Who is the good girl? She's an overachiever, she's a people pleaser and she hates being out of control.

In 2020 I was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer and my inner good girl tried to win at chemo!

She tried to manage and control.

She tried to not be a burden.

She tried to avoid conflict and confrontation.

Sometimes it worked but sometimes it didn't.

She also tried to use her powers of prediction to figure out the ending.

This episode is about where my mind went while waiting for a routine test result and the moment I realised I really couldn't control the outcomes of the treatment. Some how I had to find the balance between naive optimism and total catastrophizing.

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Gillian Wray welcomes Lea, who helps women "come back to themselves" — work born from her own journey through people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and the search for external validation.

Lea shares her story of leaving home after a painful relationship, initially feeling profound relief from a suffocating environment, only to discover she'd recreated the same patterns abroad. It took hitting rock bottom before she began investing in herself — through the gym, online programs, human design, and past life regression. These tools, particularly hypnosis, helped her access her subconscious, gain perspective, and release deep-seated fears.

The conversation explores inner child work, emotional regulation skills Lea developed while nannying, the particular shame that comes from tying identity to others' perceptions, the necessity of boundaries, using isolation as self-protection, and the practice of consciously curating one's environment — from social media feeds to news consumption.

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In this episode, I sit down with the wonderful Michaela Silsby and talk about who her parenting journey, led her to her own diagnosis of Autism and ADHD. She shares the struggles of being a parent to neurodivergent children in a system that often leaves them struggling. Michaela became an advocate for her daughter in the school system and now using her voice to campaign for changes in bills that affect 1000s of parents and children. She shares the reality on her Facebook Page Spilling the tea on autism and ADHD

through poetry, reels and posts that help other parents, carers and young people feel seen and heard.