Chronic skin picking, hair pulling, & nail biting are the result of a disregulated nervous system.

So it only makes sense that part of healing involves learning how to regulate it.

This means learning how to slow down. AKA - Rest.

Easy peasy, right? Right??

Unfortunately, for people like you and me, we didn't really learn how to switch off.

Our system is constantly on go, and so it never feels like the right time to stop, or when you do manage it, it's accompanied with anxiety, restlessness, and guilt.

Don't panic. You're not broken. You just need an actual system and practice that can help you to learn how it's done.

In this episode, we dive deeper into:

• The science behind why you can't slow down
• Where the real problem lies
• Experience a 5-minute guided somatic practice to help you learn how to switch off, slow down, and rest.

This has allowed me to go from a chronic overworker who has no time for self-care or leisure unless forced, to someone who now has an abundance of time for the things that make her heart sing... And I'm even more successful, efficient, and effective than when I was constantly on "go".

Allowing yourself to rest does not mean you get lazy.

Listen-in to heal xx

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

We cannot have true safety, intimacy, and depth without hard conversations.

Yet many of us struggle to know how to have a hard conversation and, when we try, it just seems to make things worse rather than better.

So what's the point then?

The point is this: “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.” - Esther Perel

The quality of how you communicate determines the quality of your relationships.

If your relationship is not where you want it to be, there is a high chance some issues are being swept under the rug in favour of "peace."

It's time to learn how to have hard conversations so that you can not only cultivate a deeper sense of safety and stability within your relationship, but also within yourself.

Not coincidentally, this is a big component of healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting too!

Here's what we cover in this episode:

🌟The 3 styles of couples when it comes to conflict
🌟5 steps to resolve conflict and bring you and your partner closer together
🌟Learn how to move beyond the biggest barriers in having hard conversations - your loved one's reactions
🌟Compatibility Dealbreakers - Read the signs of a relationship that simply won't work

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You've tried gloves, covering mirrors, fidget toys, and maybe even CBT or habit reversal, but none of them really seem to get you the results you're looking for.

The problem is that they don't address the root cause.

Emotion is the driving force behind this behaviour, and when we don't address it, it continues to rule our lives.

This looks like urges you can't resist and frustrating patterns of procrastination, self-sabotage, and impulsivity that perpetually get in the way of you living.

Why? Because you have been trying to control your behaviour rather than work with the emotion that's fueling it.

In this episode, I will walk you through a practice that allows you to address what's under the surface.

It will not only empower you to take tangible steps forward in your healing but will transform how you show up in your relationships and with yourself.

This is healing.

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🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

It's infuriating and confusing.

Why in the world, after a great day, do you end up ruining it with a big old session of picking, pulling, or biting?

The answer is actually pretty simple - you're disregulated.

AND the best way you've learnt how to calm yourself down is to squish your emotions back down into their box rather than feel them fully.

The problem is, knowing the "how" of meditation, breathwork, journaling, and going for a walk doesn't help you to know the "how" of feeling fully.

Logical understanding is not enough. There needs to be an emotional connection and understanding between your brain and your body.

In this episode:

• You'll cultivate a deep understanding of why you pick on a good day
• The broader consequences of squashing your emotions
• and I walk you through how to feel fully through cultivating a connection between your mind and body

Enjoy 💛

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🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You've tried time and time again to "just stop" picking, pulling, and biting at your body.

But if willpower were really the solution, something would have changed a LONG time ago.

So either you're a broken human being with no hope of ever feeling better or living better...

Or you're simply going about this the wrong way.

The first one we fear to be the truth. The second one is the actual truth.

The problem is not that you are a fundamentally flawed human being. It's that you've misunderstood how your brain works, why you engage in this behaviour, and what it takes to heal from it.

And to be fair, you haven't really "misunderstood"; you've been misinformed or haven't yet had guidance from someone who deeply understands the intricacies of what you're going through.

That absolutely makes things harder. No wonder you feel stuck!

It's time to remedy this and share with you what you're really searching for when you pick, pull, and bite at your body so that you can finally move forward in a way that lasts.

💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me

🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You've spent months, years, if not decades, trying to figure out why you pick, pull, or bite at your body...

And yet you STILL do it.

Why?

What's the missing piece to this infuriating puzzle?

It's actually pretty straightforward, though I wouldn't say it's easy, but neither is feeling stuck after all this time.

Let me tell you exactly what this missing piece is, and how to implement it into your life in the most effective, life-changing way.

Hint - it's about emotions, and the connection between your mind and body.

💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me

🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If there's one experience we can all agree on...

It's the feeling of hoping things will get better.

Hoping that this time will be different. That you'll stop picking. You'll let your skin heal, and you'll finally be free.

Except that never happens, and we find ourselves feeling afraid to hope and try because we've been let down so many times in the past.

But did you know that this is a cycle? And that this cycle has a name and a purpose much bigger than you would imagine?

And when you understand what's really going on, you can begin to set yourself free and feel the empowerment that's waiting beneath this perpetual turmoil.

You'll find out in the first 60 seconds of this episode what the name of this cycle is, and over the remaining 15 minutes, you'll find out what you can do about it.

Good listening and Godspeed!

💌Book your FREE BFPA* Roadmapping Call with me

🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

The #1 issue I work on with my clients is feeling shame and self-criticism after a picking, pulling, or biting session.

Why do I work with clients on this?

It's not just about feeling better; it's because how you treat yourself in these moments directly impacts the length, severity, and frequency of picking sessions!

When you learn how to lean into real compassion rather than criticism in these moments, you will take huge strides in your healing journey.

But there's a problem: most people have a deep-seated feeling that "Being kind to myself after I pick just excuses the behaviour," which holds them back from making this crucial progress.

If you resonate with this, let's work through this roadblock together so that you can access the next level in your healing journey.

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Here's the blog post I mentioned - Is self-compassion just making excuses? The science says no

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🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.