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If Valentine’s Day makes you feel anxious, lonely, sad, or “behind” in life, this episode is for you.

In this honest and grounding conversation, Sam Morris shares why feeling triggered on February 14th is completely normal especially if you’re single, newly single, or healing from a toxic relationship.

This isn’t a “just love yourself” pep talk.

It’s a nervous-system-aware, reality-based guide to surviving Valentine’s Day without:

• Downloading dating apps in a panic
• Texting your ex
• Rushing into the wrong relationship
• Pretending you’re fine when you’re not

If you want healthy love one day, this episode will help you protect your peace today.

🎙 About the Host: Sam Morris

Sam Morris is a qualified healthy relationship practitioner and trauma-informed dating coach. She helps single men and women heal their nervous system, break toxic relationship patterns, and build the confidence required for aligned, healthy love.

She believes you cannot attract healthy love if you don’t already love yourself enough to walk away from unhealthy behaviour.

Why Valentine’s Day Feels So Hard (Even If You “Don’t Care” About It)

Valentine’s Day is the only holiday fully dedicated to romantic love — and it’s a multi-million-pound commercial machine designed to amplify it.

That constant messaging can create:

• Comparison
• Envy
• A sense of being “behind”
• Nervous system dysregulation
• Emotional triggers from past relationships

Your body may interpret “everyone else is in love and I’m not” as a threat — activating fight, flight, or freeze.

And here’s the truth:

Most of what you see online is a highlight reel.

People don’t post:

• The argument they had that morning
• The cheating they discovered the week before
• The fact they feel disconnected

Social media rarely reflects emotional reality.

If You’re Single on Valentine’s Day, Here’s What NOT To Do

Sam shares clear, practical boundaries to protect yourself:

❌ Don’t rush into a date just to avoid being alone
❌ Don’t text your ex (even if they text you)
❌ Don’t download dating apps out of panic
❌ Don’t scroll social media all day
❌ Don’t pretend you’re happy being single if you’re not

Suppressing feelings doesn’t make them disappear — it confuses your nervous system and slows healing.

What TO Do Instead

If you’re feeling vulnerable, here’s how to regulate and reclaim the day:

✔ Plan Valentine’s Day in advance — don’t leave it to chance
✔ Limit or delete social media for the weekend
✔ Buy yourself something meaningful
✔ Plan time with other single friends
✔ Attend a “Galentine’s” or local event
✔ Practice gratitude first thing in the morning
✔ Write a letter to your future partner
✔ Journal about what healthy love actually looks like for you

Being single on Valentine’s Day does not mean you’ve failed.

It might mean:

• You didn’t settle
• You left something unhealthy
• You’re doing the healing work
• You’re protecting your future

That’s strength.

Newly Single? This Is Important.

If this is your first Valentine’s Day after a breakup, it may feel especially painful.

That’s grief.

You’re grieving:

• What you hoped this year would look like
• The version of love you thought you had
• The future you imagined

Logic doesn’t override emotion.

Even if the relations

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Many people don’t struggle to find love: they struggle to recognise what healthy love actually feels like.

In this episode, I talk about a pattern I see again and again:
people confusing peace with boredom, and calm with lack of attraction.

If your nervous system is used to intensity, emotional highs, or unpredictability, calm can feel unfamiliar, even uncomfortable. And when that happens, many people unknowingly walk away from healthy, stable partners and chase relationships that recreate familiar chaos.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why calm often feels “wrong” after toxic or emotionally intense relationships
• The physical signs of peace vs boredom in the body
• How nervous system dysregulation shows up as “chemistry”
• Why boredom feels heavy and restless, while peace feels open and grounded
• How misreading your body keeps you stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles

I also explain why your body already knows the difference between peace and boredom, you just haven’t been taught how to listen to it yet.

Healthy love doesn’t come with constant intensity.
It comes with safety, steadiness, and ease.

And once you learn that language, your dating choices change.

Want personalised support?

If you’re ready to stop chasing anxiety and start choosing healthy love, take the Love Loop Quiz it gives you tailored guidance based on your patterns and nervous system.

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Just because someone is family doesn’t mean they get to treat you badly.

With recent headlines about famous families falling out — including Brooklyn Beckham many people are quietly asking the same question:

When to know if your family are getting in the way of your happiness?

What do you do when your own family keeps triggering you, but going no-contact isn’t realistic?

In this episode, I explore how to set boundaries with family without cutting everyone off, especially when family dynamics are dysregulating your nervous system and impacting your confidence, relationships, and dating life.

This is a topic that comes up again and again with my clients and it’s deeply personal for me too.

