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This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re back on the imposter syndrome topic… but this time we’re going full ADHD with it. Because imposter syndrome on its own is rough — but add ADHD, masking, late diagnosis, and a lifetime of being misunderstood… and it turns into a whole different beast.

Episode Highlights:

• Imposter syndrome through an ADHD lens: that fear you’re “faking it”, being a fraud, and getting found out.
• The weird ADHD brain twist: when you have a good day, it can feel like “proof” you were never struggling in the first place.
• Diagnosis can actually make the imposter louder — because once ADHD has a name, you start replaying everything and doubting yourself even more.
• Years of being told you’re lazy, dramatic, too sensitive, too much… it sticks. And it makes you question your own reality.
• The “other people have it worse” trap — and how it shuts down your own needs before you’ve even admitted them.
• Masking: if you’ve hidden the struggle for long enough, you start believing the mask is the real you… and then you feel like a fraud when you finally admit you’re not coping.
• A good day doesn’t cancel a hard life. ADHD is patterns over time — not one productive afternoon where you answered emails and remembered your keys.
• Starting a podcast seriously upped the imposter syndrome ante: “Who am I to even talk about this?”
• And the reminder we keep coming back to: we’re not experts — we’re just sharing our experiences, honestly, in the hope it helps someone feel less alone.

What might actually help (without pretending it’s a magic fix):

• Naming it when it shows up (because sometimes just clocking it helps)
• Catching the “proof” thoughts and challenging them (“one good day doesn’t erase years of struggle”)
• Being kinder to yourself than you’d ever be to someone else
• Remembering ADHD is real, even when you’re functioning

We also have listener good, bad and ugly stories — and this week they’re imposter syndrome specials. They’re relatable, hilarious, painful, and basically proof that this isn’t just a “you” thing.

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New episode out now! 🎙️ This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, Adam is absolutely pumped on coffee and ready to go… and Donna brings the topic because lately Adam’s been dealing with a BIG one: imposter syndrome.

After a huge magic show at Craig Tara in Ayr (a proper dream venue for Adam), the excitement quickly turned into that familiar feeling of “Who do I think I am?” and “They’re going to realise I’m not good enough.” So… is it ADHD, is it imposter syndrome, or is it just life doing what life does best?

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Episode Highlights:
- What is imposter syndrome really — and does it only show up at work, or can it creep into every part of life? (Could it literally be Adam’s middle name?)
- The Craig Tara magic gig: Adam books the show… then immediately thinks he’s not good enough. Excitement → instant regret → worry spiral.
- Working well under pressure… and also leaving everything to the last minute (because of course).
- Adam’s first instinct: spend a fortune on new tricks. Second instinct: leave practising until the last possible second. Classic.
- That horrible feeling that things are “never going to happen” or that you don’t deserve the good stuff when it finally does.
- Why imposter syndrome feels like torture: knowing something rationally, but not being able to feel it in the moment.
- Starting a new job, not feeling like you belong, feeling like you’re on trial, feeling like you’re about to be “found out.”
- Adam vs Donna: how it shows up differently, including Donna’s experiences when she was a singer.
- When does the feeling leave — is it imposter syndrome, or is it just nerves?
- Is imposter syndrome like a man in a dark cloak sat on your shoulder like a traitor, whispering nonsense into your ear?
- Interacting with peers but feeling like you’re not on the same level… and how it drains your confidence.
- Networking meetings, social awkwardness, and the fact none of it feels rational. If only you could pause life like a movie and have a word with yourself.
- Adam’s shocking confession: he gets imposter syndrome at the BARBERS. (Yes, really.) Do they judge him for having no hair? We unpack it.
- Ego states, putting yourself down, feeling inferior, and forgetting past wins like they never happened.
- Can you actually enjoy good experiences instead of feeling sick about them? Should we all just be kinder to ourselves?
- Strategies that actually help: name it, challenge the thoughts, and give yourself a proper confidence talk (even if it feels cringe).

