13:58 The Role of Mature Hope in Neuroplastic Change
    1:20:00 Hope, Plans, Goals, False Despair and Its Impact
    1:28:40 Neuromodulation and Neurorelaxation Practices
    1:33:47 Maximizing Attention for Neuroplastic Change
    1:37:35 find Norman Doidge online
    1:38:49 Neuroplasticity, Love, and Relationships
    1:48:41 Further Recommendation: Peter Salerno Interview

    RESOURCES
    Interview with Peter Salerno: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yx-0px-ymtM
    Dr. Norman Doidge's book: https://amzn.to/4y6wdKe
    Dr. Norman Doidge's website: https://normandoidge.com/
    Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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    1 h et 49 min