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This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re back on the imposter syndrome topic… but this time we’re going full ADHD with it. Because imposter syndrome on its own is rough — but add ADHD, masking, late diagnosis, and a lifetime of being misunderstood… and it turns into a whole different beast.

Episode Highlights:

• Imposter syndrome through an ADHD lens: that fear you’re “faking it”, being a fraud, and getting found out.
• The weird ADHD brain twist: when you have a good day, it can feel like “proof” you were never struggling in the first place.
• Diagnosis can actually make the imposter louder — because once ADHD has a name, you start replaying everything and doubting yourself even more.
• Years of being told you’re lazy, dramatic, too sensitive, too much… it sticks. And it makes you question your own reality.
• The “other people have it worse” trap — and how it shuts down your own needs before you’ve even admitted them.
• Masking: if you’ve hidden the struggle for long enough, you start believing the mask is the real you… and then you feel like a fraud when you finally admit you’re not coping.
• A good day doesn’t cancel a hard life. ADHD is patterns over time — not one productive afternoon where you answered emails and remembered your keys.
• Starting a podcast seriously upped the imposter syndrome ante: “Who am I to even talk about this?”
• And the reminder we keep coming back to: we’re not experts — we’re just sharing our experiences, honestly, in the hope it helps someone feel less alone.

What might actually help (without pretending it’s a magic fix):

• Naming it when it shows up (because sometimes just clocking it helps)
• Catching the “proof” thoughts and challenging them (“one good day doesn’t erase years of struggle”)
• Being kinder to yourself than you’d ever be to someone else
• Remembering ADHD is real, even when you’re functioning

We also have listener good, bad and ugly stories — and this week they’re imposter syndrome specials. They’re relatable, hilarious, painful, and basically proof that this isn’t just a “you” thing.

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New episode out now! 🎙️ This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, Adam is absolutely pumped on coffee and ready to go… and Donna brings the topic because lately Adam’s been dealing with a BIG one: imposter syndrome.

After a huge magic show at Craig Tara in Ayr (a proper dream venue for Adam), the excitement quickly turned into that familiar feeling of “Who do I think I am?” and “They’re going to realise I’m not good enough.” So… is it ADHD, is it imposter syndrome, or is it just life doing what life does best?

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https://youtu.be/abglweUxMys

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Episode Highlights:
- What is imposter syndrome really — and does it only show up at work, or can it creep into every part of life? (Could it literally be Adam’s middle name?)
- The Craig Tara magic gig: Adam books the show… then immediately thinks he’s not good enough. Excitement → instant regret → worry spiral.
- Working well under pressure… and also leaving everything to the last minute (because of course).
- Adam’s first instinct: spend a fortune on new tricks. Second instinct: leave practising until the last possible second. Classic.
- That horrible feeling that things are “never going to happen” or that you don’t deserve the good stuff when it finally does.
- Why imposter syndrome feels like torture: knowing something rationally, but not being able to feel it in the moment.
- Starting a new job, not feeling like you belong, feeling like you’re on trial, feeling like you’re about to be “found out.”
- Adam vs Donna: how it shows up differently, including Donna’s experiences when she was a singer.
- When does the feeling leave — is it imposter syndrome, or is it just nerves?
- Is imposter syndrome like a man in a dark cloak sat on your shoulder like a traitor, whispering nonsense into your ear?
- Interacting with peers but feeling like you’re not on the same level… and how it drains your confidence.
- Networking meetings, social awkwardness, and the fact none of it feels rational. If only you could pause life like a movie and have a word with yourself.
- Adam’s shocking confession: he gets imposter syndrome at the BARBERS. (Yes, really.) Do they judge him for having no hair? We unpack it.
- Ego states, putting yourself down, feeling inferior, and forgetting past wins like they never happened.
- Can you actually enjoy good experiences instead of feeling sick about them? Should we all just be kinder to ourselves?
- Strategies that actually help: name it, challenge the thoughts, and give yourself a proper confidence talk (even if it feels cringe).

**5 Minute Moans:**
- Why won’t Adam duet with Donna?
- And why doesn’t Donna care when Adam nearly dies? Did he faint? (You’ll have to listen…)

We wrap up with listeners’ good, bad and ugly stories — and honestly, they’re so good it’s pushed us into **Part 2 next week**: *Im

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ADHD or Life? – New Year’s Resolutions! (Happy New Year from Adam & Donna)

🎙️ Adam and Donna are back with the first episode of 2026, and we’re doing what everyone does this time of year… talking New Year’s resolutions (and whether any human on earth actually keeps them). But first: Christmas with ADHD, the build-up, and the shock twist of the season… no meltdowns. Who even are we?

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Episode Highlights:
- Christmas with ADHD: the build-up, the chaos potential… and somehow, weirdly, no meltdowns.
- The important question: who won Christmas?
- New Year chat, including Adam’s big magic show and the joy of that one perfect day where we had absolutely nothing to do (best feeling in the world).
- New Year, New Me: can anyone actually stick to resolutions, or is it just a January hobby?
- Podcast plans for 2026, plus Adam’s ongoing struggle to stay in contact with people (out of sight, out of mind… but with friends).
- The gym membership that’s basically a monthly donation
- Donna’s resolutions are surrounded by mystery (very on brand). Personal and health goals… but you’ll have to listen to find out.
- Christmas eating, and the dream of having a “caravan bag” ready for overnight stays at the drop of a hat.
- Strategies to actually keep resolutions, the classic stumbling blocks, and how ADHD can make it harder (or just… different).
- Hyperfocus, including hyperfocusing on the wrong things at exactly the wrong time.
- Work patterns, juggling, and Adam’s official limit: (spoiler alert: it’s 2).
- Couple dynamics: when reminders start sounding like nagging, and how to keep it kind.
- Donna’s “neuro-normal” take on resolutions — she used to run and wants to do it again. Does everyone fail… or do we just set ourselves up to?
- And finally: Adam gets VERY excited about vision boards and a new office that “must be completed today.” New office, new me.

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