In this episode, we sit down with Ashley and Rob from United By Swing, a fully bisexual married couple creating community for bi men and mixed-orientation relationships in the lifestyle. We talk about the stigma bi men still face in sex-positive spaces, why many feel pressure to hide, and how fear, shame, and outdated masculinity myths can impact connection.

Ashley shares compassionate advice for partners who feel surprised when their husband opens up, including how to process your own emotions without turning his vulnerability into a crisis. We also explore the difference between fantasy and action, how to start these conversations safely, and why honesty often deepens intimacy instead of threatening the relationship. Rob and Ashley share some wonderful resources for bi-guys that you're gonna wanna check out!

You can find Rob and Ashley on Instagram at http://instagram.com/united_bi_swinging - follow them and give ‘em some love!

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Stay flirty...stay fun...and HOPEFULLY we'll see ya soon!

xoxo, bella & prescott

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In this episode, we start with a real message from a solo guy who found himself in a deeply confusing and stressful situation with a couple who kept using their “code word” to signal discomfort, while continuing play anyway. What unfolded highlights a dynamic that doesn’t get talked about enough in the lifestyle: couples privilege, and how it can unintentionally impact solo partners in real-time experiences.

From there, we move into how to raise your visibility and get more matches on ENM dating apps. We talk about what actually makes profiles stand out, how people assess safety and alignment while scrolling, and why communication and emotional awareness matter just as much as photos.

If you want more matches and smoother, more aligned connections, this episode offers practical takeaways you can use on ENM dating platforms.

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In this episode, the hosts discuss the importance of confidence and approachability in lifestyle events, sharing personal experiences and practical tips for navigating social interactions. They emphasize the significance of setting boundaries, especially when dealing with clingy couples, and provide strategies for polite disengagement. The conversation also highlights the unique dynamics of socializing in lifestyle clubs, including the often-overlooked connections made in restrooms. The episode concludes with a challenge for listeners to engage with new people at their next event.

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