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ADHD or life? - A couples perspective!

ADHD or life? - A couples perspective!

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🎙️ Welcome to ADHD or Life? – A Couple's Perspective!
Join Adam and Donna as they dive deep into the realities of living with ADHD in a relationship. Each week, we share honest, no-holds-barred discussions on challenges, symptoms, strategies, and real-life stories. Together, we explore the journey of questioning ADHD and finding solutions. Tune in for authentic conversations that resonate! Each episode we ask - Is it ADHD or just life? 💬✨ #ADHDorLife #CouplesPodcast #realtalk

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  • Is it ADHD or Life? Bossman Special – Producer Andy on ADHD, Relationships & the ADHD Tax

    Is it ADHD or Life? Bossman Special – Producer Andy on ADHD, Relationships & the ADHD Tax
    Jul 17 2026

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    This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple's Perspective, we've got a very special episode. Our producer Andy joins us as our official (well, unofficially riddled) guest and referee.

    Andy sees more of the podcast than we do – he watches it live, edits it, and knows all the behind-the-scenes chaos. So we wanted to pick his brain about what he actually thinks.
    We dive into the empty ask – asking something knowing the answer will be no. Is it thoughtful or negative? Does it hurt the neurotypical partner? We ask Andy if he thinks we have a chaotic relationship, and whether we should make a special out of what gets cut before we even start recording.

    Then we get into the real stuff: does Adam forget things regularly? Is Andy forgetful? Is that age or ADHD? We talk family calendars, changing plans, time keeping (Adam nearly double-booked their wedding day with parties), and whether forgetting means you don't care.
    We're talking marketplace obsessions, Temu, follow through, the differences in our ADHD, Andy's old radio job, Adam's RSD confession, blackouts during recording, pretending to listen, and whether we should change our living arrangements.

    Does Andy read faces? Does age affect ADHD or just give you more experience? We talk about remembering things you messed up years ago and how that affects relationships. Messages, misunderstandings, ideas at 3am, waking each other up, working better at night, and what you need to fall asleep to.

    Then there's the ADHD tax – new toys, recording equipment, business expenses, urinals and she-wees. Impulsive spending, whether the business justifies it, how heat affects ADHD, and a 5-minute moan from Andy that left Adam in a cold sweat (spoiler: it was actually Donna).
    No filter, just three people talking about ADHD, relationships, and life.

    Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/46i0iGiwmgvFrlOzoW2SnS

    Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/kH4sgxsVbAU
    #ADHD #AdultADHD #ADHDPodcast #ADHDRelationships #Neurodiversity #CouplesPodcast #RealTalk #Producer #BehindTheScenes

    Tune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and ugly stories to adhdorlife@gmail.com.

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  • Is it ADHD or Are We Financially Incompatible?

    Is it ADHD or Are We Financially Incompatible?
    Jul 10 2026
    Send us Fan MailThis week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re getting properly real about money, impulsivity, and what it’s like when two people are trying to build a life together… but their brains (and spending habits) are on completely different settings.Episode title says it all: Is it ADHD or are we financially incompatible?This is one of our rawest chats yet. No fluff, no pretending, just truthful relationship talk about ADHD and money — and how it affects the partner who’s trying to keep things steady.We start by settling last week’s debate (is it mowing the lawn or cutting the grass?) and then Adam shares his recent embarrassing padel situation. Then Adam realises what today’s episode is about… and you can literally hear the panic.This week we look at money from Donna’s perspective: what it’s like living with someone with ADHD who struggles with spending, impulse decisions, and the stress that comes after the dopamine wears off.Adam finally gives Donna access to the business account (no more sneaky spending), and we talk about joint accounts and transparency — including how it feels when you can both see exactly what the other is spending. It can be helpful… but it can also add pressure, guilt, and “I’m being watched” energy. The profits have definitely gone up since Donna can see what’s happening… funny that.We also talk about how ADHD can create a Jekyll and Hyde cycle with money: impulsive decisions in the moment, then panic, stress, regret, and low mood afterwards — and how that emotional crash affects the relationship.And yes… we talk about the most ADHD holiday decision ever: Adam deciding on Thursday night that we’re going on holiday Friday morning for the weekend. The thought process, the chaos, Donna being left packing and sorting everything while starting a new job, and the final cost (spoiler: it was a lot more expensive than expected).Then we get into the pattern properly:Impulsive hobbies costing money (Donna asked the darts shop if they take Klarna)How long the padel craze will lastImpulsive car buys (and why Donna insists on bringing up the past)Adam’s obsession with Facebook Marketplace (are we becoming a crew van family?)Adam’s embarrassing confession that comes out of that obsession… and whether Donna finds it cuteWe talk about the “shiny things” problem, the “no pockets in a shroud” mindset, and the downside people don’t talk about enough: the low mood after spending, the consequences, and the relationship tension that follows.We also ask the big question: has it got better since medication started? We talk financial planning, knowing what’s happening, and how much difference it makes when you’re not guessing.Then we get to the bottom of what really happened in a conversation about money yesterday:Who is right?Should Donna buy new pants?Are we both all-or-nothing?Why do we spend money on experiences but hate spending on necessities?Is that ADHD, or just modern life?Do all the little expenses build up until you feel like you’re drowning?We talk recent impulsive spends (anyone want to buy lapel mics?), Donna’s possible Amazon parcel problem, and the dopamine hunting that sits underneath so much of it.Good, Bad & Ugly this week includes:Communication and money in relationshipsEarning differences and how that changes the dynamicCandy Crush coins (yes, really)Monzo joint account link (yes this is real):https://join.monzo.com/c/4w6zqv8Watch this episode on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/RYZqL4avGmEFollow us:Instagram: @adhdorlifepodTikTok: @adhdorlifepodYouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepodSend your Good, Bad & Ugly stories / questions: adhdorlife@gmail.com#ADHD #AdultADHD #ADHDUK #ADHDPodcast #ADHDAndMoney #ImpulsiveSpending #DopamineSpending #MoneyInRelationships #FinancialStress #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #ADHDRelationships #CouplesPodcast #Communication #Transparency #JointAccount #Monzo #ExecutiveDysfunction #Impulsivity #Hyperfixation #RealTalkTune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and ugly stories to adhdorlife@gmail.com. Like and Subscribe to see our faces here: http://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepodFollow us on Tik Tok for extra snippits and more: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhdorlifepodFollow us on Instagram for up to date info: https://www.instagram.com/adhdorlifepod/
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  • Is it ADHD or a heatwave? Sleep, Sensory Overload, Irritability & ADHD Meds in Hot Weather

