We are often taught that a "successful" child is a compliant one. We chase a 10/10 life, perfect grades, smooth transitions, and fitting into the societal box.

But for many parents, this pursuit of "perfection" is actually a layer of high-pressure expectation that ignores the unique nervous system of the child right in front of them.

In this episode, 3x Award-Winning Author and the Founder of Neuro-Affirmative Network- Hwee Peng Tan joins us to unlayer the radical shift from "fixing" to "connecting.

𝗧𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝘂𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱:

• Key insights from her Amazon Number 1 Bestselling book - How To Be A Neuro-affirmative Parent.

• Her unique journey from a successful corporate career in Singapore to becoming a full-time advocate for her son.

• The 4/10 Masterpiece: Why letting go of perfection in some areas creates the space for true excellence in neuro-divergent children.

• Why success starts with the environment you create, not the child's behaviour.

• Why emotional regulation is important for neuro-affirmative parenting

Parenting isn't about moulding a child into who the world wants them to be. It’s about peeling back the layers of our own expectations so we can finally see who they already are.

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𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗽𝘁𝗲𝗿𝘀

00:00 – Intro: Meet Hwee Peng Tan, Author of "How to be a Neuro-affirmative Parent." 03:15 – The Singapore Mindset: Unlearning the 10/10 "Perfect Score" culture.

06:40 – Moving to Australia: A corporate planner’s journey to radical acceptance.

10:12 – The Manual vs. Auto Metaphor: Why neurodivergent brains drive differently.

14:35 – What is Neuro-Affirmative? Shifting from the "Medical Model" to connection.

18:20 – The First "Mother": Why hearing one word is the ultimate success.

22:15 – The 4/10 Masterpiece: Why we need to stop chasing "8/10" in everything.

27:50 – Firefighting in Parenting: How to choose your #1 priority every day.

32:10 – The Environment vs. The Child: Why changing the room changes the behaviour.

38:45 – Dealing with "Black Magicians": Protecting your child from societal gossip.

43:20 – Exposing the Wound: Why boundaries are essential for emotional safety.

48:47 – The Unlayered Question: Letting go of the expectations of others.

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𝗘𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲𝘀

Guest

Hwee Peng Tan

Get Hwee’s award-winning book “𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗧𝗼 𝗕𝗲 𝗔 𝗡𝗲𝘂𝗿𝗼-𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁” (# 1 bestseller in Two Categories - " Parenting and Relationships" & "Child Care")

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Website: https://www.neuro-affirmativenetwork.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hwee-peng-tan/

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We are living in one of the most connected eras in human history, yet Australia is officially one of the loneliest countries in the world.

1 in 3 Australians report feeling lonely, and for the first time, it’s the younger generation (ages 15–24) who are suffering the most.

Arjun, the founder of Social Threads, joins the podcast to unlayer why digital connection is quietly making us feel more alone. We explore the "Social Connection Equation": 𝗜𝗻𝗰𝗹𝘂𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘁𝘆 + 𝗩𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆. Arjun shares the wisdom he gained from interviewing 150 strangers on the streets about how they made their last friend.

𝗧𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝘂𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱:

• Why a 5-second compliment can be the start of a lifelong village

• 𝗘𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗮𝗹: Practical ways to move from "digital safety" to "physical visibility."

• 𝟭𝟱𝟬 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿𝘀: What Arjun learned about how adults actually make friends.

• How language proficiency and seeking out "birds of a feather" can break the wall of isolation.

🔔 If this episode resonates, share it with a colleague or a friend and inspire them to make a friend in 2026.

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Guest

Arjun Bhugra

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If you feel stuck, go blank, or ramble in high-stakes moments, the problem isn't always your vocabulary; it's your body's survival mechanism.

We’ve been conditioned to believe communication is a purely linguistic skill, but what if the true barrier to flow is psychological safety and a dysregulated nervous system?

This week, we go beneath the surface with Sukhi, an Embodied English Coach, who is challenging the entire industry by teaching communication that starts with the heart, not the head.

We unlayer the uncomfortable truths and practical insights that will change how you view your own communication struggles:

• Why the concept of "fluency" is a vague, repeated goal that often serves as a form of self-sabotage, rooted in cultural bias

• Understanding why your ability to speak with flow is directly tied to your feeling of safety in the environment

• What physically happens in your body when you "go blank"?

• 𝗔𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗡𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗦𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗿𝘀: The systemic challenge—why the burden of communication is often unfairly placed on the migrant, and the role of the native speaker in creating psychologically safe spaces.

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Guest

Sukhi Bansal

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