We are often taught that a "successful" child is a compliant one. We chase a 10/10 life, perfect grades, smooth transitions, and fitting into the societal box.

But for many parents, this pursuit of "perfection" is actually a layer of high-pressure expectation that ignores the unique nervous system of the child right in front of them.

In this episode, 3x Award-Winning Author and the Founder of Neuro-Affirmative Network- Hwee Peng Tan joins us to unlayer the radical shift from "fixing" to "connecting.

𝗧𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝘂𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱:

• Key insights from her Amazon Number 1 Bestselling book - How To Be A Neuro-affirmative Parent.

• Her unique journey from a successful corporate career in Singapore to becoming a full-time advocate for her son.

• The 4/10 Masterpiece: Why letting go of perfection in some areas creates the space for true excellence in neuro-divergent children.

• Why success starts with the environment you create, not the child's behaviour.

• Why emotional regulation is important for neuro-affirmative parenting

Parenting isn't about moulding a child into who the world wants them to be. It’s about peeling back the layers of our own expectations so we can finally see who they already are.

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00:00 – Intro: Meet Hwee Peng Tan, Author of "How to be a Neuro-affirmative Parent." 03:15 – The Singapore Mindset: Unlearning the 10/10 "Perfect Score" culture.

06:40 – Moving to Australia: A corporate planner’s journey to radical acceptance.

10:12 – The Manual vs. Auto Metaphor: Why neurodivergent brains drive differently.

14:35 – What is Neuro-Affirmative? Shifting from the "Medical Model" to connection.

18:20 – The First "Mother": Why hearing one word is the ultimate success.

22:15 – The 4/10 Masterpiece: Why we need to stop chasing "8/10" in everything.

27:50 – Firefighting in Parenting: How to choose your #1 priority every day.

32:10 – The Environment vs. The Child: Why changing the room changes the behaviour.

38:45 – Dealing with "Black Magicians": Protecting your child from societal gossip.

43:20 – Exposing the Wound: Why boundaries are essential for emotional safety.

48:47 – The Unlayered Question: Letting go of the expectations of others.

#UnlayeredPodcast #Neurodiversity #AutismParenting #ADHDSupport #PositiveParenting #ParentingTruths #Unlearning #NeurodivergentKids #AuthenticParenting #RedefiningSuccess #SlowParenting #NeuroAffirmativeParenting #MindfulParenting #healing

𝗘𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲𝘀

Guest

Hwee Peng Tan

Get Hwee’s award-winning book “𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗧𝗼 𝗕𝗲 𝗔 𝗡𝗲𝘂𝗿𝗼-𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁” (# 1 bestseller in Two Categories - " Parenting and Relationships" & "Child Care")

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Website: https://www.neuro-affirmativenetwork.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hwee-peng-tan/

𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗣𝗮𝗻 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗿𝗮

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We are living in one of the most connected eras in human history, yet Australia is officially one of the loneliest countries in the world.

1 in 3 Australians report feeling lonely, and for the first time, it’s the younger generation (ages 15–24) who are suffering the most.

Arjun, the founder of Social Threads, joins the podcast to unlayer why digital connection is quietly making us feel more alone. We explore the "Social Connection Equation": 𝗜𝗻𝗰𝗹𝘂𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘁𝘆 + 𝗩𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆. Arjun shares the wisdom he gained from interviewing 150 strangers on the streets about how they made their last friend.

𝗧𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝘂𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱:

• Why a 5-second compliment can be the start of a lifelong village

• 𝗘𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗮𝗹: Practical ways to move from "digital safety" to "physical visibility."

• 𝟭𝟱𝟬 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿𝘀: What Arjun learned about how adults actually make friends.

• How language proficiency and seeking out "birds of a feather" can break the wall of isolation.

🔔 If this episode resonates, share it with a colleague or a friend and inspire them to make a friend in 2026.

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Arjun Bhugra

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If you feel stuck, go blank, or ramble in high-stakes moments, the problem isn't always your vocabulary; it's your body's survival mechanism.

We’ve been conditioned to believe communication is a purely linguistic skill, but what if the true barrier to flow is psychological safety and a dysregulated nervous system?

This week, we go beneath the surface with Sukhi, an Embodied English Coach, who is challenging the entire industry by teaching communication that starts with the heart, not the head.

We unlayer the uncomfortable truths and practical insights that will change how you view your own communication struggles:

• Why the concept of "fluency" is a vague, repeated goal that often serves as a form of self-sabotage, rooted in cultural bias

• Understanding why your ability to speak with flow is directly tied to your feeling of safety in the environment

• What physically happens in your body when you "go blank"?

• 𝗔𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗡𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗦𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗿𝘀: The systemic challenge—why the burden of communication is often unfairly placed on the migrant, and the role of the native speaker in creating psychologically safe spaces.

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Guest

Sukhi Bansal

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In this episode of Unlayered, Pan sits down with Mohit, an inspiring human who transformed his life by building an unshakable reading habit.

From working as a cleaner during the pandemic to reading over 126 books and interviewing hundreds of successful people, Mohit has decoded the psychology behind why we quit.

Topics explored:

• The "Motivation Trap": Why motivation is like spontaneous combustion, but discipline is "setting yourself on fire".

• How reading Man's Search for Meaning revealed the danger of tying self-worth to degrees and job titles.

• Why willpower fails and how to design a space that makes focus inevitable (and why you must hide your phone).

• The "Post-It" Hack: A simple technique to offload "brain clutter" and stop getting distracted while reading.

• Fiction vs. Non-Fiction: Mohit admits why he used to think fiction was "for losers" and why he was wrong.

• Dreams over Degrees: The powerful lesson on why credentials don't guarantee a future, but dreams do.