    Is it ADHD or a heatwave? Sleep, Sensory Overload, Irritability & ADHD Meds in Hot Weather
    Jul 3 2026

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    This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re asking the question everyone’s been thinking lately… is it ADHD, or is it just a heatwave?

    We start off with our new setup, fancy coffee and new mugs, and Donna insisting on a cringey little cheers (sorry in advance). Then we get straight into the heat — we actually missed a week’s recording because it was so warm, and it’s properly messed with everything.

    We talk sleep (or lack of it), and how heat can hit ADHDers differently. Adam’s bought air con for his ancient van, which has obviously led to him wanting to become a TikTok seller (links incoming if he can ever film the perfect video without spiralling). We also chat about recent market trips, then Donna takes over and we get into the real impact of heat on ADHD.

    We talk sweat issues, and Adam admitting he always just assumed he was “fat and ginger” rather than sensory overloaded. We get into how heat can make ADHD feel louder — more irritability, snappiness, impulsiveness — and how the sun makes you want to do fun things even when your executive function is on the floor.

    We cover executive dysfunction ramping up, whether Donna basically feeds Adam, and how appetite disappears… unless it’s ice cream. We also learn how Adam feels about nipples (yes, really).

    Then we get into something that’s been a big one lately: transitions. Adam’s struggling to move from one thing to another and has started spending loads of time sitting in the car in-between tasks. Is that the heat, the medication, or just life? If you struggle with this too, comment and tell us you’re not alone.

    We talk sensory overload: sweat, sticky clothes, suncream, and mainly Adam’s very embarrassing sweat situation (but to be fair… he’s not smelly). We chat hydration (seriously important), clothes, and Adam’s topless confessions.

    We also cover Adam’s terrible choice to mow the lawn in the heat, and then Donna shares a very embarrassing heat-related problem… even Adam is shook.

    Sleep comes back round (because it always does). Heat has made it worse, crazy eating is back, naps are back, and it’s created a never-ending circle. We talk ADHD meds and heat too, and yes… cue the giggles when Donna mentions how meds can make sensations feel bigger.

    We look at Donna’s side of it as well. Does heat affect neuro-normals as badly? And the social side of summer — Adam’s avoided it, and Donna’s got thoughts. We also ask the important question: does Adam moan too much?

    We finish with your Good, Bad and Ugly listener stories (keep sending them to adhdorlife@gmail.com), which lead to another admission from Adam. We also ask whether we should walk more.

    And then it’s 5 minute moans:

    • Donna is still not impressed with Adam leaving things around (cue recycling confessions)
    • Adam wants your answer: is it mowing the lawn or cutting the grass?

    Watch on YouTube:
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    #ADHD #AdultADHD #ADHDUK #ADHDPodcast #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #Heatwave #HotWeather #ADHDAndHeat #SensoryOverload #ExecutiveDysfunction #ADHDMedication #Titration #SleepProblems #Insomnia #EmotionalRegulation #Irritability #Impulsivity #ADHDRelationships #CouplesPodcast #FamilyLife #GoodBadUgly #FiveMinuteMoans #Hydration #SummerStruggles

    Tune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and ugly stories to adhdorlife@gmail.com.

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