The #1 issue I work on with my clients is feeling shame and self-criticism after a picking, pulling, or biting session.

Why do I work with clients on this?

It's not just about feeling better; it's because how you treat yourself in these moments directly impacts the length, severity, and frequency of picking sessions!

When you learn how to lean into real compassion rather than criticism in these moments, you will take huge strides in your healing journey.

But there's a problem: most people have a deep-seated feeling that "Being kind to myself after I pick just excuses the behaviour," which holds them back from making this crucial progress.

If you resonate with this, let's work through this roadblock together so that you can access the next level in your healing journey.

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Here's the blog post I mentioned - Is self-compassion just making excuses? The science says no

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I've healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking and have spent the past 5 years helping others, like you, to do the same.

These are the 6 most life-changing lessons I learnt about healing that I see continue to make a difference in the lives of my clients and those I speak to within this incredible community.

They're grounded in science and a deep understanding of what it's like to struggle and then heal from a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour.

Listen in to find out which you feel most drawn to because I guarantee it's probably what you need right now to take the next step in your healing.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Stress is a big root cause of chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting.

With this in mind, a straightforward solution to being free from these behaviours would be: remove stress = FREEDOM!

It's partly true but mostly a total lie and deeply unhelpful.

Yes, there are probably some things in your life that cause unnecessary stress that you'd be better off removing...

BUT, we cannot remove stress altogether and trying to do so only causes more of it.

So what do we do?

We turn inward.

I can tell you that, without a doubt, my life is objectively more stressful than it was 5 years ago... and yet, 5 years ago I was in the throes of chronic skin picking.

Not only do I now have 10x the responsibility and pressure, but I also love myself and enjoy my life 100x more.

Let me share with you the exact steps I took to create this very real and very realistic inner freedom that you were born to have too.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Hope is hard when you've tried for years to stop engaging in a behaviour that you logically understand is not good for you and yet seem to have no control over.

It's hard when you fail again and again to "be better."

I've spoken to so many incredible people inside this community who desperately want to hope that healing and freedom from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting is possible...

But their experiences have taught them otherwise.

Let me share with you why hope feels so elusive and what you can do to rebuild it in simple, easy steps so that you can move forward in your healing journey towards the life and the person you dream of being!

I believe you can heal. Let me help you feel that it's possible too.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Positive affirmations truly can help you to heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting BUT...

You've got to go about creating them in the right way.

Most people don't, and so they end up with affirmations that err on the side of toxic positivity. They give the "ick" and make people believe that affirmations are just useless fluff with no substance.

Toxic positivity is useless fluff, but true affirmations are deeply powerful and will help you to stay grounded as you navigate your way through the storms of healing.

• They're a reminder of your strength when you feel like you have none.
• They're a light in the dark when you feel lost.
• They're a warming touch when self-belief feels cold and distant.

In this episode, avoid the common mistakes most people make, ground into your greatness, and learn how to build your own unique, healing affirmations through a deep exploration of you.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

We all have a few abandoned and neglected HEALTHY habits weighing on the back of our minds...

"I should journal more, meditate more, exercise more, eat better, or finally get back into that hobby."

We know they'd be good for us if we just did them more regularly.

If thinking about these neglected habits makes you feel kinda shitty about yourself, then this episode was recorded for you.

Find out what might be the real culprit holding you back from following through and what you can do about it that will truly make a difference to your life.

It's not as complex as you might think!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

There's a 99% chance you've been in this trap.

In the three years I've been supporting people heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting, I have yet to meet someone who hasn't struggled with this too.

I did for years, and I still catch myself slipping into this self-sabotaging and degrading way of thinking.

If you want to feel more content, present, and fulfilled in your day-to-day life, make sure you listen to this because navigating this mental trap is a MUST!

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🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

This is what really works.

And it's got nothing to do with willpower or expensive therapeutic treatment.

I discovered this at one of the lowest moments in my healing journey and, to this day, it continues to change my life for the better.

Because the truth is, you're not struggling with chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting - you're struggling with shame.

And I guarantee, the skin picking became a problem because you needed help coping with the shame (and stress and overwhelm), NOT the other way round.

To truly heal - feel better in ourselves and finally be able to relax and just "be" - we need to approach healing differently.

What I share with you in this episode is the approach that makes all the difference.

I can't wait for you to gain this invaluable tool!

Questions from this episode to save in your phone:
- What do I need right now?

- What is this moment trying to teach me?

- Is there anything I'm avoiding doing or saying in my life right now?

- Is there a hard conversation I know I need to have?

- Is there a boundary I'm not setting that my heart is telling me I need, but I'm afraid to act on?

- Where am I putting too much pressure on myself?

🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📩 Join my Email List to receive weekly support

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - NOW AVAILABLE FOR 2 WEEKS!

💪Click here to apply to STRENGTH 2026! Applications close 31st December (15 spots available)

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.