**5 Minute Moans:**
- Why won’t Adam duet with Donna?
- And why doesn’t Donna care when Adam nearly dies? Did he faint? (You’ll have to listen…)

We wrap up with listeners’ good, bad and ugly stories — and honestly, they’re so good it’s pushed us into **Part 2 next week**: *Im

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ADHD or Life? – New Year’s Resolutions! (Happy New Year from Adam & Donna)

🎙️ Adam and Donna are back with the first episode of 2026, and we’re doing what everyone does this time of year… talking New Year’s resolutions (and whether any human on earth actually keeps them). But first: Christmas with ADHD, the build-up, and the shock twist of the season… no meltdowns. Who even are we?

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Episode Highlights:
- Christmas with ADHD: the build-up, the chaos potential… and somehow, weirdly, no meltdowns.
- The important question: who won Christmas?
- New Year chat, including Adam’s big magic show and the joy of that one perfect day where we had absolutely nothing to do (best feeling in the world).
- New Year, New Me: can anyone actually stick to resolutions, or is it just a January hobby?
- Podcast plans for 2026, plus Adam’s ongoing struggle to stay in contact with people (out of sight, out of mind… but with friends).
- The gym membership that’s basically a monthly donation
- Donna’s resolutions are surrounded by mystery (very on brand). Personal and health goals… but you’ll have to listen to find out.
- Christmas eating, and the dream of having a “caravan bag” ready for overnight stays at the drop of a hat.
- Strategies to actually keep resolutions, the classic stumbling blocks, and how ADHD can make it harder (or just… different).
- Hyperfocus, including hyperfocusing on the wrong things at exactly the wrong time.
- Work patterns, juggling, and Adam’s official limit: (spoiler alert: it’s 2).
- Couple dynamics: when reminders start sounding like nagging, and how to keep it kind.
- Donna’s “neuro-normal” take on resolutions — she used to run and wants to do it again. Does everyone fail… or do we just set ourselves up to?
- And finally: Adam gets VERY excited about vision boards and a new office that “must be completed today.” New office, new me.

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(Final episode of 2025… and we’re going out strong.)

New episode out now! 🎙️ This week, Adam and Donna tackle a big one: anxiety — how it shows up, how it overlaps with ADHD, and how it can look totally different depending on what’s going on in your brain (and your life).

It’s the final episode of 2025, and we’re wrapping up the year with a proper real-life topic: Is it ADHD or Anxiety? We chat about taking some time off — we had a week off for the wedding, and we’ll also be off next week for one week (because life happens!). A bit of a check-in on accountability and social media, then we get straight into the main topic.

ADHD + Anxiety (Adam’s flavour):

• The anxiety that comes from fear of forgetting (because forgetting isn’t just annoying — it can feel like a full-body panic).
• RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) and how it can turn small moments into big spirals.
• The classic ADHD-anxiety combo: “I know I should do this… but I can’t.” And the guilt/anxiety that follows.

Neuronormal Anxiety (Donna’s flavour):

• The mental load — carrying everything in your head and worrying what happens if you drop one ball.
• The worry of being “too much” — especially the fear of becoming a nag just to keep life moving.

How anxiety shows up behaviourally (for both of us):

• Avoidance (if you don’t look at it, it doesn’t exist… right?)
• Shutdown
• Irritability
• Over-explaining (because if you can just explain it perfectly, maybe you’ll feel less anxious… maybe)

5 Minute Moans:

• Donna’s getting fed up with Adam starting a conversation… then drifting off mid-way like he’s been teleported to another dimension.
• Adam’s request of the week: Donna, please stop calling him her “Husband”. (Yes, really.)

We finish with our listener good, bad and ugly stories — and we’re genuinely grateful for every single one. Keep them coming, because they make this podcast what it is: real people, real life, and the stuff we all think we’re the only ones dealing with.

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We love our Good, Bad and Ugly segment so much...that we thought we'd make a full episode of them! We asked you to send in your stories, and you did not disappoint! 👌🤩

From late diagnosis, to Relationships, to ADHD at work - your stories got us thinking and talking. 🗣️

The ADHD brain works in mysterious ways, and we'll never have all the answers - but it's good to know that we're not alone! 🧠🤯