I share my own story of setting boundaries from a young age, not to seek sympathy, but to remind you of something important:

👉 If an 11-year-old can recognise mistreatment, you as an adult are allowed to protect yourself too.

In this episode, we cover:

• The 3 key signs your family dynamics are dysregulating your nervous system
• Why families often avoid accountability and how that affects you
• How your personal growth can threaten others
• Why familiar family pain can influence who you’re attracted to romantically
• How to reduce contact safely without going no contact
• Practical ways to keep conversations neutral and protect your energy
• How setting boundaries in family relationships helps you build healthier romantic relationships

This episode is for you if:

• You feel anxious, guilty, or emotionally drained after family interactions
• You’ve been told to tolerate behaviour “because they’re family”
• You’re healing, going to therapy, or working on yourself and getting mocked or dismissed
• You want healthy love but keep repeating familiar emotional patterns

Healthy relationships don’t start with dating.
They start with the relationships already shaping your nervous system.

Want support?

If you’d like help navigating boundaries, healing family patterns, and building healthy, aligned relationships, there’s a free call link here - where I’ll walk you through the exact process I use with my clients.

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.

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If you’ve ever set goals at the start of the year only to feel deflated, stuck, or frustrated by mid-January: this episode is for you.

In this solo episode, I (Sam Morris) walk you through a clear, practical process for setting goals that don’t rely on motivation or willpower, but instead work with your nervous system, your beliefs, and your real life.

This is the exact framework I use with my one-to-one clients, especially those who want to heal, build confidence, and finally experience healthy love.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why most New Year’s resolutions don’t work
• How to set one powerful goal without overwhelm
• Identifying the beliefs, fears, and patterns that block progress
• The skills and support you actually need to succeed
• How to schedule change so it becomes inevitable
• Why self-discipline matters more than motivation
• A guided visualisation to help your nervous system lock in the outcome

We also talk about why success leaves clues: from authors like J.K. Rowling to athletes like David Beckham and how consistency, not perfection, is what changes lives.

💗 Your Next Step

If you notice that you:

• Keep repeating the same relationship patterns
• Feel stuck choosing the “wrong” people
• Want healthy love but don’t know what you’re doing wrong

I’ve created a free Love Loop Quiz that shows you exactly what’s happening beneath the surface and how to change it.

👉 Use the link below to get instant access.

Love Loop quiz

This process works.
You don’t need more pressure.
You need the right steps, in the right order.

Your year isn’t just hopeful.
It’s already in motion.

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In this conversation, Sam Morris, an empowered dating coach, discusses the transformative power of gratitude and self-love in attracting healthy relationships. Shee emphasises that individuals attract what they are, not what they want, and introduces a 30-day gratitude challenge aimed at helping participants shift their mindset and energy.

Through daily practices of gratitude, participants can rewire their thoughts, enhance their self-worth, and ultimately attract the love and life they desire.

Takeaways

You can't manifest the love or life you want if focused on what's missing.
Gratitude is the bridge between your current self and your desired self.
You attract what you are, not what you want.
Practicing gratitude helps align you with abundance and love.
Self-love is essential for attracting healthy relationships.
The 30-day gratitude challenge can transform your mindset.
Feeling gratitude changes your energy and perspective.
Acknowledging what you are grateful for initiates rewiring of your thoughts.
The law of attraction states that positive energy attracts positive outcomes.
Real love shows up when you become love yourself.

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Gratitude in Manifestation
02:36 Understanding Self-Worth and Attracting Healthy Love
05:05 The 30-Day Gratitude Challenge: A Path to Transformation

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A little update on what's been going on a Sam Morris HQ

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In this episode of Whatever Happened to the Gentle Men, Sam Morris dives into one powerful question: What’s your actual strategy to heal?

Most people have a plan for everything: their career, fitness, and finances and yet when it comes to healing from heartbreak, rejection, or toxic relationships, they just “hope time will fix it.”

Spoiler alert: it won’t.

In this honest, practical conversation, Sam breaks down:

• Why emotional healing needs structure and intention
• The 3 pillars every healing strategy must include: awareness, rewiring, and integration
• Why “distraction” isn’t healing (and what to do instead)
• How to build a simple daily or weekly healing practice that actually changes your life
• The difference between having hope and having a plan

If you’ve been feeling stuck, numb, or repeating the same patterns in love, then this episode will help you create your own roadmap to emotional freedom before the year ends.

🎯 Listen now to learn:

• How to design your personal “Healing Strategy” for the last quarter of the year
• Why the nervous system holds the key to moving on
• Simple 3-minute daily actions that rewire old emotional patterns

✨ Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Love Card Deck
  – Daily activities for emotional healing
• 1:1 Coaching with Sam – Create your healing strategy and start building secure, healthy love

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