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Mohit Rau

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What if the very thing holding you back is actually your most powerful guide to personal growth and fulfilment?

In this powerful episode of Unlayered, Pan Perera sits down with Penny Locaso, a renowned behavioural scientist, Leadership Coach, and TEDx speaker, to challenge everything you thought you knew about fear.

𝗧𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗱:

• Reframing fear from an enemy to a powerful inner compass for growth.

• 𝗕𝗶𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 & 𝗣𝘀𝘆𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗙𝗲𝗮𝗿: Understanding the innate warning system vs. conditioned responses.

• Decoding fight, flight, freeze, and the often-overlooked 'fawning' (people-pleasing) threat response.

• "𝗟𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲 '𝘁' 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮𝘀": How seemingly minor childhood experiences create physiological imprints that shape our adult fears and beliefs.

• 𝗠𝗶𝗰𝗿𝗼 𝗕𝗿𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆: Practical, small steps to build vulnerability and overcome resistance.

• 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗼𝘅𝗶𝗰 𝗖𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗕𝘂𝘀𝘆: Why prioritising constant productivity fuels burnout and disconnects us from self-compassion.

• This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the invisible forces shaping their lives, embrace vulnerability, and courageously unlayer what's truly holding them back.

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𝗘𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲𝘀

Guest

Penny Locaso

Behavioural Scientist | Leadership Coach | Creator of the Intentional Adaptability® framework

🔗 Explore More from Penny Locaso:

🌐 Website: https://hackinghappy.co

💼 LinkedIn: / pennylocaso

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hackinghappyco/

Lead without losing yourself (Mini-guide) - https://hackinghappy.kartra.com/page/MvJ432

𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗣𝗮𝗻 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗿𝗮

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So many chase the dream of going abroad. Few talk about what happens after.

In this heartfelt conversation, Pan sits down with Srishti, a Gen Z migrant and aspiring psychologist, to explore the hidden emotional cost of migration, where ambition collides with identity, belonging, and digital disconnection.

𝗧𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗱:

• The Myth of Making It Abroad — how social media shapes unrealistic expectations of migrant life

• The psychology behind comparison, digital addiction, and the anxious Gen Z mind

• “Liminal identity” — the in-between space of two cultures, and finding peace with both

• Small steps to rebuild connection and confidence in a new country.

• Reframing “What if…” fears into “So what?” empowerment

• How awareness, reflection, and self-compassion can bridge the migrant’s inner gap.

  
  

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Guest

Srishti Bahl

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In a time of divisive headlines and anti-immigrant rallies, this question cuts to the very heart of a national conversation.

In this timely conversation, Pan sits down with Divesh Sareen, author, tech entrepreneur, TEDx speaker and a powerful voice for the migrant community.

Drawing on the ancestral echoes of the 1947 Partition and his own journey from Punjab to Australia with just $1000 in his pocket, Divesh unlayers the psychology behind the "us vs. them" mentality.

It's a deep dive into the nature of fear, the fierce determination of the migrant spirit, and a powerful reframe of what it means to be "Australian by choice."

𝗧𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗱:

• Unlayering the human fear behind the current immigration debate.

• The ancestral roots of resilience, passed down from survivors of the 1947 Partition.

• "Going to war with yourself": The immense internal battle of the migrant journey.

• Moving from feeling like you belong to "neither" country to forging a new, powerful identity.

• Shifting the narrative of the migrant experience, from being a "burden" to a "builder."

• Divesh's mission is to create platforms where migrants can own their stories and shape the future.

🔔 If this resonates, follow the show, leave a review, or share it with someone who needs to hear this necessary conversation.

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00:00 - Intro: The Unspoken Question - "Who is a Real Australian?"

02:26 - The Ancestral Echo: How the 1947 Partition Shaped a Worldview

08:41 - The "Chosen One": The Migrant's Burden and Purpose

14:18 - The Price of a Dream: Loneliness, Sacrifice & Early Days in Australia

22:04 - "Going to War with Yourself": The Mindset of a Migrant

24:29 - A Personal Crossroads: Challenging the Rules of Arranged Marriage

33:05 - THE DEEP DIVE: Unlayering the Human Fear Behind the Immigration Debate

44:22 - The Empowering Reframe: From Burden to Builder

48:03 - "After the WHY": The Next Layer of a Purpose-Driven Life

57:37 - Unlayering the Layers: Worthiness, Permission & Owning Your Story

01:04:56 - Who is a True Leader? (It's Not the Title)

01:08:37 - The Layer Divesh Has Unlearned About Giving Back

Episode Resources

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Guest

Divesh Sareen

Website: https://diveshsareen.me/

LinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/diveshsareen

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diveshsareen/

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How does a top career coach with over 78,000 followers on LinkedIn be open to failing 360 days a year?

In this deep and revealing conversation, Pan unlayers the man behind the brand, Varun Negandhi. He shares his journey from the streets of Mumbai, where he learned about "invisible scripts" around money and the relentless drive of a city that never sleeps, to becoming one of the most respected voices in the career development space.

𝗧𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗱:

• The spiritual practice of focusing on action, not the outcome (and how it keeps him grounded).

• The "invisible scripts" about money, wealth, and success he had to unlearn from his Mumbai upbringing.

• Internal Locus of Control: The mindset of "making things happen" vs. "things happen to me."

• The "Skydiving Mentality": How he made the brave leap to move to the US during a recession.

• Why he invested over $40,000 in his own education (and the ROI you can't measure).

• The two things missing from most job interview answers: specifics and structure.

• A vulnerable look at the daily uncertainty of entrepreneurship and how he pushes through.

  
  

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Guest

Varun Negandhi

Website: https://www.beyondgrad.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vnegandhi/

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