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This week’s episode is a special one—it’s dropping on our actual wedding day! 🎉
We kick things off with a catch-up on our week and all the last-minute wedding chaos (spoiler: there’s always something missing, especially Adam’s e-cig liquid).
Adam picked this week’s subject, and it’s a biggie: Does ADHD actually get worse as you get older? The official answer is “no,” but scroll through social media and you’ll see everyone seems to disagree. So, what’s really going on?
We dig into:
Life’s mounting pressures as you grow up (and whether self-medicating just masks the symptoms)
Is Adam’s ADHD really getting worse, or is it just big life changes—like, say, getting married or maybe even having a baby? 👀
Has Adam started leaning into his symptoms, or are we just more aware now?
Dopamine regulation, chasing the next “hit,” and the legendary secret cookie-eating on Adam’s paper round
Executive function demands, life structure, and the all-important authority figures (Donna, obviously)
How symptoms shift with age—does impulsivity become emotional impulsivity? Does hyperactivity turn inward? Is forgetfulness just ADHD, or is it life getting harder?
Are people who have it all together in their twenties just… boring? Do we just stop masking as we get older?
The sudden, shocking realisation: are we actually old now?
The support that’s out there (and how to find it)
Plus, don’t miss our 5-minute moans—shoes, broken washing machines, and all the usual chaos. We wrap up with your good, bad, and ugly listener stories, and we’re planning a “Good, Bad & Ugly” special next episode—so send us your emails and messages!
🎧 Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/UiCewGkn-K0
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This week, we’re thrilled to welcome David Richmond from @NeuroDadsDiary—a fantastic Instagram page that feels like a neurodivergent dad’s journal. David shares his honest and inspiring journey with both ADHD and autism, kicking off with a deep dive into the diagnosis process, the right to choose, and the reality of those endless waiting lists.
We unpack what inspired Neuro Dads Diary, how it’s building a supportive community for dads, and why being open with your kids about ADHD matters.
Parenting with ADHD is a wild ride—David gets real about perfectionism, executive dysfunction, coming alive at night, and the ongoing adventure of fatherhood. We also swap stories about time blindness, organisation struggles, and how AI (yes, even dinner-making bots!) can lend a hand.
We chat about the ups and downs of couple life with ADHD—how partners can be a lifeline (or sometimes, let’s be honest, it feels like having another kid in the house!).
David opens up about wearing a Sunflower Lanyard for hidden disabilities (find out more here: https://hdsunflower.com/uk), and what being a “sunflower friend” really means.
To wrap up, David shares his “good, bad, and ugly”—from time management wins and eating habits to those all-too-familiar feelings of guilt. Plus, we talk about the vision for Neuro Dads Diary going forward.

Tune in for honest stories, practical tips, and plenty of laughs.

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Is it ADHD… or is wedding planning just stressful?
In this episode of Is it ADHD or Life?, we kick off with Donna dressed as a sheep (yes, really) before diving into why Adam hasn’t had the best couple of weeks – hello dopamine drought.

We chat about the dopamine hit of having something to look forward to, how that links into our upcoming wedding, and why low-calorie ice cream absolutely does not hit the spot.
From self-medicating with food and alcohol to Adam feeling strangely flat about the wedding, we unpack what’s ADHD, what’s emotional burnout, and what might just be being human.
Donna is still a bit hungover from her hen weekend, and then we get into the main event: wedding planning with ADHD.
In true ADHD fashion, we’ve left a lot of things until the last minute. Was that deliberate? Did Adam really believe it was going to happen? Has Donna “caught ADHD” or is she just mirroring? Donna also shares her worries about “disturbing the peace” by talking about the wedding too much.
We explore:
Surprises and why Adam does not cope well with them (and why on earth Donna said the word “STEN”)
The pressure of trying to please everyone, RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria), and the weight of expectations
Spreadsheets, timelines, and whether it should really take five years to plan a wedding
The ADHD symptoms that show up hard during wedding planning – procrastination, overwhelm, decision fatigue, emotional dysregulation and more
How things shift when the wedding suddenly becomes Adam’s hyperfocus
Lessons learned… including why you probably shouldn’t buy a kilt from China
Adam also shares his slight breakdown in the car on the way to the podcast, and together we ask: is it ADHD, or just being human under a lot of pressure?
In our 5 Minute Moan, Adam vents about not getting the praise he craves and his ridiculous e-cig orders from Amazon. We wrap up with our listeners’ good, bad and ugly wedding stories – from the relatable to the downright chaotic.
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If you’re planning a wedding with ADHD (or loving someone who is), this one’s for you.

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